Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Can I just go ahead and buy the dress already?!
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7.5 years. We live together. We are actively and energetically looking for a beautiful, inexpensive, antique (or vintage or estate or used or whatever) ring for me. It’s taking a while because I am determined to find the perfect ring. But despite the delay, we ARE going to get married.
But we aren’t *engaged* yet. YET.
So of course, I am already obsessed with all the beautiful wedding-type stuff I can possibly find. Of course. And I happened to find I a dress online that I LOVE. It isn’t a wedding dress, but a beautiful off-the-rack long dress from a very popular national chain store. I love it. I want to get married in it. No matter what kind of wedding we have (we are contemplating a small courthouse wedding with reception afterwards or a small destination wedding with our families and closest friends), this dress will work. It is beautiful and versatile, and I am OBSESSED with it. For the past two weeks, I have pulled it up online at least twice a day just to gaze at it. And it is very affordable by general wedding dress standards. About $500.
And I am afraid that if I wait until we are engaged, the season will have passed and this store will no longer carry my dress. Or that my dress will sell out.
So, do I go ahead and buy it?
I am really hesitant to buy my wedding dress before I am even officially engaged (aren’t I jinxing it?), and I am worried that I will be missing out on the mother-daughter shopping for wedding dresses thing. Oh, and it is more money than I have ever paid for any article of clothing in my life (or ever will). In wedding dress terms, it is a steal. But still, plopping down the debit card for $500 for a dress that I love and hope to someday wear for my as-yet-unplanned wedding just seems scary! And it just seems so momentous – like, screw the ring, this is the moment when we officially become engaged . . .
What do you think? Buy the dress, or wait for the proposal and the traditional dress shopping thing?
Forget the rock, get me an engagement frock!
Fuck yeah, buy it. (If only to try it on and return it and get the damn thing out of your system. Otherwise it will always be The One That Got Away.)
Photo by Jens Ingvarsson via Pennyweight via Anabela Carneiro