tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post795876825697702311..comments2024-03-24T23:51:25.945-07:00Comments on east side bride: My unhelpful fiancé refuses to hire a wedding planneresbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-5932281933380153282011-07-19T21:14:53.222-07:002011-07-19T21:14:53.222-07:00i want to see him get married in wings...
i would ...i want to see him get married in wings...<br />i would kick my fiances ass if he posted a comment on a blog like the above instead if talking to me. seems like this is all out of hand, but hey if he wants to dress like a fairy and she doesnt. maybe they should have a think about it for a while before continuing plans.<br /><br />- louiseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-22023505347164499972011-07-07T16:27:30.864-07:002011-07-07T16:27:30.864-07:00"I've already had to find a way to talk h..."I've already had to find a way to talk him out of wearing wings for the whole occasion." Holy shit.laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14299420943796924888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-72715251444188681782011-07-07T14:57:28.975-07:002011-07-07T14:57:28.975-07:00Dude,
Bad form on trying to jump in. Just talk to ...Dude,<br />Bad form on trying to jump in. Just talk to the woman you LOVE and fix this. <br />For future reference; when you see a firing squad don't volunteer to stand in front of the target, it is bad for your health, lead poisoning for sure.Robhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06761422201906206218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-493819368555992062011-07-07T14:45:18.283-07:002011-07-07T14:45:18.283-07:00@nikki @braisinghell shitballs. and here i thought...@nikki @braisinghell shitballs. and here i thought i was being all *original*.Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05922091596290930281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-49221532439037780112011-07-07T14:44:58.417-07:002011-07-07T14:44:58.417-07:00HAHAHHAHAHA FAERIE SPRINGER!!
Seriously, you two....HAHAHHAHAHA FAERIE SPRINGER!!<br /><br />Seriously, you two. The details are just details. Weddings are about JOINING YOUR LIVES TOGETHER BECAUSE YOU LOVE EACH OTHER SO GODDAMN MUCH. You could skip all this stress and bullshit (and save your relationship) if you start planning around that theme, instead of faeries.Toniahttp://www.ittybittyimpact.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-4691007458356667762011-07-07T14:41:32.378-07:002011-07-07T14:41:32.378-07:00"As a man, we have a limited colour pallet an..."As a man, we have a limited colour pallet and we have little design sense. We are organizing, logistic, and doing creatures. Sometimes is the better for a mans ego and his relationship to just let her do it than risk large arguments."<br /><br />This makes you sound like an unbelievable jerk. Boys are from Mars blah blah blah blah blah sexist garbage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-91639674730427632692011-07-07T14:40:39.184-07:002011-07-07T14:40:39.184-07:00@celia - like braisinghell said, baest coeamment t...@celia - like braisinghell said, baest coeamment threiad evarrnikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06118368189622576399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-5126383263681456882011-07-07T14:33:09.864-07:002011-07-07T14:33:09.864-07:00on a positive note, the astral-travel honeymoon is...on a positive note, the astral-travel honeymoon is free.laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03429404210444847213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-26871276232052380902011-07-07T14:30:01.457-07:002011-07-07T14:30:01.457-07:00this shall go down in history as the best comment ...this shall go down in history as the best comment thread ever.Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05922091596290930281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-10562004780359495252011-07-07T14:29:43.629-07:002011-07-07T14:29:43.629-07:00The only redeeming feature of that "faerie&qu...The only redeeming feature of that "faerie" inspiration shoot is the goddamn actual owl. Cruel maybe, but badass.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-68034444519544157022011-07-07T14:23:48.547-07:002011-07-07T14:23:48.547-07:00@lauren - FAERIE SPRINGER! YES!
