tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post9071775807584391816..comments2023-11-04T00:52:56.076-07:00Comments on east side bride: A forkless wedding, and showers for $$$esbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-58510210518339477752010-10-25T19:24:51.372-07:002010-10-25T19:24:51.372-07:00@Anon - i was just going to recommend cake balls! ...@Anon - i was just going to recommend cake balls! And I know people who make them on the East Coast. Where you at? I can point you in the right direction if you're in NYC or New England. Hit me up madeline dot eisenhart at gmail dot com.Maddienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-39112805192155540002010-10-25T09:12:33.553-07:002010-10-25T09:12:33.553-07:00My solution to forkless dessert is Cakeballs! The...My solution to forkless dessert is Cakeballs! They are little rolled balls of cake covered in hard chocolate and they taste like heaven, plus no utensils needed! Just pop 'em in your mouth. I love them so much but can't find them on the east coast, so we will be ordering and shipping them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-58857591861120265762010-10-24T20:52:00.518-07:002010-10-24T20:52:00.518-07:00Jumping in late here to comment on both questions:...Jumping in late here to comment on both questions:<br /><br />1. I think you don't have to serve anything you don't want to serve, and certainly not cupcakes. At our wedding we served regularly sized pies (9"), individual tarts (3"?), meringues, and brownie ice cream sandwiches. All except for the big pies could be done forkless. In fact, when my husband and I got up to do the pie-cutting, there were neither serving utensils nor forks nearby, so we picked up one of the tarts and each took a bite of that. As far as I know, all guests preferred the desserts we offered to cake, and we ran out of everything. I do sort of think you should eat what the guests are having, too, because it will cut down on confusion. And also not seem like a tease?<br /><br />2. Even as I know that weddings and associated events are for the people around who love the bride and groom as much or more as they are for the spouses-to-be themselves, I found registering for gifts really, really uncomfortable. AND I've been told that the registry my husband worked pretty darn hard on was found unacceptable by our more traditional guests. Guess they were going to be upset unless there were china, silver, and crystal to buy. And I also didn't have a shower, for both logistical and philosophical reasons, but here goes anyway:<br />a. have the party. call it something other than a shower. everyone will be able to rain down love on you, which is what they want...<br />b. but since the wedding registry is for cash, perhaps one of the other reasons they want to throw the shower is to also be able to give you a concrete token of their affection? can you ask the person you trust most who is organizing the shindig what they want out of it and believe the answer they give you? if it's 1) just to party for people who can't make it across the country for wedding, then note, "no gifts, please." if it's 2) to give you shit, then either throw themed small gift party or make a small registry. <br /><br />and as everyone else has already mentioned, the party throwers WANT to do this for you. really truly.KThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09588144815538080078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-33862107107840539542010-10-23T11:05:31.886-07:002010-10-23T11:05:31.886-07:00i like the idea of forklessness. why not! it's...i like the idea of forklessness. why not! it's simple. i like simplicity. why not buy a cake without cream so people can eat it without forks? a or several nice pound cake with or without glazing eg. see here: http://www.oncewed.com/9324/wedding-blog/real-weddings/zack-lauren-v/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-17775259108459598562010-10-22T20:37:54.614-07:002010-10-22T20:37:54.614-07:00showers are dreadful.
