Thursday, December 31, 2009
Please go directly to The Flashdance to download. And put it on tonight, wherever you are.
Happy New Year! I LOVE YOU GUYS!!
p.s. MA & crew have somehow neglected to use my rad artwork (vandalized photos by Lauren Dukoff via tobacco and leather and عبير*) but I trust you will print out the above image and tape it to your ipod or whatever.
I'll be honest with you, I was all ready to draft an f* this post....
So much pressure to plan the cocktails, find the right sparkly outfit, stop at every party, etc. You know what I'm saying? It's almost enough to make me stay home and watch Steel Magnolias on Oxygen. But we did that last night.
I'm gonna make a little confetti with my three-hole punch. A little gold confetti. Maybe that'll get me in the mood.
p.s. Enough already with Confetti System. I think they're cool too. WE ALL THINK THEY'RE COOL. They've been discovered, mkay?
Image via wish jar
Monday, December 28, 2009
I have been reading your blog b/c you are just so lovely. My friend Joy had linked to you during her stages of wedding planning.
Anyhow, so I'm writing because my sister JUST (as in, on Christmas Eve) got engaged! I got married 3 1/2 years ago and it was a wonderful experience, and I'm looking for some advice/tips on how to be the best bridesmaid, or rather, matron of honour, ever. What do I need to stay on top of? I've been a bridesmaid a couple of other times, but lived far away from both those brides so wasn't super involved. I'd love any help/assistance/advice you can give me!
Warm wishes to you from chilly Canada!
Mkay. I’m a little offended that you called me “lovely” when I really try to envision myself as badass. But since you are Canadian, I won’t hold it against you.
So. HOW TO BE THE BEST BRIDESMAID/MAID OF HONOR/MATRON OF HONOR EVER:
1. Let her vent. The groom will get bored with wedding planning. There will be entire days when he doesn’t want to talk about it. Also, as I learned when H-town and I were planning our wedding, if you complain about something to a man, he will try to fix it. Adorable, but not always helpful. Sometimes you just want to complain. So tell the bride to imagine that you have given her one of those red telephones. A direct line to you. And any time she needs to jabber or rant or cry she can call you.
2. Tell her the truth (90% of the time). If, for example, she is leaning toward a dress that is a) lame, b) not flattering or c) not her, for chrissake speak up! She needs to know she can rely on you for an honest opinion. But if you don’t get to see the dress until it’s bought and paid for, you love it. Obviously.
3. Whatever with the bridal shower…. Throw her an amazing bachelorette party. Mine involved bar-hopping in gold heels and a pink feather boa. Don’t tell anyone, but my girlfriends also made me wear a pink t-shirt that said “Buy Me A Shot, I’m Tying The Knot.” The NYC-single-girl-me would have been mortified, but the LA-about-to-be-married-me had the best time. Note: Skip the condom/penis veil. Come to think of it, don’t affix condoms or penises to any part of her body. Thx.
4. When the time comes, rip that to-do list out of her hands. This won’t be easy. She might cancel her mani/pedi so she can supervise the table set-up at the reception hall. Or you might catch her rearranging the flowers in the chapel when she’s already late for the m-effing portraits. But the more you know about what’s supposed to happen/what things are supposed to look like, the more you can help when it starts to get hairy.
Oh, and write your speech in advance. Cocktail hour won’t be any fun if you spend it locked in the ladies room scribbling on index cards.
(Photo by Brian Henry)
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Wishing you lots of bad HDTV and great movies, homemade truffles made by sweet ladies down the street, and the strength not to bite the heads off your family. Um. Did I say that out loud?
Time to sign off for a few days....
I miss you already.
Photo by my lady Christina Richards
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Jami Saunders (who is getting married in January you guys)* just sent over these photos from Erica and Riva's October wedding in Shelter Island.
I'm not sure I've ever seen one such smiley bride, let alone two. That last shot kills me. Srsly.
*Man does time fly.
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Ten Thousand Only has posted her last post.
