Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Should I drag my boyfriend to this wedding?
This is less a help-me-find-a-dress scenario and more of an couples etiquette question...and not even one from a bride, at that.
I'm going to be a bridesmaid for a high school friend - love her dearly, very stoked to be involved, all the standard stuff. We both left town after high school, and she now lives several hours away. We were close in school and are still friends, but we tend to see each other only a few times a year, and they're generally whirlwind one-on-one girlfriend catch-up sessions. Her wedding is going to be held in our hometown, and it's possible I'll only a know a few people there; since they live far away, I don't really know her current friends or fiance that well, but she's a cool lady so I want to stand up for her.
I want my boyfriend of a year to be my plus-one, because he's awesome, but he's making faces. I can't guarantee that I'm going to know anyone else there, so the likelihood that he'll know anyone is going to be mighty slim. We're not going to be sitting together at the dinner or the ceremony. But my heart wants him there! I want to dance with him, and do shots with him, and generally include him in what should be a great party.
This is my first time being a b-maid, so I'm not sure how hectic my day is going to be and how often our paths will cross. What's the SOP/your advice? Do I go stag that night and just hope I know other people to chill with? Or can I try to get him to come out, even though it's not going to be 100% funsies for him?
Is B-Maid A "Thing"?
Here's what our boy Rob had to say:
This shouldn't be a question. He goes, it's his job as a boyfriend, does his best to have fun, meets people, and LEARNS ABOUT YOUR HOMETOWN. If he isn't remotely curious about where you came from, ask yourself if he is boyfriend material.
Rob S. Parham
-One Percent for Space-
I have two things to add:
1. Why the fuck don't you get to sit together at dinner??
2. Believe it or not, BM is a thing. But I would never subject you to that.
Photo: Kinga Rajzak & Daga Ziober by Boo George for T Style Spring 2012 via Fashion Copius