tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post3100764259153898477..comments2024-03-24T23:51:25.945-07:00Comments on east side bride: Snarky Comment Requiredesbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-85054048676954671592013-07-24T22:48:56.030-07:002013-07-24T22:48:56.030-07:00Well done, Good job!Well done, Good job!Vintage Wedding Inviteshttp://www.elegantweddinginvites.com/shop/vintage-wedding_invites/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-37586068757596480572013-01-11T02:02:37.634-08:002013-01-11T02:02:37.634-08:00I'm so pleased I'm not the only one.I'm so pleased I'm not the only one.Rebeccanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-14452852868355343442013-01-10T09:27:47.195-08:002013-01-10T09:27:47.195-08:00Oops, sorry. I initially interpreted the "we ...Oops, sorry. I initially interpreted the "we could just elope to save her money" to mean that FMIL was paying for the whole wedding, not just travel expenses. Claws retracted.cahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-84226873442707726252013-01-09T21:41:40.687-08:002013-01-09T21:41:40.687-08:00Yup. Looks like she is getting her diaper changed...Yup. Looks like she is getting her diaper changed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-55991839890413286012013-01-09T17:54:25.010-08:002013-01-09T17:54:25.010-08:00Yes to whoever said "please stop saying that,...Yes to whoever said "please stop saying that, it's upsetting". Be direct! And DO NOT invite those 90 people if you don't want to. hallienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-88497827667644361252013-01-09T15:31:52.603-08:002013-01-09T15:31:52.603-08:00do you know any first-generation asians? they pro...do you know any first-generation asians? they probably have dealt with that. i know i did. people just inviting themselves and extended family inviting other people. it's weird! at my small/destination wedding, i had a feeling this might happen, so luckily a lot of people i actually invited couldn't make it and only a handful of randoms showed up.<br /><br />also, asians don't RSVP and they have no problem changing numbers on the number YOU put on the RSVP.<br /><br />i know this might all sound racist against my own race, but seriously, i know i am NOT the only asian this has happened to.Beanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-3669414709559125242013-01-09T14:11:01.706-08:002013-01-09T14:11:01.706-08:00That was my first thought. I initially wondered if...That was my first thought. I initially wondered if the post was about peeing on a wedding dress.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-57536358784627533002013-01-09T12:16:45.276-08:002013-01-09T12:16:45.276-08:00Am I the only one thought it looked like she wet t...Am I the only one thought it looked like she wet the bed because her coat lining is slightly darker than the sheets?Lisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-3905102810837750402013-01-09T12:00:17.635-08:002013-01-09T12:00:17.635-08:00Be direct–or ask your FH to be direct–and give you...Be direct–or ask your FH to be direct–and give your FILs the chance to explain themselves or apologize. "Mom, that joke isn't helpful, and makes us feel like you aren't excited about our wedding...is that your intention?" Lay it on the line...sometimes people are just blind to how they're making others feel.Toniahttp://www.ittybittyimpact.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-29397560070049856902013-01-09T11:46:37.646-08:002013-01-09T11:46:37.646-08:00Good to know! Awkward all around. Good to know! Awkward all around. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-78305413538119774202013-01-09T11:36:40.349-08:002013-01-09T11:36:40.349-08:00ESB's advice is dead on! When you plan a dest...ESB's advice is dead on! When you plan a destination wedding you have to be ok with the fact that some of the people you invite may not be able to make it. Even if that means the groom's parents because they're too cheap. And that's how I'd say it to FMIL - maybe without calling her cheap.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-46852511534011091782013-01-09T11:19:51.492-08:002013-01-09T11:19:51.492-08:00I've always wondered this...but how effective ...I've always wondered this...but how effective are these FH at handling their mothers to stop?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-70947806517278438272013-01-09T11:12:17.914-08:002013-01-09T11:12:17.914-08:00Yup, verbal invites are totally a thing. A very, v...Yup, verbal invites are totally a thing. A very, very annoying thing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-637140096197486232013-01-09T11:03:29.278-08:002013-01-09T11:03:29.278-08:00Sympathy. Also, their problem and not yours. If ...Sympathy. Also, their problem and not yours. If they have weird feelings spending money on their children for whatever reason, then this is all about that and not about you.<br /><br />Deep breaths.<br /><br />I also agree this should be dealt with by FH. As in, "mother, please stop saying that, it's upsetting" or something.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-45807322497348088042013-01-09T10:50:36.394-08:002013-01-09T10:50:36.394-08:00My mother did this. She calls people on the phone...My mother did this. She calls people on the phone, tells them about the wedding. She invites them or they invite themselves. Invitations are sent, and tthe uninvited place probing calls for about a month. Then they never speak to you again. The end.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-8703633078682025332013-01-09T10:41:26.151-08:002013-01-09T10:41:26.151-08:00I don't know, I mean... yes, I definitely agre...I don't know, I mean... yes, I definitely agree that FH should take the brunt of this and you shouldn't stress or feel the need to take the lead, but you *are* marrying into this family, and dealing with FMIL is not *completely* FH's responsibility. Further, you're going to have an ongoing relationship with her (well, maybe not), so being diplomatic now can go a long way. <br /><br />It sounds like you have 2 parts to this problem: financial and emotional. Lauren's suggestions are awesome for the emotional part, as is "grow a pair." But as for the financial, you guys do need to push back and not let her invite people to an event she's not paying for, *or* ask her to pay for them. This seems like the bigger problem: no way in hell should you guys have to pay for these people AND get her grief about just eloping!Jennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-46712236814261331492013-01-09T10:34:14.591-08:002013-01-09T10:34:14.591-08:00grow a set?grow a set?Pheobenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-50022339153269701122013-01-09T10:26:16.524-08:002013-01-09T10:26:16.524-08:00Precisely why that's what my FH and I are refu...Precisely why that's what my FH and I are refusing monetary assistance. We are literally inviting ten people. BOOM DONE.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05081208821965685375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-61185168637060737042013-01-09T10:25:07.308-08:002013-01-09T10:25:07.308-08:00AGREED.AGREED.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05081208821965685375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-6463949028947142772013-01-09T09:45:15.721-08:002013-01-09T09:45:15.721-08:00AGREED. Snark really doesn't work if you don&#...AGREED. Snark really doesn't work if you don't read...Jennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-35306163875959865642013-01-09T09:42:01.615-08:002013-01-09T09:42:01.615-08:00Man, good question! I didn't even think of tha...Man, good question! I didn't even think of that. Bizarre.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-74234821428816077522013-01-09T09:40:50.748-08:002013-01-09T09:40:50.748-08:00I've always been confused about how someone ot...I've always been confused about how someone other than the bride or groom actually invites people to a wedding...<br /><br />Do they steal invitations? Print their own version? Do they just do a verbal invite (and do people go to a wedding based on a verbal invite from someone other than bride or groom)?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-29684623969716753342013-01-09T09:37:04.790-08:002013-01-09T09:37:04.790-08:00Molly is right, that's nonsense. He needs to p...Molly is right, that's nonsense. He needs to put his foot down and request that she majorly trim that list. He might also suggest that if FMIL wants so badly to give her friends the "option" to celebrate the marriage, she can fund her own hometown party once you return.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-76547796966356276532013-01-09T09:08:36.187-08:002013-01-09T09:08:36.187-08:00correct!correct!heathernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-73301921137166539922013-01-09T09:03:46.866-08:002013-01-09T09:03:46.866-08:00Not snarky enough...Not snarky enough...hennypennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07573990830078639587noreply@blogger.com