Tuesday, September 22, 2009

P, you're killing me.

Are you gonna wear the dress?

p.s. I promised myself I'd stop ranting about J. Crew, but here is a more articulate rant...if anyone is interested.


  1. Um, I was with her till the middle, then I got suspicious, and then I wanted to throw up.

    Yesss... J Crew is a mother-effing-brand, and people need to stop treating it like it's custom unique goodness. Also, which their dresses tend to be on the simpler side (I like that) they are also now on the overpriced side (Lame). And for the record, their bridesmaids dresses are as universally unflattering in person as other bridesmaids dresses, they just have cache.

    BUT. She loves the wedding industry? Here are OTHER cute mass market weddign dresses? Their dresses are made in the US out of great materials and start at $500 (b*llshit)? Go couture? You'll get better care in a bridal shop? Or you could just stab me in the eye with a fork and be done with it.

    You should write a full length rant once and for all. One that doesn't blow, in the end. It would be like exorcising your demons... and MUCH more fun for us than the proverbial fork/eye stab.

  2. PS
    I *do* like J Crew shoes. Bite me.

  3. Thanks for the shout out!

    I totally understand where Meg is coming from, but as a former owner of a bridal salon/small business, I do love the bridal industry. I would have to. At least the part that I know, which was working with small designers with ethical practices and being able to connect with my customers and treating them kindly and fairly. You CAN get a couture (which is essentially handmade) gown very inexpensively, either new or once worn. As for service, at least at my shop (before the economy kicked its a**) you did get better care than you could ever get at J. Crew.

    Choosing to buy everyday things and clothes from small businesses (to me) is better than buying from big multinational companies, and bridal is no different (outside of making your own gown or being one of the lucky ones who can wear their mom's gown).

    Advocating for small business (no matter the industry) is not a bad thing.

  4. Love all the controversy. All I can say is that J. Crew makes my ass look big, so eff that.

    Dawg, I'm scared to try it on. What if it doesn't fit? What if it makes my ass look big? What if I look like a sausage? I'd be so sad. Also, I'd have to buy a dress and I CANNOT DEAL WITH THAT EVENTUALITY. Shopping is not my forte.


  5. Foxy-
    Going to a small buisness to buy a mass marketed big name wedding dress? That's way overpriced given the materials? (They all are, every single one, I'm sorry.) I'm not sure that's any better than J Crew.

  6. I have to be honest with you -- I don't know why I read your blog. Maybe it's because your taste is well edited, and your writing is fun ... or maybe its because I find a way to fit all this wedding-y bridal shit into my messy, non-wedding-y life. You seem like a nice woman, and I'd like to think that you could be friends with my weird self in a parallel universe.

    I have absolutely no interest in ever getting married and I say, who cares if a dress is from J Crew? It's just one element of one day. Granted that day is a special day for most people... and a dress can help elevate that special-ness to an especially special level... but hopefully the family, friends, vows, and booze trump the dress as far as special-ness goes.

    J Crew is J Crew. They sell good work clothes, and I don't feel bad when my pets sleep on them. Their catalog can be a little misleading -- personal shoppers, wedding consultants, are you kidding me? Let's not kid ourselves, those dresses are whipped together by nimble, brown, far-away fingers... but if that's what blows up your skirt... who are we to judge?

    sigh. forgive the rant. :-)

  7. 17, I don't know why you read either, but I love that you do. Your rants are welcome anytime.

    I like to think of esb as a safe space for all of us to rant. No apologies necessary.

  8. I feel as though the J.Crew hate stems merely from its rising popularity, as a knee-jerk reaction to something that has become mainstream. Frankly, I find that shopping local and handmade has become quite prevalent, in direct correlation to the growing popularity of blogs, like this one, and websites like Etsy. I don't see the merit in demonizing a brand because it isn't couture or because the customer service doesn't include holding your hand through the process of choosing a wedding dress. Because, really, it's a dress. Do I really have to "choose a dress that matters to" me? Am I honestly expected to employ a great deal of thought and effort in picking a frock that I will most likely wear one time only? In a way, I feel that this sort of mentality is just as demeaning as your standard WIC.

    I wrote more, but realized that the same was said, with more vigor, by Meg and 17 beats. But note: I draped the skirt of my J.Crew wedding dress over my infant niece, who grinned and began yanking on it to the beat of our dance music, then happily stuck it in her mouth. Who cares where the dress came from when it can inspire beautiful moments like that?

  9. I love this box as much as the dress.

  10. When do we find out if she is wearing the dress? Still waiting!