Monday, February 20, 2012
how do i ask the parents to put the baby in a baby cage thingy so it won't ruin my wedding?
i need some help, and also perhaps need to grow a set.
our wedding is in Sept this year. it's a casual family thing so understandably the only baby/person under the age of 25 (my hubby-to-be's niece) in the whole of both mine and my finance's family is coming. however i had just assumed that since we were hiring a whole house for the wedding they would just bring a playpen thingy and put the baby (as she is a baby, she will be 12mths at the wedding) inside the house for 15 minutes while we tie the knot. i don't have a baby so i know all the mothers that read this will be up in arms, furious that i would suggest such a thing, but maybe they could imagine it was their wedding. After the ceremony i'm happy for them to parade her and everyone can coo about how cute she is and all that shit.
Since we started planning the wedding the mum has made multiple comments regarding the baby being a flower girl. two issues - I'm not having bridesmaids so noone to help her down the aisle etc, and.... SHE'S 12 MONTHS OLD (can they even walk??). So i'm working up the courage to say no, its going to be a shit fight as is because she's my finances' parents think she is the best thing ever and are slightly deranged when it comes to her (understandably proud grandparents etc), how do i ask the parents to put the baby in a baby cage for 15 minutes so she doesn't cry through our ceremony without sounding like a complete raging twat.
or.... am i being a twat????
you're being twat-ish.
you can't ask them to leave the baby in a cage. SHE IS NOT A CHIHUAHUA. but you can (and should) ask one of the parents to stand in the back holding the baby, prepared to whisk her away if she starts making a nuisance of herself.
NO FREAKING WAY ON FREAKING EARTH does a 12-month-old get to be a flower girl.
Naomi Preizler by Jeff Hahn for SCMP Style Magazine via Fashion Gone Rogue via Jessica Goldfond