tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post5778093860959278268..comments2024-03-24T23:51:25.945-07:00Comments on east side bride: I'd rather eat toothpicks than shop at David's Bridalesbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comBlogger82125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-20825368811922309382015-06-15T10:55:01.507-07:002015-06-15T10:55:01.507-07:00Wow, when I see these responses, I think I deserve...Wow, when I see these responses, I think I deserve a big pat on the back, because I not only allowed my bridesmaids to choose their own dresses, but I also paid for them, and I know for a fact that my chief bridesmaid wore her dress again at least twice. <br /><br />Brides turning into obsessed monsters is the exact reason why I have bowed out being a bridesmaid at three weddings in my twenties. I have a severe polyester allergy (painful, itchy rash with blisters within an hour of wearing that crap), and there is nobody, please let me repeat, nobody, in the world whose wedding vision is worth harming my health. <br /><br />Here's my take on this situation: if you want people to wear a specific item, you pay for it. If you cannot do that, you let them wear a suitable dress they own. Full stop. End of drama. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-90155779339706961372011-01-25T20:07:23.340-08:002011-01-25T20:07:23.340-08:00COME ON ALREADY!!! WTF?
You agreed to be a bride...COME ON ALREADY!!! WTF?<br /><br />You agreed to be a bridesmaid. Period. It's the bride's wedding, get the eff over it.<br /><br />I can't believe there is an argument about this.<br /><br />Be a good friend and stop being so damn selfish.Daniellenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-59382867372430028882010-08-01T17:48:46.780-07:002010-08-01T17:48:46.780-07:00First of all, I'd like to know - why the hatre...First of all, I'd like to know - why the hatred towards David's Bridal? I don't like them because my experience with the company has NEVER been great. But I'm curious why, East Side Bride, you do not like the company.<br /><br />For my wedding four weeks ago, my bridesmaids wore a gorgeous Alfred Angelo dress in a dark gold... they all loved it, and two have them have worn the dress since.penny. LAhttp://pennyla.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-56285991849417677492010-06-27T09:22:29.977-07:002010-06-27T09:22:29.977-07:00i have let my bridesmaids pick their dresses, and ...i have let my bridesmaids pick their dresses, and it was awesome, nightlarke.lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00379596904318935981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-41349779797081842152010-06-27T02:19:02.622-07:002010-06-27T02:19:02.622-07:00Wow. The range of responses is absolutely amazing....Wow. The range of responses is absolutely amazing. <br /><br />First off, I'd like to say I get where you're coming from completely. I've had my "Death to David's Bridal" rant several times already...and my friends are nowhere near getting married! The service is horrendous and alterations are a bitch that somehow cost an arm and a half. So a dress that costs about 150 now becomes 200-250. And the whole wedding machine complex shit just kills me a little inside each time.<br /><br />Here's my advice:<br /><br />Don't just "suck it up". Honestly don't - you and the bride-to-be are friends for a reason. She respects you for who you are and appreciates all the quirky shit that makes you you. <br /><br />HOWEVER, do be gracious about it. Round up the bridesmaids (as many as possible), go to David's Bridal with an open mind, and try on the dresses. Crack a smile. Don't whine or immediately dismiss the options. If that means one more glass of champagne than usual, go for it. Then, see how everyone else reacts, especially the bride. Odds are she'll have doubts and if she voices them, THEN feel free to suggest an alternative. I would respect the color and style she has.<br /><br />You could even ask if you could take the whole bridesmaid dresses search as a mission of sorts, thus making you a proactive, helpful bridesmaid and a good friend. Ask her what she wants, ask the other bridesmaids what their budget is and what looks good on them and start searching ASAP.<br /><br />Love and respect your friend. Don't make her feel uncomfortable for her choices/ideas - there are plenty of people doing that for her wedding as is - I PROMISE. I'm sure she isn't disregarding your views; in the wedding world, finding the perfect dress at the perfect price in the perfect color is damn near impossible to find. <br /><br />Hope that helps! If nothing else, accessorize like there's no tomorrow!R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/18349450030401993394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-74505488368901679512010-06-25T09:56:53.660-07:002010-06-25T09:56:53.660-07:00@ L:
