I am in need of the frank, no-minced-words kind of advice that only you can provide.
My boyfriend and I are in that "pre-engaged" (I kind of hate that that's a thing, but it does ring true) state where we both know we are going to get married, but we are waiting. We do have a definite timeframe for when we would like to get married, a couple years from now, because of some other life commitments we'd like to finish first, such as our new jobs in different cities (we're now long-distance) and grad school.
So...on to my (possibly insane) question. I've got a pretty specific idea of what I want in a wedding dress. I've also realized, from the times I've let my inner girly-girl get ahold of me, that the dresses I've been able to find that meet my criteria are Stupid. Expensive. I happened to find a dress the other day that fits what I want, is at a good price point, and is currently on final sale. And only available in my size. (Actually, it's about one size up from my normal size, but that's good.)
I am tempted to buy this dress. Now. Even though I am not engaged and won't be for probably another year or so. I know the wedding is coming, and I'm not superstitious (although I think I might feel a bit lame about jumping the gun on wedding planning....kind of like if I were to try to force a friendship with a girl I admire just so that one day she could be my maid of honor.) The dress is sized appropriately for alterations that may be needed later, and even if I don't like the dress a couple years from now, I'm sure I could sell it. My mom would probably be sad that I already picked something out, but wedding dress shopping (especially with my dear, sweet mother with whom I can never agree on clothing) sounds like it might be awful to me.
My biggest hold up is that I think it just might be lame to start ACTUALLY going forth with wedding plans at this point. Sure, the BF and I talk about who we'd like our attendants to be, what month would be best, and we mentally file away a cool location when we come across one...but I don't even have a ring yet, shouldn't that be the first step?
Do I snag the deal and totally rock the shit out of a dress I love even if it was a little premature, or do I realize that this is crazypants and just wait my turn and hope I can find something perfect and affordable down the road?
– Got "The One," Don't Want to Let the "Other One" Get Away
DON'T DO IT.
You might get bigger. You might get smaller. You might elope!
You might get married on the beach.
You might break up.
You might wait five years during which time the damn dress will go out of style. (There is no such thing as timeless. Trust me.)
p.s. How did you just "happen" to find this dress anyway? STOP SHOPPING FOR WEDDING DRESSES.