tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post4399845848883023286..comments2023-11-04T00:52:56.076-07:00Comments on east side bride: Here's a new one: Do I HAVE to have bridesmaids?esbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-92223937196904570232012-06-13T17:11:04.824-07:002012-06-13T17:11:04.824-07:00I had my brother stand up for me and my husband ha...I had my brother stand up for me and my husband had his do the same. Worked out beautifully. Keep it simple, you'll be happier.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-53281146185500607882012-06-13T10:52:19.601-07:002012-06-13T10:52:19.601-07:00I didn't have any! No bridesmaids = NO DRAMA!...I didn't have any! No bridesmaids = NO DRAMA! Well, very little drama :) You will have to deal with confused looks from time to time and one of your aunts asking you every other week if you have changed your mind "yet" about whether or not to have them.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10966437493381948762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-66896887027263238282012-06-13T09:54:57.175-07:002012-06-13T09:54:57.175-07:00I just got married this past Saturday without brid...I just got married this past Saturday without bridesmaids and it worked out beautifully. I had 3 close friends who helped out a lot, but without the matchy-matchy dresses and silver strappy sandals. We had 40-50 people (close friends and family only) at a flower farm with the reception in the barn.<br /><br />I am SO glad I went without bridesmaids. It was easier to plan, and I really loved that they were all had their own style on the day. Plus, it cut down on posed photo time so we could spend more time hanging out with guests. It was ridiculous fun! Good luck and enjoy yourself!Ruthannnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-21884382710284217502012-06-08T19:38:48.514-07:002012-06-08T19:38:48.514-07:00We didn't have a bridal party. We chose to hon...We didn't have a bridal party. We chose to honor people who we were close to in other ways: painting art to decorate the church, doing readings, lighting candles, etc. I asked a group of my best girlfriends to get ready with me, which was a blast. We did have our siblings walk down the aisle together & light candles. Our parents escorted each of us down the aisle. It worked out great.Emily SWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05987184147935636439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-31981004272100394072012-06-08T12:36:22.317-07:002012-06-08T12:36:22.317-07:00Yeah, I didn't have any bridesmaids. And I don...Yeah, I didn't have any bridesmaids. And I don't regret it one bit. And also, the sky didn't fall in, NO ONE NOTICED!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-27808285400134110362012-06-08T12:30:35.260-07:002012-06-08T12:30:35.260-07:00Aren't those things still kind of, you know, b...Aren't those things still kind of, you know, bridesmaids???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-47849538742041868002012-06-08T09:15:03.675-07:002012-06-08T09:15:03.675-07:00"godfather" and "godmother" ar..."godfather" and "godmother" are for when a kid gets baptized. It has nothing to do with a wedding ceremony. All you need are two witnesses just like a wedding at a courthouse.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-84873397168133014162012-06-08T08:06:31.880-07:002012-06-08T08:06:31.880-07:00I've got 5 girls standing up with me, and my p...I've got 5 girls standing up with me, and my partner has only asked his brother to be his best man. He hasn't decided yet whether he wants groomsmen, and I say - hey ho, whatevs. If he has them, cool. If he doesn't then his bro gets to walk down the aisle with a posse of ladies ;)<br /><br />Point being: anything goes! do what works for you. none, some, loads.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-75420094159467489942012-06-08T01:14:39.305-07:002012-06-08T01:14:39.305-07:00I wish there were no bridesmaids or groomsmen ever...I wish there were no bridesmaids or groomsmen ever.<br /><br />I'd rather just see the couple being married instead of being distracted by a crowd of extraneous people standing there.<br /><br />Guess I'm weird.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-87060028748358831222012-06-08T00:44:14.432-07:002012-06-08T00:44:14.432-07:00Crikey. I didn't get my copy of the 'big ...Crikey. I didn't get my copy of the 'big book of wedding laws to be obeyed on pain of death' when I got engaged. I wonder how many of them I actually broke?!Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18374391255618929947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-38287781419581447062012-06-07T21:21:03.491-07:002012-06-07T21:21:03.491-07:00My favourite part of this email was the moment I r...My favourite part of this email was the moment I realised ESB brain imploded. Willy-nilly, indeed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-31532021427817740162012-06-07T17:44:14.901-07:002012-06-07T17:44:14.901-07:00My aunt only had her sister as a maid of honour, a...My aunt only had her sister as a maid of honour, and some of my younger cousins as flower girls. I did not find it weird that she didn't have bridesmaids. Do whatever you want!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-79630200478737508422012-06-07T17:37:20.417-07:002012-06-07T17:37:20.417-07:00god i hope notgod i hope notesbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-48590321203527236042012-06-07T17:21:14.625-07:002012-06-07T17:21:14.625-07:00Has ESB already solved all wedding related dilemma...Has ESB already solved all wedding related dilemmas :/?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-65394965608286863342012-06-07T16:54:02.025-07:002012-06-07T16:54:02.025-07:00why do people think they HAVE to have anything for...why do people think they HAVE to have anything for their wedding? There are no rules to these things (though you should make sure your fiance and celebrant/priest is there, that sort of makes the wedding legit) so so what you like for the day.