Friday, October 22, 2010
A forkless wedding, and showers for $$$
We are having a forkless wedding. It isn't that we have something against forks, we just don't like having to put our cocktail down to hold a plate in one hand and a fork in the other (there won't be any tables at our wedding). My bride-to-be desperately wants to cut a wedding cake ("it's tradition"). I don't want to strip her of her dream but I also want to steer clear of doling out slices of cake that require forks. I would like to have a teeny tiny mini two person cake that we can 'cut' and then serve tray passed, forkless desserts of our choice to our guests. Would this leave our guests pining for our cake (does anyone even like cake)? Or do we need to serve cupcakes (I hope not)? Or better yet do you have another option?
Another question: we are registered but only for our honeymoon (we need the assistance). Now our wonderful friends are throwing wedding showers and we have only registered for... well... $. Do we need to register for physical gifts? Are we being rude not offering options?
1. If you cut a cake, it would be rude/weird not to pass out slices. (But in my opinion there is nothing particularly special about the cake-cutting tradition, and you can tell your bride-to-be I said so.)
2. The whole point of a shower is for people to "shower" you with gifts. If you don't register, they won't know what the f*ck to give you, and you'll end up with five difficult-to-return toasters (or worse).
2a. Were you really expecting everyone to sit around in a circle and watch you open envelopes of cash?
DISCLAIMER: I did not have a bridal shower, nor, to the best of my knowledge, have I ever been to a bridal shower. All my assumptions about bridal showers are based on romantic comedies, Sex and the City, and (other) wedding blogs.
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