Here's the gist:
-Destination wedding in lovely family spot (partially because we didn't want a huge wedding in our mutual hometown).
-Our dream is family + 20ish friends who will actually enjoy the spot and can afford to travel, which would be about 60 people in total.
-F-MIL keeps making passive aggressive comments about how we could just elope to save her money (jokingly, of course...only she's not joking, based on sheer repetition).
-FILs have the money, easily, but just hate spending it on travel/their kids (insert complicated back story- aka we know better than to ask for any help with actual ceremony/dinner, so their costs = their travel & stay).
-However, she is fine spending our money inviting 90 people to our wedding to which she herself does not want to travel (another issue, which I believe I can solve or overlook, given that her friends likely won't travel; she just wants them to be given the option).
Please help me keep a smile on my face and endure the "why-don't-you-elope-and-save-me-some-money" mutterings under her breath. Or help me see the situation differently?
exhausted Future Daughter-in-law trying to keep the peace