Friday, April 20, 2012
i want an engagement ring, and i want him to be happy about getting me an engagement ring
hey there esb,
so i've got a boyfriend and he's FANTASTIC. absolutely, super amazing.
and we're talking wedding things! and we're talking WELL about them, and i'm so happy about this!
we have different viewpoints on engagement rings.
"why do i have to spend 1000-2000 dollars on something that doesn't DO anything?" he keeps saying.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
it DOES DO something.
but....what does it do, actually?
i already know he's committed to me. i don't need a ring to tell me that.
then what am i missing? why is it that i want an engagement ring, and i want him to be happy about getting me an engagement ring, and i want him to have these old, traditional views of it like, "i get you a ring, you be my wife." why is it so hard to ask? WHY am i doing the asking?!
i've been through some pretty bad relationships, and i sure could use someone dropping 1k on me to prove they are committed to marrying me and not going to put me through the wringer with wedding-speak and then drop me like it's hot eventually.
we talk about it
and he kisses me and says "whatever you want, we will get it,"
but I KNOW he isn't thinking about engagement rings the same way i am.
he's thinking it's just a thing, another BS tradition he has to follow suit with and i'm thinking it's an example of commitment.
any words to help us bridge the gap?
burning ring of fire
Lady, if the ring is important to you, let him buy you a ring. HE ALREADY SAID HE WOULD.
But you can't make him be all stoked about it.