Help. I need some real advice. Not the sugarcoated crap I'm getting from my friends. But real, legit, honest feedback.
I live in a small town in north Florida just moments from Alabama. While we have beautiful beaches there really is not much else going on. I have never wanted to settle here and I have always dreamed of living somewhere else, especially when I have kids. I certainly do not want to raise them here. I have dreams of moving closer to my two sisters who are my best friends.
My fiancé and I have been together for seven years and he refuses to move. While I understand his qualms I just wish he would be open minded. He does not want to move far away from his family but seriously…where I want to move is only a four hour drive! And he is totally freaked about the type of jobs available somewhere else. FYI he currently is uneducated and working for my father with no future career possibilities in our current town. I would like to move in four to six years from now. That’s plenty of time to figure things out, right? I love him but am I setting myself up for disaster six years down the road if neither of us is willing to budge?
Every time I try to bring up the idea of moving we get nowhere in the conversation. He is rational, calm, and extremely level headed when we talk about stressful things, such as the possibility of moving. I’m starting to worry that we will be fine until six years down the road when I’m ready to move away. I would never want to push him into moving and I would never want to just give in and settle here and then end up resenting each other for it later. I am just unsure of how to handle myself. I can’t imagine life without him and I can’t imagine settling and raising a family in this Flora-bama town.
Stuck in Pensacola.
You've pretty much answered your own question.
You say "I would never want to push him into moving and I would never want to just give in and settle here..." (Which, good. You should never give in.) So are you setting yourself up for disaster? YES.
Break up with the poor guy now. Why stay with him for another six years when you know you want different things out of life?
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