I'm a longtime reader and lurker.
How do I tell my partner of six years that I've changed my mind about marriage? I've been very against it, but now feel "ready." He wanted to get married (eventually) early in our relationship. However, I am certain that all my talk against it has not only convinced him it's something I'd never want, but also convinced him it's not something he wants either!
Something subtle but important has changed after our many years together. This "traditional" choice has crept up on me, and is now something I value and want to share together. I think it makes sense to make it "official" legally, and I'd even like to have a tiny wedding--or elope.
What's the best way to approach him about my change of heart? I want to be fair and honest, but I am terrified of judgment and rejection after so many years of loud refusal on my part.
And, if we do, how do I tell everyone else? I feel a barrage of "I told you so"s coming.
Formerly smug mindchanger
Here's what you say to him: "Will you marry me?"
Here's what you say to everyone else: "We're getting married." (I hate to disappoint you, but no one will actually be that shocked.)
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