She's been ramping down for a while.... Some wedding bloggers have the good sense to let it lie after the wedding is over. But still, her last post. I find this incredibly disconcerting. TTO was one of the ones who inspired me to start this blog, way back when she was unengaged and I was "toads clueless."*
Anyhoo, she left us with some pretty good advice that I can't resist reposting here:
i had to remind myself every now and then...what mattered to me, who mattered to me, and what the day itself meant to me. in the end, not everything made sense to everyone, but it absolutely made sense to me, to my husband, and to our loved ones.
and on the day of, we were fortunate enough to experience tender love, true joy, and hours of uninhibited dancing.
so this is me, wishing all of you the same and more during planning and on your wedding day.
and in life.
Image via Yimmy's Yayo
*"Toads" as in "tots" as in "totally" will forever belong to TTO. For those of us who are keeping track.
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Mkay. You guys may be aware that I'm b o r e d with phrases like "my dears," "eye candy," and "pop of color" (godhelpus) that get repeated ad nauseum all over the place.* I understand how it happens. We read a lot of the same blogs.** We repost photos. Why not recycle phrases too? Because. Make up your own.
On the other hand... There are a bunch of weird little words that I use. Where did I get them? Am I stealing them? For example, BWAHA, my new favorite twitter response to something funny. Where the f* did that come from?
I love obv. (Obv.) Pretty sure I started that one after I heard Episode 153 of Uhh Yeah Dude. (Download here, and skip ahead to 49:17 if you must.)
And then there's "lub," which is spreading like wildfire. But that one's Amanda's, just so you know.
Image via Yimmy's Yayo
*I suspect we can blame Joanna for starting the "my dears" trend. But Garance is not helping things any.
**Let's face it, we all read A CUP OF JO.
Saturday, December 19, 2009
Mock me if you must, but I think it happened somewhere between getting my hair cut on Fairfax and using an old credit (!) to buy two PERFECT presents at Buffalo Exchange on La Brea. Guess I ought to venture west more often.
Today I'll be cleaning house, roasting spiced pecans and attempting pomegranate champagne punch.* I'm more of a bourbon girl, as you know, but we've got a bottle of "California Champagne" languishing in the cupboard that was an anniversary gift from the Madonna Inn and I'm damned if I'm gonna let it go to waste.
(Image via fine little day)
*Unless anyone's got a better champagne punch recipe? I was planning to substitute organic vodka for the rum because a) organic = NO HANGOVER and b) what do I want with leftover rum?!
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Monday, December 14, 2009
And I swear I'm not just saying that because my wedding dress had an exposed zipper running down the front.
From the SS10 lookbook.
This custom job is pretty slammin too. I mean, if you're into ruffles.
p.s. Am I being an a*hole today? Please forgive, I just got back from a nightmarish trip to the dentist.
So i was just going through some of your old posts - I'm bored at work, and you always have rad pictures to entertain me - and I found this one.
To begin with, my answer is "no i never thought about it, which I think is why it stressed me out to the nth degree trying to plan a wedding in 6 months".
But my question to you is about how you say in that post "But I definitely saw a side of myself that startled me on occasion." and what that means. Because that is how i think of my wedding planning and especially the week before the wedding. I made some extremely stupid decisions and acted completely out of character. (I was a total bitch.) And now that it's all over and 9 months have passed I still feel pangs of guilt about how I behaved.
For example, I was so stressed and overwhelmed and frustrated that it reached the point where my mother didn't even talk to me on the day of the wedding until right before the ceremony. And 2 weeks after the wedding my best friend said "you're so lucky i fucking love you so fucking much, because you were a fucking nightmare".
Is this what you meant, or similar to what you went through? And if so did you feel guilty after it all and how did you resolve it? I'm not assuming you were as bad as me.
Don't get me wrong, i loved our wedding, and from the moment after I took my first step down the aisle everyone, including me, had a huge amount of fun (i have photos to prove it, including heaps of my mum with a massive grin on her face).
I just feel a little sad about how much of a shit i was.
I had more than a few moments I'm not proud of.
During the cocktail hour(s) I screamed WHAT ARE THOSE DOING HERE?! when I noticed that someone had "helpfully" brought bottles of water over from the rehearsal picnic and plopped them down on the bar. Obviously beverages were supposed to be drunk out of mason jars. (This was not the Speidi wedding, mkay?) A friend calmly stepped in and stashed the waters, though not before I tried to get behind the bar myself, nearly snagging my dress on a nearby bush.
I won't even go into the retarded fights H-town and I had during the planning phase.
