My boyfriend and I got engaged last week, and it occurred to us that, despite our six years of dating, our parents have never really met each other. My dad met his mom once when they were both at a performance of mine, but that's been it. I know it's *technically* the groom's parents' "job" to contact the bride's, but our family situations are complicated (though not unusual) and I don't know what to do.
My kinda shy, socially awkward parents have been divorced for over 20 years and are pretty chill with each other now. My dad's been remarried over 15 years to a lively, dynamic lady who really doesn't like my mom all that much. His also kinda shy, socially awkward parents divorced last year and aren't really on speaking terms, other than when they have to discuss legal things (for themselves, and for my guy's hooligan little brother who got himself arrested this past weekend).
I know they should get to know each other, I know they WANT to get to know each other (my dad has uneasily mentioned "getting to know the in-laws"), but I'm at a loss for how to make that happen. I don't want to put the burden on his already over-stressed parents to figure it out, and I don't want to force a circus of various coffee dates or dinner parties where we all sit around staring at our laps after "I'm retired and do IT for our church" ceases to be an interesting topic.
Inherited Social Awkwardness in Chi City.
In 2012, all the rules about whose job it is to contact who and who is supposed to pay for what are OUT THE WINDOW.
Throw yourselves an engagement party!
A room full of friends holding cocktails will take the pressure off your poor socially awkward parents.
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