Friday, March 9, 2012

pls help me find a wedding band and stuff


I have a wonderful loving fiance who loves me enough to go shopping on his own and pick out a ring that he knew I would love... did I mention on his own?  However, had I been involved in the choosing process I would have gone a little more Conroy and Wilcox.

I have attached a photo of the ring. (Pardon the artist hands)

That said, I have been scouring the interwebz  looking for an awesome band to make my set more me. I have found some interesting gold bands as well as some other interesting rings including this Mociun ring which I have been leaning towards... but it is a little pricier than I would like.

The question I have for you is do you know of any awesome bands or designers I could wear with this super classic yellow gold solitaire to make the set more unique?

ALSO, My mother and sister and I are coming in to the city to go dress shopping on the 10th of March, I have plenty of appointments including Lovely, but do you have any good suggestions for boutiques that I may have missed?

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Let me let you in on a little secret from the other side: after you're married, you don't have to wear your engagement ring every day.

I get so many emails from you guys stressing out about finding a band to match the engagement ring you didn't even always get to pick out yourself. DON'T SWEAT IT SO HARD.



Anyhoo.

Here are a few less-pricey-than-the-Mociun rings I'm feeling for you.

(Conroy & Wilcox at Metier)






As for wedding boutiques, would you please please please PRETTY PLEASE go check out Stone Fox Bride?

We need a report from the front.

Photo: Stone Fox Bride + Fox Fodder Farm by Josie Miner, styling by Jaclyn Hodes

25 comments:

  1. I still wear my engagement ring almost every day, but that's just 'cause I love it so much and it makes me feel fancy. However, my wedding band does not match it. I wear them together in a messy stack, and I think it looks great. They don't gots to match. Just get something you like. You do have to wear it forever, after all.

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    1. Yep! Same here. Mine do not match, and I could care less. I wear them both every day.

      I love the rings over at Erica Weiner. They all seem to have a story. Like this band. Good luck! xo.

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    2. Mine don't match, either, but it bothers me. I'm going to get my engagement ring resized to fit my right hand. At some point...when I'm not so lazy.

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  2. this could make a cool wedding band.

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  3. I was in the same sitch, the boyf got me a lovely solitaire in white gold (super classic / classy) that I love, but I wanted my wedding band to be a little different. Decided to go with this Mocium ring. It's a little smaller / cheaper alternative to the triangle one you posted.

    I also REALLY love the one that Lindsay posted.

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  4. I just purchased that Satomi Kawakita Starry Night band to go with my classic solitaire engagement ring and I love it so so much! It doesn't match exactly but it still looks great. And it's special and unique without being over the top.

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  5. Seconding ESB's comment about not wearing the engagement ring every day. My partner got me a beautiful antique sapphire ring with loads of filigree and character, but it definitely wouldn't hold up to day-in, day-out life. So I wear it on special occasions, or when i feel like being extra fancy.

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  6. I got nothing on the ring situation, but Lovely was wonderful, and I had a great time there. I also liked Gabriella's in the meat packing district and thought they had good options at different price points.

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  7. I personally don't really like my engagement ring. But, my H really doesn't like it when I don't wear it (I mean he did spend a lot of time and money choosing it). How did you all transition to just the wedding band? Maybe I'll just wait a while and ask for/get a new ring.

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  8. my husband also bought me a vintage solitaire gold ring that i love but is a little audacious (for me! because i basically weave my jewelry out of trash i find in my apartment) for every day wear. instead i wear a rose gold band (r. gold looks fab with the gold) stacked with a rose gold and teensy yellow diamond eternity band, both from the clay pot in brooklyn. the diamond one was kamofie. together they were under fifteen hundred bucks and much more me than the sparkly super star. also, you should note that gold has really fallen in price this week so if you're looking for anything gold keep your eye on the market. it definitely affects pricing!

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  9. I was in the same situation as well! I love my ring because it is from him and I love that it was a surprise but it's a pretty basic white gold solitaire and not really "me". He was so proud though and I know he spent a lot of time and money on it!

    Anyway I had envisioned a vintagey ring so I got a reproduction art deco carved band made by a local jeweler and it doesn't match perfectly but they coordinate. I wear both because it turns out I do like the sparkle of my little diamond. I figure I will just explicitly hint about other wackier rings for anniversaries, ha ha. Congrats to you!

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  10. I'm a klutz so I knew I was going to stop wearing my vintage engagement ring once we got married. The ring and I are both much safer that way. It was liberating as soon as I figured out that the band didn't need to match or even compliment my engagement ring. They are both totally different styles, even different metals (platinum versus rose gold). When I wear my engagement ring it fits on my right hand.
    Plus, if you pick a very different band you can talk to the jeweler about putting your stone in one of his/her settings at some point.