<br />i didn't have bridesmaids and i have no regrets about it as one of my best friends and my sister were there to get ready with me and that's all i wanted.<br />don't want them? don't have them!SJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11638931178712128465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-1636564449387540842012-06-07T15:25:40.150-07:002012-06-07T15:25:40.150-07:00maybe they want their own blog post.maybe they want their own blog post.Asiyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18122345875026981510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-42849515477477116912012-06-07T14:58:00.067-07:002012-06-07T14:58:00.067-07:00yep. I asked my two best friends to stand by me an...yep. I asked my two best friends to stand by me and wear what they felt pretty in. I refused to give them titles as it's always felt a little silly to me, but whatever floats your boat!calliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17057403461742497225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-37070197256770588882012-06-07T14:10:41.498-07:002012-06-07T14:10:41.498-07:00How is this even an issue for people? Geez, don&#...How is this even an issue for people? Geez, don't do bridesmaids...NEXT!Mary Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02465919515883858255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-62485410197199229702012-06-07T13:56:40.796-07:002012-06-07T13:56:40.796-07:00what up Stefanie who spells her name properlywhat up Stefanie who spells her name properlyAlso Stefaniehttp://www.milk-shed.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-1683141932257966312012-06-07T13:55:30.718-07:002012-06-07T13:55:30.718-07:00Agree about the awful time. My former best friend ...Agree about the awful time. My former best friend became such a tyrant during her wedding planning that it eventually ruined our friendship. I've since been a bridesmaid in two family weddings and those ladies were MUCH more reasonable, but it's still just a lot 'o work. <br /><br />I know I won't have bridesmaids, if I even have a wedding, that is. My close female friends and family have already thrown the, "you still should let us plan a shower, party and/or bachelorette." You can involve your close people without burdening them with the bridesmaid role.<br /><br />And yeah, I know, being a bridesmaid is an honor, not a burden. But remember that perspective has everything to do with experience. My experience = omg no bridesmaids ever, no waystefhttp://www.milk-shed.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-67257440542452768922012-06-07T13:40:45.703-07:002012-06-07T13:40:45.703-07:00We didn't have a wedding party. A couple of my...We didn't have a wedding party. A couple of my most special ladies provided a lot of help though and I gave them thank you gifts and a shout out during the reception speeches, as well as my ongoing love and adoration of course. I will say my twin sis was kind of bummed that she didn't get to be the matron of honor (I was her MoH) so I dunno, maybe I would do it differently next time?Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09764007513463436372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-9903197142624927392012-06-07T12:43:01.687-07:002012-06-07T12:43:01.687-07:00I think having bridesmaids is about honoring your ...I think having bridesmaids is about honoring your nearest and dearest and being able to spend lots of time close to them during the planning and especially on the day of the ceremony. I've always thought that I'd only want a couple girls up there with me as not to have one of those excessive and extravagant weddings, but I'm starting to realize that I want to include all my closest friends, because they'll be such a crucial part of setting the tone for that day and making fabulous memories. You don't have to make them do things for you, you can just enjoy their presence.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-54758697079036785002012-06-07T12:25:34.144-07:002012-06-07T12:25:34.144-07:00Sounds like some brides still follow the Biblical ...Sounds like some brides still follow the Biblical bridesmaid tradition and turn their maids into servants or slaves. Don't do it!Alycianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-10367506219361516522012-06-07T12:24:33.438-07:002012-06-07T12:24:33.438-07:00From good old Wikipedia!
Origin and history
The W...From good old Wikipedia!<br />Origin and history<br /><br />The Western bridesmaid tradition is thought to have originated from Roman Law, which required ten witnesses at a wedding in order to outsmart evil spirits (believed to attend marriage ceremonies) by dressing in identical clothing to the bride and groom, so that the evil spirits would not know who was getting married. Even as late as 19th century England, there was a belief that ill-wishers could administer curses and taint the wedding. In Victorian wedding photographs, for example, the bride and groom are frequently dressed in the same fashion as other members of the bridal party.<br /><br />Other people cite the Biblical story of Jacob, and his two wives Leah and Rachel, who both literally came with their own maids as detailed in the Book of Genesis (29:24, 46:18) as the origin of bridesmaids. These women were handmaidens (servants or slaves) instead of social peers.Alycianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-77638251207383063152012-06-07T12:04:05.604-07:002012-06-07T12:04:05.604-07:00Bridesmaids do not come from the catholic ceremony...Bridesmaids do not come from the catholic ceremony. Spain is a catholic country and there were never traditionally bridesmaids or groomsmen, so it must come from some other place or ritual.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com