Friday, March 4, 2011

If I were to get married now...................


from Lauren of kidchamp dot net

our wedding was an ice core, with bits of sediment and atmosphere from each of our lives' layers. i proposed to joe in college and bought my dress immediately (off the rack at south coast plaza, but that's another story); it sat in my mother's closet for six years, waiting for us to be ready to be married. my grandfather knew he would be too sick to come abroad with us, so he gave me the heavy coins he'd saved from his final trip to england; i carried them in my jacket pocket after the ceremony so that i could buy myself a pint from him, as he'd instructed, on my wedding day (i wore the shoes i'd found when i went home to california for his funeral). our people read shakespeare for when we ditched class to fall in love in stratford upon avon, rilke for our turbulent early twenties, and wallace stevens for the miraculous stillness in Finally Getting Our Shit Together. how could any other wedding be ours?

i'm hugely change-averse, but i'm also a greedy little maximalist. i wouldn't edit the wedding we had, but i'll happily pile all kinds of things on top; call it a second wedding, if you like. "i have bad news," i tell joe in the morning. "i love you more today than i did yesterday." i'd buy myself two pints this time.


piled on top:

- a comme des garçons collage dress. comme des garçons pieces make me feel like dancing with everyone i've ever met.

- a rick owens boiled-wool jacket. i wore a grey denim motorcycle jacket over my wedding dress the first time; "we'd have cued up madonna on the jukebox if we'd known," said the delighted bartender at the turf.

- stella mccartney faux patent heels. i've upped my vegetarian game lately and have stopped buying leather.

- the grey shih messenger bag i've carried nearly every day for the last four years. one's wedding day is not the one on which to mess around with a bag which can't hold anything. (i'd also bring my camera.)

- an omega seamaster, because that's what james bond wears.

as for extra intangibles, i'd add a fourth reading for our ceremony: a letter from felix gonzalez-torres to ross laycock.


(Visit kidchamp's Polyvore set for complete photo credits. And catch up with the rest of the "If I were to get married now..................." series here.)

18 comments:

  1. Shit, I've seen your wedding and wouldn't change anything if I were you either! I love the piece of your grandfather that you carried with you! Sooo sweet.

    Oh and Rick+Rei? How could you go wrong?!

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  2. So beautiful, in fact, that I momentarily lost my internal spellcheck, and had to look up how to spell beautiful.

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  3. I knew you'd bring Rick to the party. I hunted for him there. "i have bad news," i tell joe in the morning. "i love you more today than i did yesterday." i'd buy myself two pints this time." That's it, I'm going home now.

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  4. Gah, Lauren. Leave it to you. I can't even focus on the imaginary wedding since the first one is perfect.

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  5. this is very sweet. btw, i love that jacket.

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  6. would love to know what the other three readings were. that letter is perfect!

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  7. you guys are so nice to me. anon, we read shakespeare's sonnet 116, rilke from on love & other difficulties..., and stevens's final soliloquy of the interior paramour.

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  8. lauren didn't even mention the AMAZINGLY AWESOME flower arrangements at her wedding. seriously. rather than carnivorous plants, they looked as though the entire arrangement might be a big carnivorous plant-create. (except would a vegetarian really have carnivorous plants in her wedding flowers? i suppose not)

    the picture doesn't do it justice, but it's the best record i have.

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  9. er, that was supposed to be "plant-creation", not "plant create".

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  10. The wedding story sounds perfect. The excerpt about the Grandfather is so touching and sweet, I loved it <3

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  11. It's the heavy coins that get me.

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  12. We are bag sisters. The mere thought of running around for a whole day without my bag of odds and ends terrifies me. My current bag is perhaps a bit enormous for a wedding, but I must have something and a clutch will not do.

    Also, love the jacket.

    And the rest of it.

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  13. @jamie yeah, we thought we'd be distracted if we took pics of each other (and SELF PORTRAITS), but i regret that we didn't.

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  14. what a sweet letter. love the ideas!

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