Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Should the bridal party be UNIFORM?
Though my boyfriend and I are not engaged yet--we do plan on getting married soon, though--I'm looking at some ceremony deets. BF has several old friends (six or seven) who would definitely be groomsmen. I, on the other hand, have fewer close friends, many of them men, I would want to include.
How unusual is it to have uneven bridal/groom's parties? I would have four close friends but--how awful does this sound--could easily stretch it to five or six if I include some fam. I'd be happy including them but don't think it'd be fair to them if it's just for uniformity. I'm certainly not going to ask BF to cut down on his side; I know how important these fellas are to him (and me).
Two, I have four close friends, two of which are men. The feminist in me wants to make sure the ladies are rep'd, but the, well, the feminist in me doesn't want them rep'd just for the sake of it. I obviously don't feel like I should have to make many compromises on this, but a strong part of me feels weird having such uneven, underrepresented groups.
It's not a BOARDROOM, it's a wedding.
He asks his best friends, you ask your best friends. Boom. Done.
But wait til you're engaged, mkay?
Photo by Michal Pudelka for Atomica Mag via Claire Cottrell