An excelent plan. Get them something pretty ...@ L:<br /><br />An excelent plan. Get them something pretty you think will suit them, and be done with it. I wish I had done the same. I'm sorry your friends aren't meeting you halfway on this.<br /><br />For what it's worth, my best friend got a $40 satin minidress from H&M and my sister got a $300 designer bridesmaid dress. They will look equally gorgeous and be equally happy, thank god. <br /><br />Other amazing resources we could easily have gone with? Zappo's and Bluefly! Do it for the free shipping if you live in the US... if you get the wrong size, no worries.<br /><br />To everyone in the comment thread asking, "Why don't brides just let bridesmaids pick their dresses?": <br /><br />THIS is why. Unless you've done gone that route yourself, you have no idea the strain it can put on a friendship.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-86329797692431397762010-06-24T21:19:22.075-07:002010-06-24T21:19:22.075-07:00I think the fact that it's in email form someh...I think the fact that it's in email form somehow makes it worse too. Like if my bridesmaids and I could all just meet up, go look dresses together we could have a normal discussion about it and I'm sure their knocking back my suggestions wouldn't hurt so much. <br />But when you've gone out on your own, pulled together all these ideas and inspirations, loaded the photos into an email and typed up massive summaries for each dress, then you get super short emails back totally dismissing it, it feels pretty shitty. And the amount of back and forth over what I thought were quick easy decisions is just insane. <br />I think I'm just going to end up buying the dresses and sending them out with no more discussion. I'm so done with this!!Lnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-59126184986634810882010-06-24T12:59:12.218-07:002010-06-24T12:59:12.218-07:00Also: I concur with the majority, as in...
Not ex...Also: I concur with the majority, as in...<br /><br />Not expensive. Not a ballgown. No "sparkle vomit". So count your lucky stars and WEAR IT.<br /><br />a) The styles are not terrible; in fact, they're borderline pretty! Look pretty flattering, too... check out the reviews.<br />b) The blue is also not terrible.<br />c) They are COTTON DRESSES, for gods sake. Do you know how phenomentally rare a natural fabric is in an affordable bridesmaid dress? Thank your lucky starts that YOUR SKIN CAN BREATHE.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-46961082855850820542010-06-24T12:43:43.391-07:002010-06-24T12:43:43.391-07:00@L, re. the "wear any dress in X colour"...@L, re. the "wear any dress in X colour" approach:<br /><br />YES. EXACTLY WHAT YOU SAID. THAT WAS MY LIFE FOR FOUR HORRIBLE MONTHS. Substitute "prairie wedding" for "forest wedding", and THAT WAS EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED TO ME.<br /><br />My sister wanted to look like a bridesmaid. My best friend wanted to look like a bridesmaid. My mom wanted them both to look like bridemaids. All three had totally different visions of what a "bridesmaid" wears. The emails were RIDICULOUS.<br /><br />In hindsight, I should have just bought them dresses I thought suited their bodies and personalities.<br /><br />(To add insult to injury? I PAID FOR THEIR DRESSES.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-65140208585334554792010-06-24T11:17:50.020-07:002010-06-24T11:17:50.020-07:00YESSSSS!!!! That photo is worth this whole entire...YESSSSS!!!! That photo is worth this whole entire thread!FKnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-78810233558972868452010-06-23T17:28:03.738-07:002010-06-23T17:28:03.738-07:00Whoa you guys. ANGIE POSTED A PHOTO.Whoa you guys. ANGIE POSTED <a href="http://onecatperperson.blogspot.com/2010/06/i-dont-wanna-hear-it.html" rel="nofollow">A PHOTO</a>.east side bridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06206689296805893265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-29143746232261503762010-06-23T12:41:35.046-07:002010-06-23T12:41:35.046-07:00You should remember that the bride is probably thi...You should remember that the bride is probably thinking about the bridesmaids (I assume you don't fall into this category) who might not have the means to afford a designer dress. <br /><br />I know this blog is all about avoiding Big Box retailers, but the bottom line is the dress label suggested here are WAY more expensive than a J. Crew or David's Bridal dress. The listed prices of the dresses may not be, but I put my bridesmaids in Jenny Yoo and the alteration costs tacked on at least $50 to each dress, assuming the alterations were not extensive. That's because, for whatever reason, bridesmaid dresses don't come in normal sizes. You just don't have to alter a J. Crew dress - you can simply buy your size and be done with it. I'm not sure what the David's Bridal sizing is like, but I would assume that the dresses are so cheap, extra alterations would not be an issue.