Dear ESB,
First off, this site has helped me keep my sanity for the last year since getting engaged. Thank you for constantly reminding me that I'm not crazy or an idiot for thinking about weddings as I do.
That being said, any suggestions for gifts for the parents? Both of our parents are helping us pay for the wedding and we wanted to give them something at the rehearsal dinner.
Something beyond the traditional pocket watch (what the hell is that about? seriously - is that a thing?) or expensive frame for a future wedding photo (blah, boring and BORING).
Please help! We're getting married in two and half weeks and I can't think of anything that isn't overdone or cheesy.
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k, i just need to ask a few questions about the parents:
shiny or matte?
sweet or salty?
happy or sad? (just kidding)
joan baez or led zeppelin?
harry potter or james bond?
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OK, for my parents:
shiny or matte? Both!
sweet or salty? Again, both!
happy or sad? (just kidding) Ha ha - thankfully very happy.
joan baez or led zeppelin? I can't believe you didn't include Korean church hymns on those choices! Because the answer would be Korean church hymns and classical music (no joke)
harry potter or james bond? Bond for sure.
For the in-laws:
shiny or matte? Shiny
sweet or salty? Sweet!
happy or sad? (just kidding) Happy with a touch of ennui
joan baez or led zeppelin? Joan Baez
harry potter or james bond? Bond
Thanks!!!
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I had this chocolate* all picked out............
For your parents:
The Bacon Truffle Collection from Vosges.
I haven't sampled the truffles, but I can promise you the bacon chocolate bars are BEYOND. (As in, maybe the best chocolate I've ever tasted.)
For the in-laws:
Le Chocolat en Rose Truffles (also from Vosges), inspired by Edith Piaf's "La Vie en Rose."
But then I reread your query and realized you want something to give them at the rehearsal dinner.
Womp womp.
How bout a gold coffee spoon set? Or a couple of little gold-leaf bowls? Or A REALLY GOOD BOTTLE OF BOURBON.**
(Image at top by Alma Haser via JE;SU, Hudson Baby Bourbon photo via There Will Be Bourbon)
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*As a newly minted member of The Tiny House Club, I have quickly come to appreciate gifts that are decadent and impermanent.
**See above
We got my parents each a small sentimental thing and then sent them off to a luxury spa hotel for an overnight (in the future, not that night) as a thank-you. It was such a busy, exciting, and stressful time, AND they had helped us pay for the wedding, so we thought the thing they'd most like was the chance to unwind and have someone else spoil them. It was a perfect present for them.
ReplyDeleteSince we gave each family member something personalized and often not equal in value, we pulled each person/set of parents aside during the rehearsal dinner to give them their gift. It was a nice change to sit for a moment and show our appreciation.
we still haven't gotten my parents anything. mostly because we are the worst people in the world. also I got my boss those spoons and a larger version of those bowls for Christmas last year. I'm planning on getting them for myself this year. they are bot awesome.
ReplyDeleteit didn't even occur to us to get presents for our parents.
DeleteThe Joan Baez parents might be gin drinkers. Judging from my personal data pool. In which case, Junipero?
ReplyDeleteStupid question (I have when people say that, because there's no such thing as a stupid question blah blah). But yeah. Why are the Vosges not appropriate if they're being presented at the rehearsal dinner? Because they're edible, and so they might feel pressured to share with the other guests? Or they're just not formal enough for the occasion? I don't get etiquette... halp!
ReplyDeleteoops, have = hate
Deletei just think they'd be sexier in the mail. with a really great note...
Deletebut maybe i'm overthinking it. i do that.
I was lame and simply took my parents out to dinner, but if I could do it again, I'd get my (florist) mother some really lovely Japanese gardening shears and my dad a really nice fishing rod blank. But... my parents are really odd and don't drink or enjoy objects. Love those gold coffee spoons and the bowls, if I was a parent I'd really enjoy those... or the bourbon. Bourbon is always good.
ReplyDeleteWe got my parents a special single malt (Port Ellen) from the year of their marriage - my parents like an Islay malt and it lends itself to bottles from special dates. (and I've found my parents are increasingly keen on gifts to be enjoyed rather than objects per se).
ReplyDeleteI feel guilty that the gift was kinda more for my dad. plan to get my Mum a little small something from her favourite Danish jeweller (where her wedding ring is from) maybe engraved. Or something.
(or if you like spoons I am kind of obsessed with Norwegian silver enamel guilloche demi-tasse spoons on eBay. They pretty)
I worked at Vosges for a couple years (woo purchasing...used to buy all those purple boxes) and I can vouch for their chocolate being the best ever. The truffles don't last as long but their are plenty of options on their website that are more shelf-stable. And they have gift boxes that include wine or beer if you want something a little bigger.
ReplyDeleteMy husband attests that bourbon is amazing. I don't care for bourbon*, and if your parents don't, either, they also make an amazing rum.
ReplyDelete*I do like Manhattans and Mint Juleps, but I stick to Woodford Reserve for those - it's a little less expensive ... the Tuthilltown is meant for sipping.
We bought our parents a plant each - a rose bush to be precise - which went down a treat; as far as I know none of them have died yet.
ReplyDeleteCosign on the Old Potrero rye... and try the unusual & delish Root liquor for the sweet-teeth (plural of sweet tooth?).
ReplyDeletethis is what we got our parents...http://www.chupitum.com/copas you can choose from a variety of illustrations. It is not the best gift ever...
ReplyDeleteI second the Hudson Baby Bourbon suggestion--it is FANTASTIC and beloved by everyone who receives a bottle.
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