My best friend is getting married and she appointed me and her sister as maids of honor. The wedding was supposed to take place next Summer, which gave her and everyone involved plenty of time to save and plan, etc... She and her fiance have now decided to basically elope and get married at city hall with just very close family and friends invited. They will have a photographer, and will be holding a reception dinner at a low key, trendy place. The reason they decided to go this route is to save money and take a large amount of stress off of their shoulders. I love my best friend dearly and I absolutely adore her fiance and they are such an amazing couple. I want her to be happy no matter how she decides to tie the knot. Here's my dilemma...
The newly proposed wedding is in 8 weeks. I live clear across the country and cannot afford the hefty price tag of the flight. I have to eat and support myself! I could save up for it seeing as I have 8 weeks, but the flight will only get more expensive. My best friend said that they could try to work half of my flight into the budget, but me being who I am, told her that that wouldn't be necessary. It's important for me to be there for her and I really want to experience that day with them, but it's going to be so painful to my bank account. And I can't help but think that this day has lost some of its emotion involved, I mean, what's the rush? If they changed their minds once they could do it again potentially. And I'm using my last two vacation days which would allow me to be home for 3 days.
When I think about what she means to me and how much fun I know I will have, I am positive about the whole thing, and I don't care if I starve for two weeks. But when I think about it realistically, the money, the time, the fact that she doesn't really need me there anymore, it makes my decision impossible! Everyone that I have asked says that I should just tell her the truth, that I can't really afford it, and that it's a lot of money and effort to come home for just a few days. But my heart is telling me that I should go, and be there for my best friend no matter what.
What should I do?!
Dude, it's your BEST FRIEND?
That's what credit cards are for.
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