eclairs are divine.showers are dreadful.<br />eclairs are divine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-54338818756186153232010-10-22T19:47:57.769-07:002010-10-22T19:47:57.769-07:00i'm not sure what to say to all of this beside...i'm not sure what to say to all of this besides responding to his/her follow up of "skip the whole gift opening part of the shower"<br /><br />that's what a shower is. <br /><br />call it an engagement party or something.H.H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16448982070532862844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-40416569517490310032010-10-22T19:28:05.201-07:002010-10-22T19:28:05.201-07:00THE WEDDING IS ON A SAILBOAT, YOU GUYS. THERE WILL...THE WEDDING IS ON A SAILBOAT, YOU GUYS. THERE WILL BE NO FORKS. NO PLATES. NO TABLES. GET OVER IT. HAVE YOU NEVER BEEN TO A FUCKING GALLERY OPENING WITH PASSED HORS D'OEUVRES?east side bridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06206689296805893265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-73869559375923925492010-10-22T18:43:40.134-07:002010-10-22T18:43:40.134-07:00I can't get past the word FORKLESS. Even witho...I can't get past the word FORKLESS. Even without a fork, Aimee is right - you have to set your drink down to eat!<br /><br />@Meg - BOOK SHOWER! Why didn't I think of that??nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06118368189622576399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-11423950853583377622010-10-22T18:21:24.364-07:002010-10-22T18:21:24.364-07:00cut a baby cake and serve the guests whatever you ...cut a baby cake and serve the guests whatever you want to serve them! really! they are lucky to get dessert at all. ha!<br /><br />and if you don't want to register, dont have a shower. you cant ask for cash showers..too much weirdness. people will cash you up at the wedding anyhow.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14167156568343112162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-33401794583626222242010-10-22T16:43:08.693-07:002010-10-22T16:43:08.693-07:00As far as the shower part of the question goes it ...As far as the shower part of the question goes it seems like you are wanting more of an engagement party. Maybe my bridal shower experience has been different, but most of the showers I've been to have been all about the sexy gifts--no registration needed.Kirshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01162312296355700402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-40932136978686220662010-10-22T16:30:05.713-07:002010-10-22T16:30:05.713-07:00At my wedding we paid for the cake ourselves along...At my wedding we paid for the cake ourselves along with the decorations. We paid a good amount of money for it and we never even cut it because we ended up dancing the whole night that and completely forgot. The only person who even acknowledged that we didn't cut and serve it was my husband's grandma. It sat on display all night and now a tier is in my freezer that I need to throw away, but for some reason haven't cause I think we are going to eat it. (I mean what do I really think? I will let it defrost and serve it at a dinner party, NO. It's crazy, I know, but I can't throw it away.) Screw cakes.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03036709100068435160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-38438318657130131002010-10-22T15:37:36.827-07:002010-10-22T15:37:36.827-07:00Roisindubh - We made it up. And yes. I registered ...Roisindubh - We made it up. And yes. I registered on Amazon (though you wouldn't have to), and one of my friends who's an editor gave me piles of free books too.<br /><br />ESB - I failed to mention that this is my fav Dear ESB ever. It's deeply bizzare and I love that.Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09526722516550185150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-27431197387976830822010-10-22T14:49:57.788-07:002010-10-22T14:49:57.788-07:00waaiiit a minute- there's such a thing as a bo...waaiiit a minute- there's such a thing as a book shower? Like, everyone gives you a book? Seriously? That is teh BEST THING EVER.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-26393889208153797922010-10-22T14:29:00.856-07:002010-10-22T14:29:00.856-07:00Oh! I did have a book shower. I LOVED that. You al...Oh! I did have a book shower. I LOVED that. You always need more books. The end.Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09526722516550185150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-80813565753199767872010-10-22T14:27:11.620-07:002010-10-22T14:27:11.620-07:00What What Possesssed Me said. I mean, is it even p...What What Possesssed Me said. I mean, is it even possible to say it better?<br /><br />For the record, I did not like my shower. So there you go, it can happen. Also for the record, I don't give cash gifts, I'm old fashioned like that. (Well, usually, there are a few people I might break that rule for.) Anyway, there are more people like me than you'd expect. So. You might end up with some bizzare presents, which you should know in advance.<br /><br />Or forks. Word might get out, and you might get a lot of forks.Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09526722516550185150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-25684453850705013652010-10-22T14:18:37.583-07:002010-10-22T14:18:37.583-07:00I don't get the fork/no fork thing. With a dri...I don't get the fork/no fork thing. With a drink in one hand and the food on a napkin/little plate in the other, what are guests supposed to do to avoid needing to set their drink down anyway? Suck the finger foods off the plate with their mouths?Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08302238792141588903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-26723724004290405022010-10-22T14:06:51.074-07:002010-10-22T14:06:51.074-07:00AHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAA DRAMAMINE FROSTING!!
