Tuesday, March 13, 2012
I've got somewhat of an issue that I would really appreciate your no-nonsense approach to: my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 1/2 years now and we both realize we're perfect for one another (despite neither of us believing in "soul mates"). We've been talking about getting engaged for a while now but monetary restrictions were an interference until about last month (hooray raises!).
However, 2012 seems to be the year that ALL of our close friends decided to get married. You see, we've been invited to 15 weddings this year, so far, and it's only March. We've agreed we will be going to 9 of those, with 6 weddings being of very best friends which we're actually part of the wedding party. 2 of the others are in town (minimal cost) and 1 is out of town for a very close friend who my boyfriend would be a groomsman for if the groom didn't already have 6 brothers...
While the idea of 5 in-state weddings, 4 out of state weddings and 5 out of state bachelor/bachelorette parties would make anyone cringe, that's not the problem I have. The real issue is our own engagement and wedding. And we're planning a wedding in the spring/early summer of next year!
I love my boyfriend and can't wait to marry him; we have so much fun together! I feel like it is a very honest, mature relationship which is a blessing in itself. However, after all these other weddings, I'm left feeling exhausted. Feel free to tell me I'm being petty, however it's hard to look forward to my own wedding when I feel so overwhelmed by all the others.
I truly am excited for our friends to be able to go through this special time in their lives, but the thought of our own engagement and wedding feels somewhat trumped by all the many other ones going on right now. Although I'm sure the financial obligations associated with this year aren't helping, we're more than capable to afford these events or we wouldn't have said yes in the first place.
I just need some guidance on how to look forward to our own special time despite feeling burned out by everyone else's.
I appreciate any thoughts/suggestions/wake-the-F-up insight you could give.
-Just Wait Until They Get Pregnant
ps. we're going ring shopping together this weekend
Maybe you and your boyfriend should establish some sort of rating system for food, decor, guest attire, bride's shoes, fit of the groom's suit, etc. (Sort of like that bad show but better.)
Then you can entertain yourselves by filling out score cards at each wedding.
Siri Tollerod by Suzie Q + Leo Siboni for Exhibition #2 via Fashion Gone Rogue