<br /><br />Sure, the Jenny Yoo material was actually nice, I picked a flattering color and I asked everyone chose their own dress style, but, in reality, that means maybe 2/3s of the bridesmaids will actually reuse the dress. <br /><br />If you have a problem with David's Bridal, don't chose that store for your own wedding. It might have been appropriate to bring up you issues with David's Bridal BEFORE the bride sent you the dress. It is not okay to do so now. You might try sending her a link to another dress that she may end up liking better. But, she's probably trying to be considerate and not force people to spend $300 on a dress at least some bridesmaids won't wear again. <br /><br />Basically, your question and the answer from East Side (as much as I like the blog) read as kind of snobby and holier than thou. Try to see it from the bride's point of view - it sounds like she's trying really hard to find something inexpensive and cute. By all means, suggest another dress but do so gently and prepared to buy the David's Bridal one if it's what she decides to go with. You can spend the $150 you save buying the David's Bridal dress donating to a nonprofit that specializes in labor practice issues for clothing companies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-19300471148989301972010-06-22T10:26:01.998-07:002010-06-22T10:26:01.998-07:00whew. this thread wore me out. seriously. wore-me-...whew. this thread wore me out. seriously. wore-me-out.<br /><br />if you didn't know that the dress came from david's bridal...and you just saw a picture of it, would you still hate it?Christina Terrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16063442574162001657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-88661521649840593112010-06-22T03:31:26.356-07:002010-06-22T03:31:26.356-07:00I feel so sorry for the bride in this e-mail. She...I feel so sorry for the bride in this e-mail. She's happened across a dress that she loves and that will work for her various bridesmaids body types, found that it was a) available and b) affordable, has sent an excited e-mail around to all of her friends. Now one of these friends is going to come back and start bitching about how she hates the store it comes from and can't-we-find-something-else-what-about-this-one-i-am-a-special-snowflake. <br /><br />That poor bride is about to get her (potentially) first Wedding Disappointment, where she learns that while it really is her wedding and everyone claims that she gets to do as she pleases, she really has to bend what she wants around the rigidly-held opinions of everyone involved, or risk being labelled a "Bridezilla." She was probably expecting this from the older generation and the future in-laws, but it's a new and shiny fuck-you when she gets to find out that even her so-called closest friends want to make her wedding planning as fraught with stress as possible by forcing her to work around whatever opinions they might have, too. <br /><br />Friends suck it up for other friends, especially on their wedding day. Please just wear the damn dress and spare your friend the knowledge that you think your bullshit is more important than her happiness for one goddamned day.Ghanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04610010494608749009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-5650569994133827912010-06-21T18:56:28.765-07:002010-06-21T18:56:28.765-07:00i keep coming back to this post and feeding on the...i keep coming back to this post and feeding on the angst in the comments. i feel like the emperor in <i>return of the jedi</i>. is that wrong?laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03429404210444847213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-64970379479533762492010-06-21T11:10:01.628-07:002010-06-21T11:10:01.628-07:00this is too funny...cause thats the dress I chose ...this is too funny...cause thats the dress I chose for my bridesmaids! In yellow though haha. I liked it because v-necks are flattering, and I liked the sort of vintagey-classy feel it has.