Thursday, August 29, 2013
When you can't forget the gifts you didn't get.
I was just reading this terrific piece on the Billfold, which led me over to this NY Times piece.
WHAT THE FUCK?
I mean, the people the Times interviewed are mostly old (and rich). But TWENTY YEARS LATER they're still dwelling on who didn't give them a wedding gift??
I just want to say -- right here and now -- to all the friends who didn't give us a gift:
It means so much to me that you made it to our wedding. Or didn't. Maybe you didn't even make it to the wedding. WEDDINGS ARE EXPENSIVE. But we invited you because we love you and we still love you and, just so you know, it matters not ONE IOTA that you didn't buy us anything.
As Emily Gould puts it:
There are so many other costs associated with attending a wedding, especially if you’re in the wedding party or it’s a destination wedding… I know it’s a token and sentimental and that people are generally understanding, but somehow adding a salad spinner to the $450 hotel, $200 dress and $800 plane ticket tends to be the straw that breaks this camel’s back. But that’s both irrational and kind of dickish of me. I’m trying to be better.
IT'S NOT IRRATIONAL! IT'S TOTALLY RATIONAL!
How bout we just do away with the damn wedding gifts already?
Ina Jang for Jalouse April 2012 via Visual Optimism