Hi east side bride,
My cousin hired the same wedding photographer I used for my wedding a few years ago. He was awesome at my wedding, got along with family, was a great deal, and we loved our pictures. When my cousin got engaged I was more than happy to make the recommendation.
So the wedding was this past weekend and, as is sometimes the case, there was one emotionally needy bridesmaid. This one girl decided to latch on to the wedding photographer at the rehearsal dinner. Follow him around, talk all night to him, invite him out for drinks, etc. Turns out, the next day, she was flirting with him in the bridal suite while everyone was getting ready and chasing him around reception. She invited him to the after party (which was after duration of his contact so he technically wasn't "working" anymore). Bear in mind he is married.
Anyways fast forward to today... I called my cousin to catch up after the big day and she mentioned that the girl said that the photographer made a move on her bridesmaid after the wedding after-party. Nothing happened (that we know of) but it seems pretty skeezy that the man you hire to capture your special day is putting his own marriage at risk for a fling with a needy bridesmaid. Not discounting that the bridesmaid should not have been throwing herself at the photographer, but I feel like he should have had the professionalism to (politely) turn down her advances.
So it's not my wedding, but I feel ashamed that it was my recommendation. Is there anything I or the bride should do? Write a review? Email him that we know what happened? I feel like this behavior is totally unprofessional and unacceptable, but my husband thinks I should just let it go.
What do you think?
LET IT GO
You don't know what actually happened
You don't know who made a move on who
Even if they fucked, and you had proof, this is not fodder for a Yelp review. Please don't jeopardize this guy's career -- or his marriage, which you were uber concerned about a minute ago -- because a couple of consenting adults behaved badly.
(You may feel free to never recommend him again.)