you know, the gro...@lauren - FAERIE SPRINGER! YES!<br /><br />you know, the groom went into a long "explanation"and he still didn't even explain his insistence on the faerie wedding.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-90456153049373832862011-07-07T14:22:20.803-07:002011-07-07T14:22:20.803-07:00it just got so daytime-talk-show sleazy in here, i...it just got so daytime-talk-show sleazy in here, i love it. i dub this drama "faerie springer."laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03429404210444847213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-25775380540780690982011-07-07T14:15:48.991-07:002011-07-07T14:15:48.991-07:00wow. i just read the fiancé's side and i'm...wow. i just read the fiancé's side and i'm in tears... and i'm not even the one who's engaged to him. :/Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05922091596290930281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-31692843674844554902011-07-07T14:07:50.831-07:002011-07-07T14:07:50.831-07:00Just got stressed out and I'm not even involve...Just got stressed out and I'm not even involved. Whew!Cori Jessyhttp://www.augandeverythingafter.blogpost.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-3646568447202374842011-07-07T14:05:56.943-07:002011-07-07T14:05:56.943-07:00oh, sadness. did my comment get deleted? was it to...oh, sadness. did my comment get deleted? was it too dirty? it's ok if it was.Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05922091596290930281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-76352509494083017472011-07-07T14:03:53.093-07:002011-07-07T14:03:53.093-07:00Wow. Premarital counseling. Now. If you need to co...Wow. Premarital counseling. Now. If you need to come to a BLOG to air your differences (and boy, are they different) and basically malign and contradict each other, you need to also air your differences to a professional. End of story.SpaceElephantnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-77884341800781534682011-07-07T14:02:07.423-07:002011-07-07T14:02:07.423-07:00Ugh, so much whining! You guys should just sign up...Ugh, so much whining! You guys should just sign up to be on an episode of <a href="http://www.slice.ca/shows/showspage.aspx?title_id=98222" rel="nofollow">Rich Bride, Poor Bride</a> and be done with it.paiiigehttp://bougybisous.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-2486672412362923782011-07-07T12:59:23.634-07:002011-07-07T12:59:23.634-07:00So I am the fiancé in question from this article a...So I am the fiancé in question from this article and I guess the first comment I have to address is that this is not fake. It is however presented vastly out of context. <br /><br />First my fiancé’s full time student status is only 0.5 credits away from part time student, so its not as heavy of a load as it might appear. Second, as a few of you were graceful enough to offer me the benefit of the doubt, I am just as busy as she. I am a full time student (full course load) and work 20+ hours a week. The problem here is that she is a speed reader and I am not, so she often finds herself with much more free time on her hands then me.<br /><br />Second, we have a two year engagement (I asked her to wait until we graduate to hold our wedding) so that in theory would provide us with enough time to successfully plan an extravagant wedding without all the stress.<br /><br />Third, I am not the unhelpful fiancé that I have been painted to be. As several of you have pointed out, the "bridezilla" personality has emerged and the opinions and ideas that I offer are "not acceptable" or are just "silly". For any of you reading this that are currently married you may appreciate the insufficiency/weakness that your husbands felt during the planning stage. As a man, we have a limited colour pallet and we have little design sense. We are organizing, logistic, and doing creatures. Sometimes is the better for a mans ego and his relationship to just let her do it than risk large arguments. I need to state however that I have offered countless times to assist with planning and organizing of the wedding but told that I don’t know what she wants and how she wants it done, or that I have poor creativity so there is no point in me helping. I have assisted with countless other things such as rallying together friends and strangers to help us win our wedding photos (a $4000 value) as well as I am organizing the entire stag and doe by myself. So this unhelpful fiancé is simple not as unhelpful as originally presented.<br /><br />Finally my issue with the wedding planner is primarily the cost. As mentioned we are both students and since we are paying for the wedding ourselves the budget is very tight. Despite this I am giving in to the very pricey other items that she has requested such as expensive chair rentals and expensive photographers (this was before we won it) and a VERY pricey décor budget. Once again I had another very expensive item pushed in front of me and told we had to pay for it. I was offered no choice in planners and as pointed out I felt that this very expensive planner (who was offering very little for the price tag) was just going to de-rail our budget further and give my opinion even less value. I am not against the idea of a planner in general, but I was against the idea of THIS planner and A planner in general for the amount we have left to plan for the wedding (since about 60% of everything has already been taken care of/organized). I could not see the value in a planner when we needed one only for décor, especially for the prices being presented.<br /><br />Anyways, I just felt that my side of the story should also be presented so that people can pass accurate judgment over the situationAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-13589291520828993942011-07-07T12:21:17.484-07:002011-07-07T12:21:17.484-07:00@ KT Bang on.
