Monday, April 23, 2012
As the queen of straight talk, maybe you can help us out.
My brother and his girlfriend are both in university; they have been friends for years and in a serious relationship for two years, and at this point there is no doubt in either of their minds that they are going to get married. We spent their last visit strategizing about cheap wedding venues.
My sister just went and visited him sans girlfriend (girlfriend is in Boston, brother is in Montreal) and during the visit found out that he is not planning to propose. He said they've already talked about it and she said she didn't mind if he didn't. My sister and I both think that that's just what she said, but that she would still be thrilled with a proposal and a ring (obviously, if you love someone the proposal is a formality, but it's a very special and meaningful formality, as formalities go).
What do you think? They're not calling themselves engaged, even though they're already planning the wedding, so how do you make the transition from boyfriend/girlfriend to engaged couple if not via a proposal?
I think you should mind your own beeswax.
Photo: Arthur Elgort