DEAR ESB: to sell or not to sell

JOY: it's almost been a year and it's still hanging in my closet..
i live in ny.. i don't have room for this.
and i'm a little old to have my mom store it for me..
and i know the longer I keep it the greater the chances of bf walking in to me wearing it, watching law & order, eating a tub of ice cream..
do daughters even wear their moms' dresses anymore? am i even going to have a kid? i'm moving, do i want to carry this up four flights of stairs? i won't wear the same dress when i marry my second husband (cough)...
thoughts?

ME: oopsy, am I too late with this one? did you already move??

JOY: No I can't decide.. Pre wedding that was my plan but then when bf first saw me during the big reveal he said 'gf you can't sell this' and I feel like I shouldn't.. You're 'not supposed to' right?! Haha

ME: I am a tremendous believer in the cleaning out of closets and the letting go of stuff. But if any little part of you wants to keep your wedding dress, I say keep the damn thing. Watch Law & Order in it. Why the hell not?

(Photo by Kimberly Craven)

brooklyn wedding full of JOY!

I hope you can forgive me the pun. I mean, just look at the photos from Joy and Michael's wedding. (Okayokay. H-town and my first anniversary is this Sunday, and I am turning into an enormous sap.)

Anyhoo, here are the details Joy sent me last night:

overall i have to say planning our wedding was so fun, i found great people and let them do their thing.. our venue, Smack Mellon Gallery, was perfect and set the tone... our caterer, Kaegan Welch couldn't have been more spot on- not to mention that he and all of his peeps that assisted were devastatingly good looking.. our photographer, Kim was so fun.. ended up hanging out with us for the afterparty- love her! and our DJ, Barlow came to the rescue at the last minute and rocked!

it ended up being more of a party that just happened to start with a ceremony.. no bouquets, no sit down dinner- we didn't even have tables and chairs! no toasts, no toss, no cutting, no wedding cake... our ceremony was short and sweet: we had our friend marry us, my brother played a rock n roll wedding march on his electric as i walked down the aisle, readings from sex & the city and juno, and the dj played MIA 'Swagga Like Us' for our big exit..




the party was cocktail style- we filled the room with wood benches, giant cozy ottomans, lavender and organic cotton plants.. our caterer passed food all night and set up various stations as the evening went on.. including a table for all of the King Crab my dad brought (he's a crab fisherman in AK).. for dessert we had several cakes (PBJ was the best) and a cheesecake bar!.. at one point my dad grabbed the mic and rocked his harmonica with a wedding blues song he wrote for us.. oh and can we talk about how god damned cute boyfriend's nephew is.. he was the mini-me-michael with the long ass hair!

boyfriend played a slideshow he had put together- he had spent weeks having all of my friends and random strangers give wedding wishes on a giant homemade speech bubble.. fn hilarious! (Editor's note: I love that Joy still calls Michael "boyfriend.")


we had around 50 wedding crashers show up for the last hour and head to the after party with us..





RAD.

(Photos by Kimberly Craven)

Sneak Peek: Crashed Wedding

This lady sent me a preview of her badass Brooklyn wedding. The one I was invited to crash, remember? Turns out we were all invited... Man do I wish I'd been there.

Anyhoo, more photos to come. Soon.

(This one's by Ezra Caldwell.)