We talked, we've come to the a...@ KT Bang on. <br /><br />We talked, we've come to the agreement that we ARE going to get a planner, we're interviewing a bunch this week. Because he was uncomfortable with the planner we had (I thought) decided on, his reaction was to say planners are useless.<br /><br />As the girl who sent this in I can seriously attest that it is all true, and the man seriously wants a faerie forest wedding. I have only myself to blame, becuase I thought it was a great idea for seriously awesome engagement photos, and now he wants the entire wedding that way. If it were his choice, it would be this: http://www.kissthegroom.com/2009/06/the-faery-wedding/ . Not what I want. Period. I've already had to find a way to talk him out of wearing wings for the whole occasion. <br /><br />Anyway, success, planner in hand I will work my way towards a faerie wedding that hits more on glam royalty (in the forest) than children's birthday party. <br /><br />(and for those of you who wondered faerie/ fairy, I'm speaking like dark mythical Brian Froud, not tinkerbell)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-23188654959702731862011-07-01T12:33:56.915-07:002011-07-01T12:33:56.915-07:00Ultimatum: Hire a planner or ditch the faerie fore...Ultimatum: Hire a planner or ditch the faerie forest wedding. (My opinion? Forest, yes. Faerie, NO OMG)allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06523194533953519070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-7921075821433584112011-07-01T12:30:19.220-07:002011-07-01T12:30:19.220-07:00@tamerajane - When someone says FOREST wedding, I ...@tamerajane - When someone says FOREST wedding, I think of your amazing wedding; I thought she might find it inspiring. <br /><br />My husband and I had a super-small outdoor wedding. We couldn't afford a planner, but our friends and family (especially my mother-in-law) really pulled through and made everything happen for us. <br /><br />Those were my points to the bride. I didn't mean to offend you in any way. xo. <br /><br />p.s. I don't really know what a "fairy" wedding is. So, there's that.nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06751056646800096858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-8729320389703390152011-06-30T18:44:19.422-07:002011-06-30T18:44:19.422-07:00You guys. Go easy. I'm a newlywed who planne...You guys. Go easy. I'm a newlywed who planned my wedding while in graduate school and working. Let me tell you, it was not a walk in the park. At times it felt isolating, no one could do any of it for me. It would have been MUCH better to hire a planner.<br /><br />So I see this letter to ESB as a cry for help. Maybe this couple is still working out the kinks of communicating while planning their wedding. (doesn't everyone have that experience?) Maybe he is dismayed by all the DECISIONS and the MONEY and the stuff about weddings he doesn't really get. Maybe she is having a hard time admitting to him exactly how much work it all is, especially the school part. We shouldn't jump down their throats about getting premarital counseling just because they had a rough conversation about whether to hire a planner, which perhaps this message is a product of. She just needs some external validation.<br /><br />So even if all the readers can't get behind the aesthetic, at least we can pull together and say this: hiring a planner who gets you and your needs is a great idea. Your academic and professional performance are worth it. <br /><br />Also: have a good honest conversation with your fiancé about what he wants out of a wedding, the theme, how much you guys will spend, what he feels he can contribute, and what you see as the masterplan. Just getting both of you on the same page will feel really good. Good luck! Let us know how it goes.KThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09588144815538080078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-16186540127833090902011-06-30T17:53:55.533-07:002011-06-30T17:53:55.533-07:00Hahahaha @braisinghellHahahaha @braisinghellnikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06118368189622576399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-10994735808295714542011-06-30T17:37:21.094-07:002011-06-30T17:37:21.094-07:00you lost me at "faerie" and "unhelp...you lost me at "faerie" and "unhelpful". this is pure DRAMA. i'm sorry, but no, just NO to this whole wedding. i was going to school part-time, working full time and located hundreds of miles away from my wedding site last year and let me tell you...you NEED a planner. but first, it sounds like you need a real "faerie" that does premarital counseling.angelahttp://ten9ten.usnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-69740845124140521852011-06-30T16:11:10.502-07:002011-06-30T16:11:10.502-07:00Best comment thread. Or Baest coeamment threiad?Best comment thread. Or Baest coeamment threiad?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com