tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post7854106685017433299..comments2024-03-24T23:51:25.945-07:00Comments on east side bride: Hey ESB, Remember Me?esbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-2938083319953913102012-07-26T06:30:21.888-07:002012-07-26T06:30:21.888-07:00I am reading this blog from present to past - and ...I am reading this blog from present to past - and came across this one. WAY TO GO GIRL!!!!! And such a nice and moving part of advice to your past self!Lucenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-54668004112203130712011-08-21T02:50:28.470-07:002011-08-21T02:50:28.470-07:00Well shot, well done.Well shot, well done.anna and the ringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13061035220548972874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-53368931191505577122011-08-20T01:09:18.164-07:002011-08-20T01:09:18.164-07:00Well done Lady, well done.
And *this* is what es...Well done Lady, well done. <br /><br />And *this* is what esb is all about, in between the snark there are (real, truly, genuinely) life-saving posts. Which isn't to say I don't love the snark, who doesn't love the snark?carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09351483253361159121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-76453365138691073852011-08-19T11:20:46.848-07:002011-08-19T11:20:46.848-07:00Fcuking good post!! We need to stand up for oursel...Fcuking good post!! We need to stand up for ourselves more often!strawberriesinparishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05273994224116429946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-39759696409923812202011-08-19T06:05:40.544-07:002011-08-19T06:05:40.544-07:00@Anon, I totally understand where you're siste...@Anon, I totally understand where you're sister is coming from. I do have my days, and I do have my moments where I can't. do. anything.<br /><br />But time heals all, and every day is another chance for me to be a little bit stronger. If I have a bad day, I tell myself again and again that I've got more going on for me than this. My life is composed of infinite amazing moments; not one horrifying stint. :)And, obviously, I can be wrong. If nothing else, I've learned patience for my future, and forgiveness for myself through this. <3<br /><br />I was saved because I got lucky. When I left, I ran immediately into the arms of women who pulled me through. Women who validated everything that had happened, women who confirmed my suspicions. They spoke up.<br /><br />Not all women are as lucky as me. It is important for you to give your loved ones OPTIONS, to give them your OPINION, and to again, and again, and again, ASK THEM TO LEAVE THEIR ABUSER. Be blunt. Be bold. Be brave. Believe me, this is not time to be tip-toeing around.<br /><br />To all- <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3<br /> I am grateful for you and your heart.Lady Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12167637138746970962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-18217033644371300272011-08-19T03:38:14.950-07:002011-08-19T03:38:14.950-07:00I had to help my younger sister through a very sim...I had to help my younger sister through a very similar and harrowing experience last year and it was so hard to see her at such a low ebb in her life. He took her money and put her into debt, manipulated her, verbally abused her and she worked two jobs to support him and his two children from a previous relationship while he didn't have a job. She eventually came home and it has been a year long recovery - she is still going to therapy.<br /> You sound like you are in a better place. While my sister wasn't engaged to her prick of an ex, she truly believed that he was her soulmate. I know that there are days where all you want to do is cry and curl up. But you are so unbelievably brave for standing up and walking out. Be proud of who you are.As you can see, we all are. The future is yours! xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-66747444051757206122011-08-18T23:24:50.392-07:002011-08-18T23:24:50.392-07:00Lady X, so much love to you.Lady X, so much love to you.Rebeccanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-60882551676446545702011-08-18T16:47:54.534-07:002011-08-18T16:47:54.534-07:00Lady X, thank you for the advice - the last paragr...Lady X, thank you for the advice - the last paragraph rang so true for me! I've been out of a 6yr, very one sided relationship, for the last 2 months and I feel so freeeeee! Wishing us both all the happiness in the world that we so deserve. XXAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-55192047251264042652011-08-18T16:44:32.311-07:002011-08-18T16:44:32.311-07:00FUCK HIM.
The good news is it only took you 4 mo...FUCK HIM. <br /><br />The good news is it only took you 4 months! So many of us have wasted years and decades in relationships that are beneath us. I've been trying to get a girlfriend to cut and run from a completely different type of asshole for 4 years. I've said all those things to her, and she won't hear it. She tells me things he's done months and years after because she knows how mad I'll be. <br /><br />Never look back, lady.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-34095776358307725132011-08-18T15:11:50.321-07:002011-08-18T15:11:50.321-07:00(And I know it's not necessary to say, but tha...(And I know it's not necessary to say, but that awful, crazypants JERK will totally get what's coming to him. I hope you reported him to the authorities!)Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15456305006762703931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-43955304687166129282011-08-18T15:10:27.965-07:002011-08-18T15:10:27.965-07:00I'm never good with words and I decided to jum...I'm never good with words and I decided to jump past the comments for a moment to say how brave, strong and generous you are - for coming out of this with such strength and a good outlook for the future, and for sharing with all of us and anyone who might be in a similar boat. We know things can't be easy for you right now having most of your physical and monetary belongings destroyed, not to mention the emotional/physical repercussions, but this is truly where you get to start fresh and chase whatever it is you'd like to do. We're all rooting for you and sending much love your way!! Hope maybe you'll update us another 4 months down the line :)Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15456305006762703931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-38501609691495276572011-08-18T14:47:47.943-07:002011-08-18T14:47:47.943-07:00Lady X: you're brave... and wise... and you co...Lady X: you're brave... and wise... and you couldn't have gotten where u are now... without this experience... so no, thank life for it, thank life that it's already past... and eat the world!!! All my love for you! ;) TiffTiffany| Wholesale Flowers Storehttp://www.wholeblossoms.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-31321229850992149662011-08-18T14:37:03.743-07:002011-08-18T14:37:03.743-07:00Well bloody done.
