tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post3670682572476297450..comments2024-03-24T23:51:25.945-07:00Comments on east side bride: Ye Olde Seating Chart Dilemmaesbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-21040154177810378222011-11-21T13:46:56.441-08:002011-11-21T13:46:56.441-08:00@eastsidebride even better than Martha Stewart'...@eastsidebride even better than Martha Stewart's charts... paper pie plates and tiny post it notes then you can easily move people and whole tables around. Give tables a number and draw up the final chart once all the hassles are sorted.Kathryn Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04016056763489482040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-1687542503635828352011-11-17T08:09:43.678-08:002011-11-17T08:09:43.678-08:00Wow! Thank you all for chiming in. I'm totally...Wow! Thank you all for chiming in. I'm totally on board with the seating chart. But for some reason, this is the single issue so far in our planning that FH has decided to have a strong opinion about. He's really against it. I've told him I'm going to make a seating chart, just so he sees it's possible and not really that bad, and we'll take it from there. It helps to have so much back-up from you guys, too! Thanks again.Question-Askernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-79416928259761753152011-11-17T01:27:52.101-08:002011-11-17T01:27:52.101-08:00I had a very similar wedding - about 50 people, di...I had a very similar wedding - about 50 people, divorced parents (luckily not acrimonious, but still), and a casual vibe. I did a table plan where everyone was assigned to a table, but let everyone figure out their individual seats within the table. It worked out really well and saved the guests a lot of confusion and hassle. <br /><br />To me, having some kind of seating organisation is just plain old courtesy for your guests - it shows that you've tried to make their day as easy as possible without them having to do the awkward high school cafeteria dance. Nobody likes uncertainty in a crowd.Ghanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04610010494608749009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-29531645196635287682011-11-16T20:52:07.381-08:002011-11-16T20:52:07.381-08:00My cousin's 50 person wedding did not have a s...My cousin's 50 person wedding did not have a seating chart. I was one of two bridesmaids, but somehow my husband and I ended up at a table with the aunt and great aunts of my cousin's wife. The bridal party was at another table with a bunch of my cousins non-wedding party friends. We were bored out of our minds. And I know it's petty, but I felt left out and was very hurt that I wasn't sitting with the bridal party.<br /><br />So to every bride out there - I don't care if your wedding is 250 or 25. Please make a seating chart.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-62765438534286105072011-11-16T17:36:06.398-08:002011-11-16T17:36:06.398-08:00Seating charts are not just for keeping parents wh...Seating charts are not just for keeping parents who hate each other apart or introverts from freaking out. Seating charts are also for keeping your friends (like me) who invariably get too shitfaced and curse like sailors on occasion away from your great aunts and uncles and grandmas and whatnot. I'm not saying I can't put on a nice face for your relatives, but it's so much better when you're not stuck at a half-college friends, half-ancient relatives table because it was the only one left. Everyone loses.Rachellehttp://stephenandrachelle.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-50326791474964616252011-11-16T16:37:29.748-08:002011-11-16T16:37:29.748-08:00I was in the same situation with my own wedding th...I was in the same situation with my own wedding this past summer. My in-laws hadn't been in the same room with my husband for more than two minutes in TWENTY YEARS. So I feel your pain. Anyway, what we did was we assigned them to tables, just not chairs. That way you avoid drama but it's not too fussy (and you save money by not printing name cards). You know people are going to have their preferences anyway - "I don't want my back facing the room", "I want to face the dance floor", "I get cold easily and hate sitting next to air vents", etc, etc... so you give them confined freedom - tell them the table, let them choose the seat. Crisis averted! Best of luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-75858031638316129672011-11-16T13:42:55.759-08:002011-11-16T13:42:55.759-08:00Do you guys never look at MARTHA STEWART WEDDINGS?...Do you guys never look at <a href="http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/227360/seating-chart" rel="nofollow">MARTHA STEWART WEDDINGS?</a> Gah.east side bridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06206689296805893265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-27122552731098280872011-11-16T13:40:57.165-08:002011-11-16T13:40:57.165-08:00@anotherringcoming TINY POST-IT NOTES@anotherringcoming TINY POST-IT NOTESeast side bridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06206689296805893265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-38919153020667518412011-11-16T13:39:34.972-08:002011-11-16T13:39:34.972-08:00Do a seating chart, but as someone who has just co...Do a seating chart, but as someone who has just come out of a night of seating-chart-making HELL, be warned. There will be fights and do it in pencil first.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-4513886233272166192011-11-16T13:08:27.159-08:002011-11-16T13:08:27.159-08:00For the love of god, make a seating chart! The onl...For the love of god, make a seating chart! The only people who don't like seating charts are the ones who are going to be talking to EVERYONE they can buttonhole at the wedding anyways. <br /><br />We made a (seat by seat, not just by table) seating chart for 140 people with three divorced families. It was a huge pain, but so worth it not to see some poor guest marooned alone somewhere and feeling awkward.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06819528155575569595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-86012702836635443822011-11-16T13:02:50.505-08:002011-11-16T13:02:50.505-08:00Seating chart. All the way. Slightly harder on you...Seating chart. All the way. Slightly harder on you now, but easier on your guests which means easier on you when it really matters (the day of the wedding).<br /><br />To the people like "But I want to sit by so and so..." I think we can all make small talk during a meal. And if there's dancing? People will meander after the food is done anyway.chesapeakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09641371045919531080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-23999942340965032112011-11-16T12:55:15.004-08:002011-11-16T12:55:15.004-08:00Seating chart is key. And be aware, it will suck ...Seating chart is key. And be aware, it will suck making it. But all good things require perseverance, right??