Wednesday, November 13, 2013

[CENSORED] the Follow Up!

Hi ESB, 

Remember me? [I do remember you! But I'm not linking to your Dear ESB because let's not get you in trouble.] I just wanted write you with updates (and pictures!) about our wedding. 

It. Was. Fucking. AWESOME. 

FH (now H!) and I decided to use my mother's $3,000 gift along with our own money to put on the wedding WE wanted and could afford. This meant that our May 2014 date got pushed up to October 2013, as I had initially wanted, and we also opted to have an after-wedding dinner at a local restaurant instead of a formal reception. We also decided to use a portion of the money towards a 'pre-honeymoon' and spent three days before the big day alone, exploring our in-between city of Charleston, South Carolina, and enjoying each others company before our families and friends arrived. 

Our wedding was quiet and intimate, with a whopping grand total of 50 guests. Everything went as planned, so much so that for the first part of the day I was actually waiting for the other shoe to drop. I was especially anxious about how things would go with [CENSORED] and the dinner plans. But after I was dressed and preparing to walk down the aisle, I took a deep breath and decided to let whatever was going to happen, happen... and it turns out that that included choking up and crying like a baby halfway through the ceremony as I did my wedding reading, an excerpt from "Selected Letters of Friedrich Nietzsche." 

People always say that weddings are communal events, and ours definitely would not have been possible without the help of our family and friends. My grandmother officiated the wedding, our amazing friend Luc took the pictures, a close friend acted as impromptu wedding coordinator, and [CENSORED] my in-laws graciously paid for our wedding dinner! Your amazing advice coupled with that of your amazing commenters about [CENSORED] was completely correct. So thank you!

[CENSORED] Now That The Wedding Is Over


So much to you, Ladyfriend.

I actually started crying when I first opened your email.

(Photos by Luc Alexandre)


  1. I remember you!! I'm so glad it all worked out ok, and that you got to have the lovely, happy wedding YOU guys wanted. Your pictures are gorgeous - the happiness is so palpable.

  2. I remember you too! So glad things worked out esp family-wise! sounds like you ended up having the wedding you wanted! Your smile in the pictures says it all

  3. My memory is crap so I have no idea what's going on, but I'm super happy for you all the same! Congrats, lady! ♥

  4. Beautiful pictures - and sounds like a great wedding! The idea of a pre-honeymoon is great too, much nicer than frantically running around getting everything ready, good call there.

  5. Congratulations! It sounds -and looks (!!!)- like a beautiful wedding.

  6. such wonderful pictures. please tell us what the nietzsche reading was! (which page?) i'd love to know.

  7. Your pictures are beautiful! It sounds like a perfect day. Congratulations!

  8. So nice to see some PoCs up in this joint.

    1. I thought the same thing! Nice to see a beautiful bride of color.