I have this friend who I have known over a decade. He and I have had a strange, and maybe strained, friendship for awhile now. We worked on a few projects together. He and I have really different management styles, and we often got frustrated with each other. Then he quit the project to do another, better job.
I recently found out he’s blocked me on a bunch of social media platforms. He also didn’t invite me to his birthday party (which I’ve been invited to for the past few years), and some other things our mutual friends were invited to. This is all something I probably wouldn’t have noticed, at least for awhile, except that we do have the same friends. I’m sort of taken aback, and my feelings are strangely hurt, even though these seem like immature, highschoolish things to be hurt over. Especially since we are both in our 30s. There was never a big blow out; I had actually thought things were fine, and would get better once we weren’t working together.
So, here’s the thing. He and his wife (who I like very much, but rarely see) are on our guest list, and they received the Save the Date two months ago. Do I still go ahead and send them a formal invitation? I feel like that’s the adult, civilized thing to do.
But the immature part of me feels like, since he’s stopped inviting me to his parties, I shouldn’t invite him to my party. Oof. Put some adult sense into me, please.
- A child
Be the bigger man. Send an invite to the f*cker.
Maybe you'll get lucky and his wife will show without him.
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