*joins standing ovation*
Well ...Well bloody done.<br /><br />*joins standing ovation*<br /><br />Well written too.Catherinehttp://somevagueutopia.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-47685415221124548112011-08-18T13:43:26.976-07:002011-08-18T13:43:26.976-07:00Lady X. Thanks for sharing with us. I know how dif...Lady X. Thanks for sharing with us. I know how difficult that situation must have been for you AND your family. My SIL has gone through something similar in the last year or so and it was a very harrowing process to watch her go through. We are all proud of you for leaving. You deserve nothing but the best... You got out now, which is the important thing. <br /><br />ESB, thanks for posting. You keep it real.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-81576116376274101562011-08-18T13:20:11.759-07:002011-08-18T13:20:11.759-07:00what a fucking douche.
Lady X - it all goes up fr...what a fucking douche.<br /><br />Lady X - it all goes up from here.nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06118368189622576399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-11952149657675922472011-08-18T13:12:03.268-07:002011-08-18T13:12:03.268-07:00Woah. So awesome, girl. It can only get better fro...Woah. So awesome, girl. It can only get better from here. <br /><br />I always try to remember this little piece of advice, gleaned from a lot of shitty past relationships: "If you're embarrassed/reluctant to tell your mom/friends/sister/shrink about this person's behavior, you probably got a rotten one on your hands."Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06123337745430790122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-26719025121553275212011-08-18T13:11:01.080-07:002011-08-18T13:11:01.080-07:00STANDING OVATION!! Getting out of a relationship w...STANDING OVATION!! Getting out of a relationship w a controlling and abusive person takes balls. I know, I've been there. Sharing your story also takes courage. The sign of truly overcoming something is when you can turn it into something good...and you just did. The warning signs of control, manipulation, and emotional abuse should be put on a pamphlet and passed out to everyone in the dating game.Kimberly Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10173555434613085705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-23058663920243592222011-08-18T13:00:14.326-07:002011-08-18T13:00:14.326-07:00oh wow, hello being a sobbing mess at work. I have...oh wow, hello being a sobbing mess at work. I have been there and it sucks and I'm so happy you got away. I got away and it was hard and it was ugly but now my life is hard and beautiful.<br /><br />so much love.JenMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-79428560321101071732011-08-18T12:52:57.767-07:002011-08-18T12:52:57.767-07:00This is an amazing post and I am so glad you are g...This is an amazing post and I am so glad you are good and sage, Lady X. It is amazing how quickly you turned your shit around--you are one strong lady. Thanks for posting this, ESB.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-38395401168674708092011-08-18T12:47:51.601-07:002011-08-18T12:47:51.601-07:00so many internet hugs, lady x. your bravery is ins...so many internet hugs, lady x. your bravery is inspiring. all the very best to you from here on out!Ms Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06990466546123333194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-73360325924768933762011-08-18T12:43:42.055-07:002011-08-18T12:43:42.055-07:00Thanks for posting this. That you were brave enoug...Thanks for posting this. That you were brave enough to leave, is the best thing you've ever done, the best gift to yourself. I know, because I still swell with pride when I think that I left my jerk. GOOD FOR YOU HONEY. Hugs xJuliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01507916683463015322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-3029835486399943132011-08-18T12:21:47.724-07:002011-08-18T12:21:47.724-07:00hugs to you, lady x. i speak from experience when ...hugs to you, lady x. i speak from experience when i say you'll be stronger for it. i dated a manipulative jerk when i was 20, he sucked me away from my friends, my family, my life. we went shopping for shoes for him, he asked what i thought of pair x and pair y, i said pair x! he bought pair y. he'd tell me i was special and then he'd cut me down.<br />a few years later, i'm with a sweetheart who gets me, who loves my family and my friends, who values my opinions and who washes the dishes when i cook (or vice versa). i'm glad i dated the jerk first though, because i wouldn't appreciate all the awesomeness if i'd never dealt with the crap. hugs, hugs and more hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-41948714034671635782011-08-18T11:47:03.833-07:002011-08-18T11:47:03.833-07:00So happy that you got away from that!! The rest of...So happy that you got away from that!! The rest of your life starts now. Cliché but true. Get 'er done! :) :) :)Toniahttp://www.ittybittyimpact.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-38107059748680161382011-08-18T11:24:00.040-07:002011-08-18T11:24:00.040-07:00So brave of you Lady X, and ESB, thanks for sharin...So brave of you Lady X, and ESB, thanks for sharing it here. Relationships aren't always butterflies and rainbows, and it takes serious balls to get real with it. Love to you!Marenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12166318045480162195noreply@blogger.com