Friday, May 18, 2012
WHO SHOULD BE MY F***ING MOH?!
Here's the deal.
We've been engaged for a couple of months & officially haven't contacted who we want to be in our wedding party.
I HAVE NO IDEA WHO SHOULD BE MY F***ING MOH!
I've never really had "girlfriends" per se but have always been close to my 2 sisters & 2 cousins. I have also gotten fairly close to my FH's brother's GF of many years & my own brother's GF of many years.
Here's the breakdown of their situations:
My Sisters are both in college= broke/ really young
1st Cousin= starting grad school, so going to be= broke/super busy
2nd Cousin= starting new job w/ crazy hours + is single mom= broke/ busy mom
1st GF= finished law school & is feeling the impending doom of her loans kicking in= soon to be broke
2nd GF= going to graduate from college this spring=broke
I know that whoever I would choose would totally do their best given their circumstances, bc they're all great gals...but as you can see they are all not in the best situation to be a MOH right now. I feel like I'd be throwing the 2 cousins & 2 GFs a curve ball...I'm sure they wouldn't be surprised to be part of the party, but not MOH. My sisters wouldn't be offended if I didn't choose them bc they know they would most likely be in over their heads.
Do you have to have a MOH? Wouldn't it be super weird not having one especially since my FH is going to have one? I like the idea of a MOH if I was in Utopia, but the thought of having to burden someone w/ this makes me feel like crap/stresses me out. I mean, I think they'd be too nice to say, "Uhhhh....whaaaaat?....I have NO TIME...uhhh...oh God, I'm going to be sooo poor!"
I wouldn't mind not having a bridal party at all, but my FH said he totally wants to have his dudes in the wedding.
P.S. Now that I think about it, they might have that reaction just being in the bridal party in general...both require their time & $$$ -____-
You don't have to have a Maid of Honor. (You don't have to do anything.) And it would be silly to just pick the lady you think would be least inconvenienced.
But: Stop worrying about all that time and money bullsh*t. Being a bridesmaid should be a privilege, not a burden.
Tell your ladies all you ask is that they show up at the wedding and stand by your side.
Photo by Nicole Bentley for Vogue Australia via Fashion Gone Rogue