<br /><br />Honestly, I never thought I'd ask anyone to buy a DB dress because it tends to be rather cheap quality, but I acutally liked the fabric of this dress, cotton and cool for summer. AND its in a price range that most people can afford...<br /><br />However much I might like this dress though, it is absolutely no reflection on how I feel about the service/presentation of the actual store. That is a whole other matter!!<br /><br />Last thing...two of my bridesmaids weren't impressed by it...and voiced their opinions. But you know what? I already wore dresses to their weddings that I hated, and said NOTHING...so in my opinion, if she loves the dress, keep your mouth shut. Its respectful, and seriously the bride doesn't need battles on every front.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-60231633658056753822010-06-21T10:42:17.806-07:002010-06-21T10:42:17.806-07:00If I had a friend that "ducked out" from...If I had a friend that "ducked out" from being a bridesmaid because she "had" to wear a David's Bridal dress, I think I would think twice about ever calling her a friend again. Seriously, ladies. When did we get so mean to start calling each other "idiots," "bitches," and giving horrible possible friendship ending advice?!<br /><br />And this is coming from someone who's sister had her running all around a mall and the internet TWO DAYS before the wedding because her sister decided she didn't really like the dress on her anymore (the dress that she helped pick out) and "to compromise" she did a dress change at the reception.<br /><br />I felt pressured, taken advantage of, stressed, and hurt.<br /><br />People still "joke" about how the bride didn't change dresses but the MOH did. Sadly, even though she realized how crazy she was acting and apologized like no other (months after the fact), I still remember how upset it made me and how inconsiderate it was. And it wasn't about the dress, it was all of the stress I was already dealing with and then having my best friend tell me the dress we picked together "wasn't good enough anymore" and that all of her other friends thought "I'd be so irrational and unfair if I didn't give in." Talk about feeling pressured.<br /><br />If she wasn't my sister, I wouldn't have put up with the headaches and stress that brought me (and thus my husband) RIGHT BEFORE leaving town for our wedding.<br /><br />Just try to put yourself in her shoes and decide if you want something as small as a dress to come between you two.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-5534379523975989042010-06-21T07:20:12.891-07:002010-06-21T07:20:12.891-07:00I think it depends where in the timeline she is of...I think it depends where in the timeline she is of shopping for dresses. Are these some of the first dresses shes looked at? In that case, she is asking your opinion - gently say those dresses are ok but here are some better alternatives.<br /><br />If, on the other hand, this is the pick between the two finalists that she has finally decided on....then say they look great, wear it, and smile. You won't be the only one in it, its just a dress, and its just a day.<br /><br />I always assume when I take on the role of bridesmaid that I'm going to be put in an ugly dress that I will never wear again. Thats just my point blank assumption. And most of the time its true. I wouldn't be the person's bridesmaid if I didn't care about her enough to wear whatever ugly thing she picked out.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10972465903387097782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-68612390389867818142010-06-20T07:07:34.579-07:002010-06-20T07:07:34.579-07:00I agree with you 110%. I think mostly because it ...I agree with you 110%. I think mostly because it reminds me of all the Pittsburgh weddings I went to as a child; You know the same cheesy wedding, just insert a different bride and groom. I ran far far away from David's Bridal, and nailed down an amazing Priscilla of Boston Vintage looking dress and hoping to do the same for the bride's maids. They are max $300. It's a good thing your friend has you for guidance! I'm sure you'll be honest with her!Kaira Klueberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058586675616986150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-79981078668698887292010-06-19T22:41:57.520-07:002010-06-19T22:41:57.520-07:00holy shit- those bitches who are arguing FOR david...holy shit- those bitches who are arguing FOR davids bridal have obviously never shopped there. if i were