Friday, July 4, 2014
Thu, Jul 3, 2014 at 8:25 PM
Long story short.
My bridal shower was 2 weeks ago. My MOH spent 3 hours after it talking about her horrible marriage, and the 3 hours during about her "new miracle baby" (she had an iud and it "fell out") and how she "almost died" in labor. I haven't heard from her since the shower. I want to demote her.
I actually want her to not come because she brings her iPad everywhere. And this is her weapon of showing off her baby to my guests. Not so bad, except for I'm going through fertility treatments, so it hurts my soul.
I found out she's on oxy (again), so she's been lying to me about that.
If her husband is so horrible and abusive (I don't think he's as bad as she says) then I don't want him at the wedding.
I don't get a lot of "me" time and parties because I have social anxiety. So she was the center of my shower, but I don't want her the center of my wedding.
When she was pregnant I spent hundreds on her baby gifts and parties and went to all of her ER visits (I am on disability and a full time student and worker) so it was expensive for me. She didn't get me a gift (not a big deal, but she makes 4x what I do per month), so I found it odd.
Can someone help me quick? Wedding is mid-August.
Fri, Jul 4, 2014 at 12:40 PM
How bad is the drug abuse? Are you worried she'll have a meltdown in the middle of your wedding?
Fri, Jul 4, 2014 at 1:44 PM
I'm worried she will have an "allergy attack" or "not feel well" and the ambulance will need to be called. Or she will try and whip out her iPad to show baby pictures to everyone. Apparently at the bridal shower she didn't stop talking about her own wedding and pregnancy and baby at all.
We're going through fertility issues so her baby talk at my shower really upset me. Every time I try to call her she's "napping."
I'm thinking of hiring someone just to babysit her.
It sounds like your friend is very unhappy. Maybe she's raving about this miracle baby because it's the only good thing going on in her life. Maybe she's trying to convince herself it's a good thing.
Either way, I bet she has no idea she's hurting your feelings.
Write her an email. Tell her everything you just told us. (Or: Send her a link to this post.) Gently request that she LEAVE THE FUCKING IPAD AT HOME.
And then, yes, hire a babysitter.
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