Tuesday, October 12, 2010
the only Mrs. X
I need to have a serious talk with my fiance about our last names. It's definitely not as simple as it sounds. He's divorced with a child and his ex has kept his last name, mostly because it's the child's last name too. Am I wrong to ask to be the only Mrs. X? The kiddo is starting school soon and I don't want there to be two Mrs' for multiple reasons; mostly, I'm staking my claim: This is my man, my family! I'm worried he'll just shoot my request down or won't say anything to her and I'll be left in this confusing and frustrating position. How should I go about this, if at all? Am I being irrational?
Thanks in advance for any advice,
Dear MJMA (WTF does that stand for, b/t/w?),
Yes, you are being irrational. Quite irrational. And you're doing nothing to endear yourself to the first Mrs. X, who, like it or not, will be in your life for the foreseeable future since she and Mr. X have a kid together.
The way I see it, you have three choices. You can
a) Share the name. The way first and second (and third) wives have done since the advent of divorce.
b) Keep your own damn name.
c) Choose a new name that you and your man will both take when you get married. Rather than a confusing hyphenate, why not go with something catchy like Mr. & Mrs. Mamajama? Or Mr. & Mrs. Megajackpotmachine?
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