So, ever since I knew it was allowed, I've pictured both of my parents walking me down the aisle. My mom is on board with the idea, and my dad mostly is too, except for the fact that he thinks it would upset my stepmom (something I was anticipating, but hoping wouldn't be true. She's weirdly jealous of my mom, who's been divorced from my dad for 22 years and rarely speaks to him).
My pops, being awesome, told me that it doesn't matter what my stepmom thinks and if I want to process down the aisle with both of my "real" parents (stepmom, while a nice lady whom I like, was very hands-off for my childhood and adolescence) then I should do what I want. It's my wedding and I don't get any do-overs.
But. But. But. I don't want to cause strife between my dad and my stepmom. If she asks him to tell me "no," that he wants to do it himself, and we do the double-parent walk anyway, there will be a lot of resentment and mistrust (granted, these are negative themes that have built up during their marriage in various ways, and this would just be another big straw to the pile).
Do I do it the way I've always wanted because, like, it's my wedding and stuff? I love my dad so much, and I don't want to make his wife mad at him :(
This one's your dad's call. If he says he wants to do it, LET HIM FUCKING DO IT.
Why do women tie themselves in knots over things that ought to be simple??
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