wedding high-tops

do it do it do it.

i dare you to.

or: anabela's lovely little see by chloe sandals are still available in a couple of sizes. (see her "wedding style diary" here)

How do you know when to stop?

Hello ESB,

Accessorizing is a strange concept to me because I'm a minimalist. But the dress.needs.something.
It just does - I can tell.

So, I bought this from Twigs and Honey and I am thinking of a necklace or bracelet, too, but then...is that too much? Shoes are an issue too. It's a garden party in Sedona, so stilettos and everything I like will sink into the mud, no?

The real question is: how do you know when you have too many accessories. I don't want to overshadow the dress, or make myself look like a "royal."

Also, is it just me, or is everyone out there looking exactly the same? blah...

Thanks ever so.

*****

Stilettos will strand you in the middle of the lawn (or should I say the xeriscape?), but a CUTE pair of chunkier heels like these suede See by Chloes ought to be safe.

Bonus: You won't look like every other bride coming down the pike.

As for "How do you know when to stop?" I'd say as soon as you find yourself asking the question, it is TIME.

Shopping for a Pale Anti-Bride

Hey East Side Bride,

I need some style help! I'm a low key, not traditional but pale as hell gal putting together a not so wedding-ish wedding this spring (i.e. a morning wedding in an open space park, followed by a luncheon, only 30 of favorite people invited...no bridal party, no cake cutting, no dancing, no garter, no bouquet, no veil). I am not "a bride-y bride" by any means but for some reason the dress process is stressing me out and making me act insane! Poor UPS guy has been delivering and picking up items daily for weeks. 

For one, have I mentioned I'm pale as hell? Yes, I have Irish skin and most dresses wash me out. 2.) I can't bring myself to go to a bridal store. I've made 5 appointments at numerous places but canceled each one because the thought of a bridal store makes me nauseous. 3.) I would love something with character but is timeless...and isn't strapless. Not dissing the strapless dresses but everyone wears strapless, 4.) I don't want to spend over $500 (I know, I know). 5.) I only have a few months to find something so it would be easiest to pick off the rack rather than find something custom made. 6.) I don't want it to look too cliche bride-ish.

I know, long list for a "low-key" gal but the rest of the uneventful event is planned...the dress is just looming over my head. Any bit of style guidance would be so appreciated!

Best,
"Naked pale anti-bride"

*****

Dear NPAD,

For fair skin, what you need is an ivory or champagne, yes? No bright white.

How about this ivory Thakoon Addition?

Minus the stripper heels, pls. (Loubs are a bit much for a morning wedding.)

I also like the See By Chloé One Shoulder Dress, which is decidedly off-white.

Also styled with incredibly ugly shoes, which are giving me a nineties flashback and NOT in a good way.

Image via Charles Hall (Does he ever sleep?) via SEBASTIAN