But no, I didn't feel guilty about my behavior after the wedding was over. You shouldn't either. As a wise lady once told me, "Float it down the river of zen."
And maybe frame a photo of you and your mum from the wedding to give her as a christmas present. Preferably with one of those massive grins on her face.
Image from Ariana Page Russell's Skin series via me melodia
Thursday, December 10, 2009
So yeah, the gift guides running all over the blogosphere are starting to make me a little nauseous. And now I feel guilty about the materialistic shit I post all the time.
Inspired by Keri Smith, I thought I'd offer an anti-gift guide. Or, TEN THINGS TO DO INSTEAD OF SHOPPING:*
1. Mail a holiday card to one of your blog friends. Maybe the one who sent you a present that you never properly acknowledged? You have her address. Just saying.
2. Learn how to use the juicer. Because you can't let your husband do everything for you. At least not when he's out of town.
3. Watch 4 hours in a row of Tabatha's Salon Takeover. Later, discover an awesome (in the original sense of the word) arrangement of dusty cobwebs under your desk and wonder whether Tabatha would consider taking over your house.
4. Figure out where to donate your old coat.
5. Put on your new coat and go for a walk. Snap photos of weird graffiti with your phone and save them as wallpaper.
6. Apply bioré pore strips to your entire face. Cheaper than a facial, and so much more satisfying!
7. Blast Uhh Yeah Dude while "reorganizing" the kitchen cabinets. (Read: Secretly recycling your husband's massive jar collection. What is he saving those for??)
8. Make a super rad mix CD to give your best girlfriends. Hell, give it to some guys too.** Note: Old New York mags and Urban Outfitters catalogs would make excellent raw material for collaging the cover art.
9. Finish that book you started in August.
10. SLEEP. Sleep sleep sleep.
(You can find Keri's list here.)
*Alternate title: TEN THINGS TO DO WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS OUT OF TOWN
**I may or may not, in fact, be working on a "celebrity playlist" for The Flashdance. I'm still waiting for MA to figure out he's got me mixed up with someone else. Celebrity. Tee hee.
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
The bow tie trend seems to be kicking into high gear all of a sudden. Can't say that I mind.
Order directly from Pierrepont Hicks here.
Via all plaidout. Obv. Happy blog birthday, Max! Now will you please grow back your mustache?
I hate to be a bother, but I love the advice you give and frankly, I fucking love your cursing. :) Anyway, I am having serious issues picking a city for my wedding. I feel like I want to honor my future with my amazing man by having it in the city we wish to move to after I finish school, but at the same time I would like to honor my past/present by having a wedding here in California. My man and I are from California and both of our families are mostly here. I was born and raised in a suburb of Los Angeles and he was born in Los Angeles, grew up on the Central Coast and then moved to LA after he finished college.
The city we want to move to eventually is NYC, but with the economy the way it is, I can't exactly just keep flying out there in between working full time and going to school. I'm not like all these weddings I keep seeing on blogs where people have connections in every damn industry either. So this will require so much money by EVERYBODY (for me, fam/friends flying out, my parents, Todd,* etc.). My parents are amazing and I'm sure they'd make it work, but I'd hate to spend so much damn money of theirs. I just feel so sad that I wouldn't be able to have a wedding there though since Todd and I just love that city soooo much. The areas of California we are very interested in are the central coast with its beautiful valleys and of course it's where my Todd grew up and went to school and the other area we are interested in is a place we love going to visit: the area of California between Big Sur and Santa Cruz. I don't know if you're familiar with these areas of California, just trust me, they are both amazing. Bottom Line: We just love NYC and California is our heart and has so many places/climates to take advantage of that I just feel so stuck!
You probably think I'm a nutjob, but any help would be TOTALLY appreciated.
First of all, you are never a bother. That's what I'm here for.
But lady, you have answered your own question. Your heart is with California. I got married on the west coast of BC where I grew up part-time, and I have to tell you it was super cool to be surrounded with memories on the day. It also meant so much to my dad.
Plus it just doesn't make sense (money-wise or sanity-wise) to plan a NYC wedding when all of you live over here. Get married closer to home. Not only will your guests thank you, more of them will show up.
New York will always be there. Hello...honeymoon?
*All names have been changed to protect the innocent. Yeah I picked California names. It's my blog.