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  11. I wear my wedding band on my left hand, and my engagement ring on my right.I looove my engagement ring (it's Satomi Kawakita) but I prefer it on its own, without the wedding band.

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  12. That catbird ring is so sweet

    Turquoise Band idea

    I'm in the same boat, my engagement ring is a big rectangle and would be really hard to fit to a wedding band so I'm gonna go with the right hand situation.

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  13. I wear my engagement ring every day, but that's because I decided to forego a wedding band. On the day of my wedding, my engagement ring magically morphed into my wedding ring.

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  14. I'm not sure if its the article or Molly Guy of Stone Fox Bride - but that place [and her] seem so belligerently hipster, I think I might vomit my roof garden greens in a light dill dressing all over those raw silk dresses if I ever went in there.

    Let me just say to Molly and her "oh, I'm so freakin' cool I met my husband with dirty hair and he fell madly in love with me like of course" - BITCH PLEASE.

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    1. You are just the girl I need to write a review.

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    2. Yeah there's something kinda "I'm trying too hard to be hipster" going on about that whole situation. I'm going to coin the term "fauxster."

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  15. I like the idea of turquoise with this bride's ring b/c it'd really stand out as different

    However, I love all the rings suggested here. Good luck and congratulations!

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  16. As Stone Fox Bride's first ever wedding dress pickup (picked up my dress yesterday), I may be THE world's authority on the Stone Fox experience.

    City Hall ceremony in NY, followed by reception BBQ in Melbourne (we're aussie kids livin' in brooklyn), I was desperately avoiding the wedding boutique experience, and other than one Lovely appointment just for 'fun' (ugh), managed to do so. I was freaking out though. Had been crossing all my fingers and toes that the spring RTW collections would have a few little white dresses (3.1 Phillip Lim, Derek Lam, Tibi etc) to meet my desire to buy something I feel like myself wearing, WOULD wear again and love for a long time, so when I heard Stone Fox were finally opening the doors, I cruised in on opening week with no real expectations.

    It was instant calm in there; dreamy 70's soundtrack, soft and relaxed vibe. The boutique is gorgeous, I'm sure you've all seen the pics so i won't rattle on about it. But it's the dress selection that almost brought me to tears with relief. HERE they were, all these amazing unique dresses, available in a variety of customizable colors & options, all of which I would wear a million times over. I was now spoilt for choice. Rush orders were not a problem (there was an additional charge of course), which was important as my turn around time was only 4 weeks.

    My dreamy dress was by no means cheap, but is so amazing that I am wearing it for both Melbz and NYC events, as it's convertible. It will also serve me well for swanning around the pool on our honeymoon. ABSOLUTE FUCKING WIN.

    I didn't need the additional services - which I am sure are lovely and probably far too extravagant for most ordinary brides - nor were they pushed to me. Instead, I got precisely what I needed; a unique dress without stress, pressure or froth.

    Our City Hall ceremony is next week; let the whirlwind adventure begin.

    -- KT --

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  17. my husband got me this one - i love it!

    http://www.etsy.com/listing/68442644/14k-yellow-white-and-rose-gold-4

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  18. It sounds like there are two issues: 1. style, and 2. navigating sensitive relationship territory.

    Style-wise, you may also want to consider the SHAPE of the wedding band. The classic solitaire that you have is much taller than most of the Conroy & Wilcox rings that you reference. With your "artist hands," you may find that the high profile of the ring catches on stuff, or gets in the way when you're putting your hands in your pockets or whatever. So you might want a wedding band (or bands) that are a little higher volume, to meet the solitaire and help you avoid catching it on everything.

    Relationship-wise, what about selecting a wedding band that's more "you" and then bringing the two rings to a jeweler to solder them together, or engrave them, or whatever? At that point, you could easily have the setting changed from a prong setting to a bezel setting, with minimal opportunity for hurt feelings.

    I actually think it's really important to talk about this stuff (even if you carefully plan the discussion so as not to hurt his feelings), because it's NOT GOOD to start a lifetime relationship avoiding talking about something as small as a little rock and a chunk of metal. You're going to have to talk about a lot of serious shit over the course of your marriage, and it would be really great if you could start out talking honestly (and with sensitivity) about what works for you, in terms of aesthetics and practicality (and frankly, about the image that you want to present to others).

    GOOD LUCK!!

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    1. Great advice! the soon to be fiance has been having little mini-overwhelmed attacks whenever we discuss small wedding plans and affordable ring things to which I always say "not talking about it isn't going to make your feelings or the issue go away."

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