Amazing.AHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAA DRAMAMINE FROSTING!!<br />Amazing.What Possessed Mehttp://www.whatpossessedme.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-66911200351834088192010-10-22T14:03:39.270-07:002010-10-22T14:03:39.270-07:00Wow, I missed the whole thing about it being on a ...Wow, I missed the whole thing about it being on a boat, so now my comment sounds dumb. Your wedding sounds awesome. And your cake should have Dramamaine frosting, probs.Toniahttp://www.ittybittyimpact.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-65396804569558890972010-10-22T14:00:28.853-07:002010-10-22T14:00:28.853-07:00I am confused. How do you eat without setting down...I am confused. How do you eat without setting down your drink, fork or no fork? What is wrong with a good fork, anyway?Mousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12997875522614810785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-85547063488428194582010-10-22T13:59:28.172-07:002010-10-22T13:59:28.172-07:00It seems as though you feel so strongly against ea...It seems as though you feel so strongly against eating utensils that you're willing to make your bride give up one of the wedding elements she has always really looked forward to- the cake. Hmmm, so, I want to know more about the no forks/no tables thing.........like, are you only serving finger-food? No entree, right? Hopefully you're providing really great napkins. ;) I really want to see photos of this wedding, sounds like a party that'd be easy to get shit-faced at!<br /><br />As far as the shower goes, why don't you just tell the folks organizing it that you don't want any gifts? My fiance and I had a couple showers (one thrown by family, and one by friends) and we DID have a registry for the family shower because our families explicitly told us they wanted to get us gifts, so we obliged. :) But we told our friends not to get us gifts for the shower they threw us (their gift was the party itself, and the time they all took to be there) and it all worked out super nice!!Toniahttp://www.ittybittyimpact.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-20951037132004966342010-10-22T13:54:13.249-07:002010-10-22T13:54:13.249-07:00I don't even know what to do with this questio...I don't even know what to do with this question. Usually, I'm all over the questions, but this going so far out of my comfort zone that I have to stretch the limits of my imagination to answer.<br /><br />But here goes: 99% of the traditions that come along with weddings are more about the guests than the couple. The cake, for instance. Who gives a shit? People who like cake, that's who. Honestly, just cut a cupcake and be done with it. I'm not into cupcakes, but if you want cake, that's one of way of doing it - just give people their cupcakes and all will be well.<br /><br />Showers: also for other people. I originally thought they were for greedy brides and told my peeps I wasn't going to have one, and then - seriously, I'm not exaggerating here - FIVE people were personally upset not to have the opportunity to shower me with gifts. I thought my mom was going to commit harikiri (or however you spell it). It was weird. I felt strange about it - I'm an adult after all, I don't need a shit-ton of presents, but in the end, I was glad I did it. First of all, my friends threw down the baddest party ever - it was multi-generational and raucous and really, really touching. I felt the love, man, and that's what it's about. Getting a bunch of women in a room can't be bad. It's less about the gifts than the opportunity to get together with your ladies, who sincerely want to wish you well. You could have a book shower or a favorite thing shower (everyone brings their favorite thing under $10 - the results are invariably weird and amazing) or an art supply shower or a recipe shower or an advice shower or a tool shower or a whatever shower. Just give people some guidelines so they don't feel douchey showing up with a duplicate gift.What Possessed Mehttp://www.whatpossessedme.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-72129442525178006242010-10-22T13:51:15.276-07:002010-10-22T13:51:15.276-07:00For the cake: serve petits fours. They are tiny ca...For the cake: serve petits fours. They are tiny cake so perhaps that will appease your bride and they are bite size so no fork issue. You feed her one, she feeds you one, pass them out to guests. Done and done. <br />For the shower: if you already have everything you need ask the hosts to throw you an engagement party with no gifts. Otherwise I think you'll have a hard time getting people to do money, the gift opening portion of the shower is usually the main event (as much as I hate that, and hated it at my own shower as well, but what can you do).hip hip gin ginhttp://www.hiphipgingin.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-5428651218175895232010-10-22T13:32:24.672-07:002010-10-22T13:32:24.672-07:00the whole no table thing makes more sense now. i&...the whole no table thing makes more sense now. i'm glad you clarified... i was worried ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-56035595698792378502010-10-22T13:29:04.102-07:002010-10-22T13:29:04.102-07:00better yet, maybe we ask people to skip the shower...better yet, maybe we ask people to skip the shower gift and instead shower us with love. i mean... we are in our 30's... and we have a ton of stuff!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-34185903028813572712010-10-22T13:26:53.493-07:002010-10-22T13:26:53.493-07:00this was my random dear esb email. the feedback is...this was my random dear esb email. the feedback is much appreciated and noted. <br /><br />just to clarify, the wedding is on a large sailboat (about 70 guests) and will be small bites (lots of small bites).<br /><br />also, one bridal shower is 3000 miles from our home (west coast shower; brooklyn residence). i love the idea of setting up a small registry for those that really need/want that help (which i understand - i often shop from the registry) but i think we will ask our hosts if they would be comfortable foregoing the gift opening part of the shower (their call of course).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com