Polaroid by Jen Gotch
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
And shawl. Both made from Luminex, a fiber-optic fabric imported from Italy.
Alison Lewis describes the design process (and her collaboration with the bride) on Switch.
p.s. You might also like this LED wedding dress that can be converted to a lamp.
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Your wedding photographer will probably try to convince you to do two hours+ of portraits before the ceremony. He wants you to be able to go straight to the reception after the ceremony, but he also wants to capture the first moment you see each other in your wedding garb without any pesky wedding guests in the way. What you get is those incredibly stagy "first look" photos, where the bride and groom just end up looking like they're posing.
Come on. You're nervous. You're about to get married. And then you're supposed to turn and look at each other and be all lovestruck and amazed while pretending there's not a camera pointing at you?
You're robbing yourself of the (trust me) incredible moment of seeing each other for the first time at the altar. Or the arch or the stump or whatever. And you're robbing your guests of the joy of seeing you see each other for the first time.
For fuck's sake, please just take a little time to do portraits after the ceremony. They'll come out much better because you will be SMILING YOUR ASS OFF. You'll barely notice the camera. (Trust me.)
I have to give V, a non-engaged, non-blogger friend, some credit for inspiring this post. She went on a rant about first look photos at thanksgiving.
Image courtesy of My Parents Were Awesome
Saturday, December 5, 2009
I've been looking forward to Unique LA for months, and today I wasn't disappointed. Exhibit A: Baby Porcupine print by Sharon Montrose.
Seriously awesome. Visit her etsy shop to see the Baby Raccoon, the Otter, the Reindeer.... All of em. We didn't buy anything from Sharon, but I already regret not picking up a few sets of Hoofstock bookmarks to give as wee xmas presents. (And speaking of awesome: check out The Dog Photo Booth.)
Next up, the Perpetual Gardening Calendar from Krank Press.
We bought two. (Last year we gave Odd Birds of LA calendars as xmas presents and they were massive hits.) The proprietors of Krank could not be more laid-back, Silver Lake-y, and, well, uncranky. Even with a mass of people clumped at their booth.
But my very favorite...
Tie-died suede clutches and distressed leather flat zipped pouches by Tracey Tanner.
I already knew I loved Tracey Tanner's distressed leather. We ordered a bunch of zipped pouches from her in custom sizes and colors to give the ladies as wedding thank-you gifts (as well as wallets for the guys). But holy shit with the tie-dyed suede. H-town picked out a christmas present for me in secret at Tracey's booth. Wheeeeeeeeee!
Note: Tracey is a complete doll, and she gave us a discount for the bulk order back when we were wedding planning. She has also offered esb readers 25% off everything on her site until December 24. Use the code FBFALL09 at checkout.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
You have to check out today's inspiration board on snippet & ink.
a) I do love the pop-up wedding concept, even if I disapprove of a groom in a tuxedo t-shirt. (Did I say that already?)
b) The mustache. The real live mustache that is attached to his face.
c) I love a single blossom in a jar. Obv.
d) I was just thinking about leather clutches. More on that later.
#5 It's a gluten-free wedding! Macarons are gluten-free!
I'm pretty sure she did the board just for me.
(Photo courtesy of Grand Opening Gallery via New York Magazine)
I've been obsessed with this tie since I first caught a glimpse on all plaidout. It would make a subtler choice for a groom than an ironic tuxedo t-shirt, no? Not to mention a hella rad gift for groomsmen.
Email Mister Mort directly to inquire about orders (and peruse his blog for sartorialism with a sense of humor). Mr. Mort also does velvet bow ties in black, blue, purple and orange, but my heart is with the FUCKYOU. For obvious reasons.
Photos courtesy of Mister Mort (featuring The Trad, as it turns out) and all plaidout
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Remember when I was blathering about music and movies and projects last spring? This is my leading lady/muse Melia Renee on set for the short film I directed. (I know I know, it was a lot of blathering for a ten minute movie. Which is not even close to finished.)
Anyhoo, the day before we started shooting I freaked out and decided Melia's hair needed attention. My lady Alexis graciously cleared her schedule for us, very calmly deciphered my ramblings (I believe I said something about wanting to make Melia into "the new Winona Ryder") and gave Melia this slammin haircut.