Dear ESB,
Hopefully you can help me navigate this situation gracefully.
I got engaged 3 months ago to a dude I'm totally crazy about. What I'm not so crazy about is planning a wedding for 250+ guests (his family is huge and we "must" invite them all). Because I don't have a ton of money to spend and I don't want a traditional big white dress/cake wedding, we are really taking our time with any and all decisions--including place, date and wedding party (the first 2 remain undecided).
I spent a few weeks thinking about who I wanted in wedding party and asked my oldest and closest friend to be be MOH. She has always been little on the flaky side but really loves this kind of work and is soooo excited about helping me plan and being there for me on the day of. We see each other about once a month, usually after playing phone tag and rescheduling at least once.
So last night I finally got together with her and she starts telling me about all the ideas she has (none are my style) and that she's COLLECTING MASON JARS FOR ME AND ALREADY HAS 50+. This is so sweet of her, but the problem is I NEVER asked her for mason jars and just don't want them at my wedding. When she told me this I said "oh wow thanks," which was probably a mistake.
So what do I do now? How do I tell her what I had in mind was different without hurting her feelings?
IDK
*****
WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DON'T WANT MASON JARS
Just kidding.
Tell your MOH you don't want to be that couple.
Or, tell her exactly what you just told me: "That is so sweet of you, but I have something different in mind."
Madisyn Ritland by Ami Sioux for Jalouse Magazine via ban.do via Veera Häkkinen
