tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post4666253583635259430..comments2024-03-24T23:51:25.945-07:00Comments on east side bride: Duties for Bridesmaids?esbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-27410508305272685722013-02-12T15:29:47.987-08:002013-02-12T15:29:47.987-08:00I don't think it's typical for there to be...I don't think it's typical for there to be more than one shower.<br /><br />I know one of my bridesmaids isn't going to make it to my [one] shower, due to being across the damn country, but sometimes I wonder if one of my other ones will bother showing up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-42358625545551167152013-02-12T13:40:18.346-08:002013-02-12T13:40:18.346-08:00I agree.
But are bridesmaids expected to come to ...I agree.<br /><br />But are bridesmaids expected to come to all the bride's showers? I was invited to the family-thrown shower, the friend-thrown shower and the other-side-of-the-family-thrown shower for one bride. I was one of her bridesmaids, but I didn't go to any of them because I live 4 hrs away from her. I DID help organize and attend the bachelorette party, though...Toniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17040748046436860770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-4262402798350298532013-02-12T12:15:38.587-08:002013-02-12T12:15:38.587-08:00I feel like showers are Aunt territory.I feel like showers are Aunt territory.Hillary Schusterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03874750431495369292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-33083210192549113122013-02-12T08:23:39.236-08:002013-02-12T08:23:39.236-08:00@christinarosetti Exactly.@christinarosetti Exactly.Toniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17040748046436860770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-27727652371660740602013-02-12T08:14:51.773-08:002013-02-12T08:14:51.773-08:00Yeah, I really appreciated it when my bridesmaids ...Yeah, I really appreciated it when my bridesmaids asked about wedding planning. Mostly because it's nice to know someone else is interested and actually cares, you know? I tried not to bore them with all the details, but it was good to talk about it with someone other than my fiance or my mother.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11198635511796593911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-39793707082480345192013-02-12T08:13:03.638-08:002013-02-12T08:13:03.638-08:00-help plan and attend her bridal shower if you'...-help plan and attend her bridal shower if you're able to (within reason! you shouldn't spend tons of money and fly thousands of miles to go to a damn shower.)<br /><br />-on the day of: offer to get her water, help her put on her shoes, tell her if her eye makeup is running, run interference on crazy in-laws or wedding guests.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11198635511796593911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-60705948796146293542013-02-12T05:26:27.856-08:002013-02-12T05:26:27.856-08:00some additional tasks could be things like:
-go d...some additional tasks could be things like:<br /><br />-go dress shopping with the bride<br />-go shopping for bridesmaid dresses<br />-help craft/diy<br />-give a toast/do a reading<br />-make sure the bride looks good for photos (ie say if there is salad in her teeth)<br />-be the first on the dancefloor and get the crowd involved<br />-encourage guests to sign the guest book<br />-take gifts/cards or show people where to put them<br />J & Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01742343146586453088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-48927233379775100802013-02-11T19:38:19.465-08:002013-02-11T19:38:19.465-08:00Yes! Brilliant. Thank you.Yes! Brilliant. Thank you.BrigittaRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12432832543158028300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-157499289257955562013-02-11T19:07:06.400-08:002013-02-11T19:07:06.400-08:00haha! you will probably have the best shower ever....haha! you will probably have the best shower ever. please report back.Mary Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02465919515883858255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-77603098648410492042013-02-11T16:33:15.685-08:002013-02-11T16:33:15.685-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Mary Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02465919515883858255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-14498261161741598582013-02-11T12:31:17.780-08:002013-02-11T12:31:17.780-08:00My bridesmaids are a law student living 8 hours aw...My bridesmaids are a law student living 8 hours away, a full-time undergrad who also works 30 hours/week, and a 15-year old. Basically all I'm asking of them is to show up, clothed, on the day of the wedding.<br /><br />Somehow the 15-year-old got tasked with planning a shower for me. I will be very interested to see how this turns out.Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01224595637975166605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-67189077660545281562013-02-11T10:06:25.064-08:002013-02-11T10:06:25.064-08:00I've also tended day-of issues, ideally before...I've also tended day-of issues, ideally before the bride even gets wind of them. If you see the centerpieces and know she'll freak, don't tell her. Just deal with it before she gets the chance to shit her pants. <br /><br />All brides have expected me to craft with them. I'm not saying it's reasonable, but I am saying I've had to do it multiple times now.Stefaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08958223492982103934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-21327584880881287362013-02-11T09:15:50.010-08:002013-02-11T09:15:50.010-08:00I don't think this is really a 'bridesmaid...I don't think this is really a 'bridesmaid duty' so much as the reason you're a bridesmaid in the first place. You can't mandate someone be a good friend, only pick people who don't suck.christinarosettihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11099699053136429935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-81518089615818339512013-02-11T09:14:02.119-08:002013-02-11T09:14:02.119-08:00As a maid of honor who is currently driving hersel...As a maid of honor who is currently driving herself nuts with everything she is meant to do, this accurate list made me very jealous of the bridesmaids I am playing mother hen to, haha.<br /><br />Kate<br /><br />www.thrillofthechaise.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-16192088532388466462013-02-11T09:10:14.396-08:002013-02-11T09:10:14.396-08:00Help bride pee if she's wearing a crazytown dr...Help bride pee if she's wearing a crazytown dress. Run interference with any annoying persons (like if the bride has a crazytown mom).Hillary Schusterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03874750431495369292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-35441014110604614782013-02-11T09:03:30.799-08:002013-02-11T09:03:30.799-08:00Be somewhat interested in the bride's planning...Be somewhat interested in the bride's planning process. Like maybe once, say how's wedding planning going? Stefaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09701142652815164446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-50876918641019542242013-02-11T08:45:48.178-08:002013-02-11T08:45:48.178-08:00We were mushy so you didn't have to be, ESB.We were mushy so you didn't have to be, ESB.Shirihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07536774062044836025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-27321238565357544442013-02-11T08:45:32.767-08:002013-02-11T08:45:32.767-08:00I agree with erinwdesign, but I'd phrase it as...I agree with erinwdesign, but I'd phrase it as: be her friend the whole time, i.e. tell her when she's being an ass but also be there for her and love her - as or more important than the other duties.Shirihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07536774062044836025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-69453225773863229912013-02-11T08:26:42.512-08:002013-02-11T08:26:42.512-08:00I would just add one more:
3. Provide some emotio...I would just add one more:<br /><br />3. Provide some emotional support for the bride. <br /><br />The way I see it, that's really why the bridesmaids are there, so that when the bride freaks out about something stupid, there's someone to check her sanity and remind her it's all going to be ok, and no she should definitely walk down that aisle.erinwdesignhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18224660685274609558noreply@blogger.com