you know, having never seen one, i thought they could be cute. however- the links provided were fucking painful to watch.
Here, here...I don't get save-the-dates. Until I started reading wedding blogs, I'd never even heard of them. Anybody I've mentioned them to in the real world has no idea what they are. Most people know we're getting married, know roughly when it is, and know they're invited. Everybody else is getting a phone call or an email.I saw a post about being environmentally friendly and using recycled paper for your STDs. I must have been feeling particularly snarky that day cuz I replied...how about ACTUALLY being environmentally friendly and don't send one at all??? I know...crazy thought.
I dunno, I kinda like them... We just got our cute magnets from poseprints.com in the mail yesterday and spent today finalizing addresses and figuring out how to print on small (i.e. not a standard size) envelopes. We both have huge families and want to be sure that everyone knows our wedding date/location and to refer to our website if they want more details (and not refer to our parents)
i'm not even going to comment here because i'm not in the mood to be attacked by anon.p.s. everyone, let's keep our make-out sessions to ourselves, ok?
i think there are pretty cool video save the dates out there.really artistic, fun ones with rad music and everything. even without showing the couple, just with animated letters or whatever.about the links above: no comment!if you like paper postage shouldnt be an issue.emails also could be nice...i guess almost noone of my family has an email adress though ; )
email aDDress. ah all these typos. grmpf.
mas loved them, all of them in fact. i dunno about him these day.
omg...loved the last one. it's totally tongue in check and hilarious.
Eh. I feel like you only do it if you have a SERIOUS reason to do it (like you're marrying an animator, and he's dying to do one). Otherwise?WASTE of energy. Send an email.
I never heard of a save-the-date until I planned my wedding. It must be a North America thing.The worst blog post I ever saw about them was a debate about whether or not you could send them as post cards cause people think post cards look like junk mail and throw them out. I really find this is something so unimportant that it doesn't need to be discussed. Get this - you don't need to send anything.Just send your actual invites out 3 months in advance. If people have something booked that far ahead and can't make it to your wedding then it's probably another event that is really important to them. So let them go to that event instead.
@Brigitta That post was on this blog, actually.@Meg Let me just get that plug in for APW: http://www.apracticalwedding.com/2010/02/grooms-experimental-animation-save-date.htmlAnd, yeah. Making a video (even a CRAPPY VIDEO) is a shitload of work. Not something you want to undertake just to save on postage.
Ok, so at first I was sure that the Saying I Do blog was a joke. But now I'm not sure? I mean, there are plenty of real blogs that read that way out there, i.e.: http://futuremrshopefully.blogspot.com/Are people seriously that insane? I don't think I want to know. It has to be a joke, right? RIGHT?Anyway. Save the date = silly. Send invites early if people are traveling far and need to plan. Or phone them and tell them to be polite and personal if email seems too informal. Or, wild idea: write a handwritten note to people coming from far away.
Oh for fuck's sake. You guys are really gonna make me pull out Martha Stewart? "Though not required, [Save the Dates] are helpful, particularly if many guests will have to travel to the wedding, if it will take place during a busy holiday weekend, or if accommodations nearby are scarce. Send save-the-date cards four to six months before the wedding, or even earlier if extensive travel plans must be arranged." People who only get two weeks off a YEAR plan that shit way in advance, trust me. Doesn't mean they'd rather go to the Grand Canyon than go to your wedding.And invites really shouldn't go out more than two months before the wedding because people will put them away, forget where they put them, and never fucking rsvp.
you know, i really wanted to hate those video STDs, but i actually thought they were cute!unfortunately, my puter is way slow, so i didn't make it through the entirety of either. so i guess that's a 'con'.
major con. how are these videos "delivered"?!
i think making a video about your engagement is fun if you like making videos (i don't). but as for save the dates in general, i hadn't heard of them until recently but i'm a big fan. i mean, i can't be the only person inviting a ton of shiftworkers to their wedding. knowing you need to take a day off work, the more advance notice the better. and yeah, people travelling. i always assumed they were also engagement notices. and that they are generally sent out before you have wedding details. like, i don't know where we're getting married, but it's gonna be on this particular day.
I'm just sending my invites early for my travelers. STDs are just like Trash the Dress/morning after brunch/all other must haves that you have never heard about before entering the realm of wedding planning/sucking every penny out of your pocket!
save the dates = totally essential if you're getting married anywhere requiring a plane ticket, rental car, time off work etc. We didn't have all the details of the ceremony etc worked out that early (and are still making up the invites 6 mos later) but wanted to get something out there asap as soon as we set the date.We just sent an email with a little pdf 'card' that links to our website. if people don't look no worries, their problem, but those who have kids, limited vacay or just like to plan ahead can get all details in order. this is our website, in case anyone is interested: www.shezandalicia.com - i found it helpful to look at others' to figure out what info to include. ps - skip the 'proposal story' - so awful
I second what alicia says. I don't like the idea of stds (either kind), but I agree ESB- notice is kind of necessary.Can we have a post on wedding websites in the future? I know thats what I'd like, save paper on stds AND invites, and have a friend build a personalized site instead like:www.frickyforever.comwww.abelleandayankee.comno?
we're getting married on a different continent and everyone knows, but no one seriously started looking for flights and hotels until we went them a reminder post card and then it hit them, oh right you guys are getting married and I should probbly make sure that my passport etc... is not expired. They were more 'get your shit together' reminders then save the dates I guess.
@viola and practical- my husband is a web designer and went all friggin out on the website. i think maybe 5 people went to the damn thing after all that work. every conversation i had after getting engaged started with the same two questions, "can i see the ring?" and "have you picked a date?" so save-the-dates were pretty superfluous.i don't think anyone is going to realize they can't make it to the wedding and go, "damn! if only i'd have gotten a slip of paper telling me the date 4-6 months ago!"
hate to be a jerk, but i have never cared for video save-the-dates. to be quite honest, i think they're cheezy. yes, it's more eco-friendly, but do these people have NO older adult attending their wedding? does EVERY single person attending their wedding have a computer AND email?
Personally, I think everyone is being a bit dramatic. Bottom line: Save the dates are necessary for some people, and not necessary for others. Throw in the occasional bride/groom that want people constantly aware that this is their date and their family and friends BETTER remember it...and then you have the "grey area" - which are those who everyone is obviously annoyed at here. Not all of the STD's are made in vain, but some are, and let's face it...those are the weddings we'd rather forget about.
The first "save the date" I ever got was a powerpoint. It kind of ruled.
you guys rock. sorry if I got a little cranky last night... nobody made seven layer dip for ME.♥
Alicia - thanks for sharing your web site. I'm planning a similar, destination-y wedding in washington state. Sounds like a fun time and a great site!
What's wrong with people being creative if they feel like it? And I don't think you need to be marrying an animator or have a "serious reason" to do it. Maybe it's just fun for some people. Sheesh.