We're a month away from our wedding and just now having some parent-issues.
My fiance has been on the outs with his parents/family for the better part of a few years. They've never really been happy with the fact that he's been with me, simply for the fact as I am not Jewish and he is (non-practicing, he really could care less about it). The one time we've met, they were really cold and pretended that I wasn't there. Nice, right? They were indifferent when he told them we were engaged as well and he hasn't really wanted to talk to them since.
Now that we're so close to the wedding, they want in. They want to go to the wedding to support him because they love him, even though they would've preferred a Jewish girl and that it's "bad enough" he's marrying outside of the faith, but they're "willing to put it aside." That's really the only reason.
I've really refrained from going batshit and telling him that I hate the whole lot of them for being such assholes because I don't want to put him in a position where he can't feel like he can talk openly about them and I always want him to be able to talk to me if he's feeling like shit. He now basically has asked me if I want them there. I don't want to be the one making this decision, but I also don't really want these people at our wedding.
P.S. I am not planning on converting, as the both of us are pretty agnostic in our beliefs.
You won. He's marrying you. Now you get to be the bigger person.
They're his PARENTS for fuck's sake. YES, YOU WANT THEM THERE.
Hyoni Kang by Lincoln Pilcher for Vogue China via Fashion Gone Rogue