<br /><br />If you only have parents--or two sides--that don't get along then its not as big of a risk. But your family sounds like mine, beef in many forms. For me, it took all night and half a box o'wine but it was totally worth having a day that was about my marriage and not my family members' insecurities.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-47940833309322265742011-11-16T12:30:53.586-08:002011-11-16T12:30:53.586-08:00I guess I'm mostly confused how brides LET any...I guess I'm mostly confused how brides LET anyone not RSVP - I hunted those bitches down.<br /><br />@Kelsi - oh, I totally understand the people who presume they can come or bring an uninvited guest.Hillary Schusterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03874750431495369292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-34681293732594405752011-11-16T12:06:40.597-08:002011-11-16T12:06:40.597-08:00all i've learned today is I'd like my seat...all i've learned today is I'd like my seat next to Lauren O's momma.H.H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16448982070532862844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-79348644193735430992011-11-16T12:05:35.675-08:002011-11-16T12:05:35.675-08:00Seating chart fer sher. We did one for our 75 pers...Seating chart fer sher. We did one for our 75 person food truck divorced fam bash, and even though I had to redo mine the morning of the wedding and there were people who didn't come and some who did that didn't RSVP (Hillary? It so happens, at many weddings I've been to not just mine)I can't imagine how much more chaotic it would have been with 75 people asking where to sit instead of just the 5 or so who didn't get an assignment. Plus the making the escort cards was way fun.Jennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-11978370626945214192011-11-16T11:34:52.978-08:002011-11-16T11:34:52.978-08:00I've never put together a wedding. I've be...I've never put together a wedding. I've been in several and a guest at many.<br /><br />SEATING CHART<br /><br />Unless you want me to feel awkward over here while you have a table for 8 with 13 people packed around it.<br /><br />And don't give the tables numbers. Table 1 sounds so dull. Now, Table Spain or Table Vuvuzela sounds like a good time.Robhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06761422201906206218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-19295156036386870052011-11-16T11:10:39.056-08:002011-11-16T11:10:39.056-08:00I was a planning psycho... not a bridezilla demand...I was a planning psycho... not a bridezilla demanding more diamonds in my 13 tier cake. But just organized to the MAX. I loved my seating chart as a visual repesentation of my guests (ie. RSVP, food choice, date/child, etc). Plus, I got to make a pretty version for the reception. But if youre not warped like me, and its a buffet, you dont need to do it if you dont want to. It also takes the pressure off you to keep everyone apart, they'll just have to act like civilized adults at their daughters effing wedding.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-25464699301939083062011-11-16T11:06:02.961-08:002011-11-16T11:06:02.961-08:00I didn't have a chart, but did have two sets o...I didn't have a chart, but did have two sets of divorced parents who hate each other. I really wish I had opted to seat people! Thankfully my friends were sterling and jumped in to avoid issues and separate them. No drama, just tension and some poor friends stuck out on their own with my Dad and crazy grandma.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-8883257733176015022011-11-16T10:34:19.281-08:002011-11-16T10:34:19.281-08:00Yes, have a seating chart. It helps your introvert...Yes, have a seating chart. It helps your introverts and prevents the "high school cafeteria rush for the best tables" syndrome. Bonus: it helps regulate the number of people swarming the buffet. If people are seated, the caterers can call each table up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-70225943125982759652011-11-16T09:47:13.496-08:002011-11-16T09:47:13.496-08:00@ Hillary: We had at least 3 uninvited guests show...@ Hillary: We had at least 3 uninvited guests show up (two acquaintences that came with actual friends--one wrote on the RSVP card of his housemate, "can I come too?"--and my aging uncle's new girlfriend, he wrote her into the RSVP card as well.). It happens. Some people don't know what's up.Kelsinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-34320263980034331672011-11-16T09:46:28.992-08:002011-11-16T09:46:28.992-08:00Seating chart all the way!!!!Seating chart all the way!!!!p e r s i a n m o n ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07013378083337121420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-55211637909679761412011-11-16T09:40:58.999-08:002011-11-16T09:40:58.999-08:00I vote seating chart, and I'm pretty extrovert...I vote seating chart, and I'm pretty extroverted. (Seating charts aren't just for introverts.) Don't worry about necessarily assigning specific seats; just put groups at tables.Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17468276901563947172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-26772121299431265352011-11-16T09:26:09.739-08:002011-11-16T09:26:09.739-08:00Just do it. 50 people is enough to get shit confus...Just do it. 50 people is enough to get shit confused.<br /><br />We got started by grouping people into their social circles, figuring out the difficult ones, and shifting it around until it's right. You should probably start by separating the Sharks from the Jets and working everything around that. It took us about 30 minutes for 100 people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-68901395111908463082011-11-16T09:25:33.767-08:002011-11-16T09:25:33.767-08:00you always select the best photos.
i'm a fan ...you always select the best photos.<br /><br />i'm a fan of seating charts.wool and mischttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14236788626234431666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-28561780778424570092011-11-16T09:09:34.455-08:002011-11-16T09:09:34.455-08:00have a seating chart. i once was at a wedding wher...have a seating chart. i once was at a wedding where the only open seat was at the table with my dad's sisters and my mom tried to sit there but they didn't make room... sad scene straight out of high school. made my heart break, even though my mom was super cool and classy about the whole situation.<br /><br />for nice people like my mom, and b*tches like my aunts, make a seating chart.Sarah S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05767639316256201013noreply@blogger.com