Wednesday, September 8, 2010

boutonniere and suspenders - wtf?

Dear ESB,

I'm making a really great boutonniere for my fiance, but he will be taking off his jacket after the ceremony. Can I pin it to his suspenders or am I breaking some cardinal boutonniere rule? Do I just pin it to his shirt? That seems dumb. Does he just lose all boutonniere privileges by losing the jacket?

ps - I totally googled how to spell "boutonniere" and have copied and pasted it rather than typing it every time it appears in this email.


Yeah, no. When the jacket comes off the boutonniere is donesies. You can't just keep moving the damn thing around.

(As you may or may not know, I'm not a big fan of the boutonniere. But I do thank you for going out of your way not to call it a "bout.")

Photo: Andrew Garfield in Band of Outsiders


  1. BIG NO-NO. you won't be carrying your bouquet around all night, so why should he have to wear the boutonniere all night?

  2. Reason #312472354 why the boutonniere mystifies me. I'm a pocket square girl, myself.

  3. Skip the boutonniere! Go for the pocket square!

  4. First, the Band of Outsiders pic is amazing. Second, great advice . . . But why is the jacket coming off during the ceremony??

  5. Because it's easier to play Corn Hole without a jacket. Duh.

    Thanks for the advice!

  6. My husband didn't wear a jacket to our wedding at all, and neither did the other men involved in the wedding, so we pinned the bouts to the guys' shirts. Probs not the "right" thing to do, but it looked fine.