you i would gracefully bow out of my bridesmaid position- and i will, may i ever encounter a bride who makes me buy a dress there again<br /><br />it IS that bad, you idiots! it IS. not only do the dresses suck, the employees are relationship-less bitter hags, dresses are lost, sizes are screwed up, hair is pulled out, etc etc. i have not 1, not 2, but THREE db horror stories. it is not worth the dramaH.H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16448982070532862844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-32276274792442975762010-06-19T18:39:58.166-07:002010-06-19T18:39:58.166-07:00ugh. so many negative comments! Ick! Anyway, if yo...ugh. so many negative comments! Ick! Anyway, if you're looking for something the same color, I think <a href="http://www.anntaylor.com/catalog/category.jsp?N=1200007+1500005&categoryId=180&pCategoryId=3939&Ne=1500001&Ns=CATEGORY_SEQ_180&Nty=1&loc=TN&colorFamily=Blue" rel="nofollow">Ann Talyor's Peacock blue</a> is close to the Horizon blue color your friend is looking for, but neither of the 2 dresses currently available in that color are similar is feel/style to the DB dress..... I'm with you on the no shopping there, when I gave it a chance the woman "helping me" opened the door to me in my panties, wiggling into my spanx, wide enough to show all my goods to a prom girl and her mom, and a bride and her dad. No bueno.violarulz/ducksandbookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06223425002708139409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-17977038665774720952010-06-19T10:10:45.526-07:002010-06-19T10:10:45.526-07:00don't be her bridesmaid. problem solved.don't be her bridesmaid. problem solved.Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05922091596290930281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-14962566736840322862010-06-19T04:51:11.693-07:002010-06-19T04:51:11.693-07:00@Kerry- I'm not sure where they came from. But...@Kerry- I'm not sure where they came from. But if you send me your email, I'll show you how awesome they are!Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07075148009608610305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-38637872877021934422010-06-19T00:32:00.157-07:002010-06-19T00:32:00.157-07:00The closest of my bridesmaid lives 4 hours drive a...The closest of my bridesmaid lives 4 hours drive away. The next closest: 6 hour flight. The other two are in London and Spain. <br />I wanted to pick a colour and tell them to go for it. I don't want barbies that I dress and tell them how to have their hair and makeup. I want my best friends to look like themselves in their own gorgeous ways. I thought it would be great. <br /><br />IT HAS BECOME A NIGHTMARE. <br /><br />I have spent hours and hours browsing the internet and gathering inspiration pictures. I've spent hours trying on dresses, taking photos of myself and sending them. Until this week, none of them really provided much helpful feedback at all, just knocked down my ideas. <br /><br />It turns out, most of them want to look like bridesmaids. They think the dresses I like are too casual for a wedding. We're getting married in a forest!!! How dressy do they wanna be?!?! I pretty much can't handle even thinking about it right now, although I am in the middle of exams so that explains the abnormally high stress level. I just wanted to be a chilled out bride, I thought the bridesmaids dresses would be probably the easiest thing to cross off! Any advice would be great. And please don't just say "it's your wedding, you pick the dress". None of us have much money, I do not want them to have to buy dresses they can't wear again but that's where they are headed. Also the MOH is my big sister, so she is rather opinionated on what she wants to wear to her little sister's wedding.<br /><br />Sorry for such long rant!Lnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-7572393981915543532010-06-18T19:40:21.213-07:002010-06-18T19:40:21.213-07:00Of all of the DB grossness that she could stuff yo...Of all of the DB grossness that she could stuff you in, you complain about this one? Or hell, ANY fug dress labeled "bridesmaid" by any large company or dress store, this is the least offensive I've seen, DB though it may be.<br /><br />I think there are some very reasonable comments suggesting you find an alternative. But as a past-bride, I would have been really hurt if my friends reacted the way that many of the comments are instructing you to do. Don't be a bitch, this isn't the time.blind irish piratehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13781314774264492284noreply@blogger.com