so i have this childhood friend, the height of our friendship occurring around the middle school years. myself and said friend have made paltry efforts over the years to stay in touch, mostly for the sake of nostalgia. there have been occasional meet ups when we both go to our hometown for christmas, and scant fb messages. she actually really insulted me a few years ago by asking if i'd even finished college. (sidenote: i work in photo production and have an art degree...she is in med school...big whoop.)
so! i get a save-the-date from her the last week in january, followed up with an invitation earlier this week, urging respondents to do so by march 15th. the wedding is early june.
my initial thought was yes! i'd love to go to this wedding!! if at worst, it will be in a city i've never explored and could be fun for me and the bf. so i dropped her a lengthy catch-up email...because really? we haven't spoken in over two years, and wouldn't that just be kind of awkward if i attended without reestablishing that line of communication? it was peppered with congratulations and what are you up tos? complete good intentions.
since then (this was three weeks ago), radio silence.
i reply to my original email last night asking if her relic of an aol account was still active, and if so...no pressure on replying as i'm sure she's crazy busy becoming a doctor and planning for a wedding. i get a reply this morning stating "yes, i still check this account, but i'm not too good at replying to emails." and THAT'S IT! i then replied that it was no biggie...when you get a chance drop me a line. looking forward...blah blah. the polite way to handle things...
i don't know which i'm more annoyed with, the accelerated schedule at which her wedding is happening, and the oh-so-gauche fact that she's registered at jc penney and sears (gasp!), or the fact that homegirl can't even articulate a few effin' sentences to satiate my desire to reconnect on some level before I shell out $400+ bucks to go to her crappy wedding.
kind of feeling like staying put in nyc that weekend, on principal alone.
am i reading into things too much?
--a stickler for email manners
I sure as hell wouldn't go to her wedding.
(Although, I'm confused. You'd prefer she registered somewhere more expensive?)
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