Friday, October 5, 2012
Gimme some of that snark!
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and he is definitely my "chosen person" or whatever. We have committed to spending our lives together and plan on adding to our family one day. We met while traveling, he moved to be with me, and we’ve been living together happily ever since. He recently accepted an exciting position an ocean away and we are packing our bags to move next month.
Cue everyone and their dog asking about engagement and marriage. I get so many questions and unsolicited opinions on marriage it’s crazy. “When are you getting married?” “Why aren’t you married yet?” “You should really wait for an engagement ring before you quit your job and move.” The questions are driving me insane. I used to be able to laugh about these ridiculous projections of others people’s beliefs on our lives, but with all the change I’m already undergoing it’s begun to feel extremely heavy. I am finding it hard to deal.
So I need some help... I have no idea how to answer people’s questions. The answer is so so complicated, there really is no answer. I don’t know when I’m getting married. Do I even need to get married? Am I somehow disappointing everyone if I don’t? Will my relationship never be as valid?
I also have a family wedding coming up so I'm trying to prepare for the usual inappropriate questions X 1000. At this point I think some ESB snark, ativan, and champagne are my closest allies....
tell em you got married in a private wiccan ceremony and you're not permitted to wear your rings in public.