tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post3034082505375320280..comments2024-03-24T23:51:25.945-07:00Comments on east side bride: he thinks a $14 meat pounder is an appropriate gift?!esbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-61756084675888992242010-11-05T10:30:05.344-07:002010-11-05T10:30:05.344-07:00I think the ex's choice of gift is hilarious, ...I think the ex's choice of gift is hilarious, and you and your new husband can enjoy a good laugh every time you take it out, think of him, and pound some meat. <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-1909364510919130052010-10-09T02:10:13.400-07:002010-10-09T02:10:13.400-07:00I get the feeling this is more about his behavior ...I get the feeling this is more about his behavior than the fact that the gift was $14. AND the fact that he had the audacity to bring a guest when he wasn't invited to bring a guest.<br /><br />A meat pounder? That's just fucking inconsiderate. I mean a painting would have been better, like she said, and that's free. Besides the materials he already has.Medusanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-31036675396206982172010-10-06T13:44:24.325-07:002010-10-06T13:44:24.325-07:00My favorite wedding gift was a container of Play-d...My favorite wedding gift was a container of Play-doh. It was an inside joke from an old friend. That's all they got me but it made my day and is a reminder of all the funny, stupid, only-we-would-laugh-at-this moments we have shared together. Good gifts are about the thought that goes into them, not the price tag. <br /><br />I'm sorry this guy made you feel bad, but forget about him and dwell on all the happy things about your upcoming wedding. I promise this will seem like a distant memory once the wedding is over. I freaked out about a couple really lame little things right before my wedding, too. It was the stress talking. Looking back I can't believe I even cared about any of that stuff- they were all such silly little details compared to the big picture. Congrats, have fun, and try to relax!Toniahttp://www.ittybittyimpact.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-83692210187222496862010-10-05T18:05:47.790-07:002010-10-05T18:05:47.790-07:00totally late on this. sorry, dudes.
no, not ob...totally late on this. sorry, dudes. <br /><br />no, not obligated to get a gift. but truth time: i would be irritated, too, but i would NEVER EVER EVER SAY ANYTHING ABOUT IT. EVER.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-78176730827047436962010-10-05T11:08:50.771-07:002010-10-05T11:08:50.771-07:00holy shit you wrote THAT MUCH about a gift? damn r...holy shit you wrote THAT MUCH about a gift? damn right you sound petty. i think you need to take a day off and go do some charity work, realize there are way more important things to worry about. and don't you dare bring that up to him, he's NOT obligated to get you shit.H.H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16448982070532862844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-58118397370021712382010-10-04T22:40:30.956-07:002010-10-04T22:40:30.956-07:00I second ESB but also second the whole "back ...I second ESB but also second the whole "back the fuck off the bride" movement. I don't think you should be so mean to her... this is just a blog, not exactly some place to judge her so harshly. I'm only 21, so I'm far from being under bridal-stress, but I can just imagine how fucking annoying this must seem. Bright side is that the bride will forget about this douchy move while she's shoving cake down her gullet (like I know I will) with her significant other.Dominiquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01402702078333803876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-54530565099750798372010-10-04T17:19:30.461-07:002010-10-04T17:19:30.461-07:00I second the notion that perhaps the meat pounder ...I second the notion that perhaps the meat pounder will arrive with some other spectacular gift, but wouldn't be surprised if it didn't. Get this: Some guests will not give gifts. It just happens. Their mere presence is your gift, I guess.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12162110766373517916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-48546260074776394952010-10-04T08:37:24.879-07:002010-10-04T08:37:24.879-07:00My first thought: Everyone knows that dudes are AS...My first thought: Everyone knows that dudes are ASS at giving wedding presents. My second thought: Maybe the meat pounder will arrive with an amazing side of beef. My third thought: Someone gave me a meat pounder for a shower gift and it has been an AWESOME kitchen implement. You never know when you have to pound the shit out of something. <br /><br />Just write him a note and say, "Thanks for the husband tenderizer!"What Possessed Mehttp://www.whatpossessedme.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-43292205728142100242010-10-04T07:52:06.941-07:002010-10-04T07:52:06.941-07:00Everyone back the F off the poor girl. Srsly.
Don...Everyone back the F off the poor girl. Srsly.<br /><br />Don't act like your don't pout when a friend can't return the kindness and generosity you've given. This guy is being a total toolbag. For what it's worth - he might be giving the meat pounder in addition to something else, try not to judge too quickly. But if all the cheapo is giving is the $14 meat-pounder, that sucks. It does. It's rude and hurtful. But now you know. So smile, write a very nice thank you note, and then remember that the next time you get invited to a gift-giving function in his honor. <br /><br />And people seriously - yes gifts are expected at a wedding. And a gift can be anything - maybe something homemade, as long as it has some thought and meaning to it. A $14 meat pounder from the registry says - I'm lazy and cheap.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-5771525955205503182010-10-03T20:45:18.457-07:002010-10-03T20:45:18.457-07:00Geez, guys don't be so hard on her-she's j...Geez, guys don't be so hard on her-she's just verbalizing an unspoken social contract--"We throw large, expensive wedding with food, drinks, and dancing, and you (the guests) help set us up for our new life together." <br />I'm sorry to all you free-thinking, optional-gifters out there but a decent and thoughtful gift is PERFUNCTORY at a traditional wedding.<br />And what's so awful about knowing that a gift is expected of you? It's called being grown up and performing our social functions...we can't dispense with all of them you know.<br /><br />Of course, if they elope, ask you to bring food for the reception, or have some other non-traditional event, the gift may be more discretionary. <br />It's truly degenerate though for people to compare how much they spent "per head" to the cost of the gift received. <br />As in, I paid $300 for you attend my wedding and you bought me a $14 gift. <br />Your decision to overspend does NOT entitle you to a pricey gift from every (or ANY) guest.modernhaushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00908388619374692982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-372469323919976362010-10-03T17:44:27.387-07:002010-10-03T17:44:27.387-07:00Is this, like, a METAPHORICAL meat-pounder?Is this, like, a METAPHORICAL meat-pounder?Mousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12997875522614810785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-41070746063105636602010-10-03T13:39:48.696-07:002010-10-03T13:39:48.696-07:00Several people who are good friends who came to ou...Several people who are good friends who came to our wedding didn't bring presents but I'd rather they'd been there than brought a present.<br /><br />Maybe he thinks because you put it on your registry that you actually wanted it and therefore you would be pleased.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15452082852708707013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-41177678086854997302010-10-03T10:37:52.749-07:002010-10-03T10:37:52.749-07:00Short and to the point advice, but I couldn't ...Short and to the point advice, but I couldn't agree more, personally. All you can do is make a mental note to not spend $100 on him again.Lizzie [Ten Thou Bride]http://www.10000dollarwedding.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-56997052373803374612010-10-02T22:02:37.213-07:002010-10-02T22:02:37.213-07:00The majority of our wedding guests did not even wr...The majority of our wedding guests did not even write us a card, let alone give us a gift. We were sad, because we felt like they were saying "hey, we just wanted an excuse to chill in Vegas and wanted to drink free drinks all night, who cares that you got married?" Of course, now we have too much stuff, anyway. But one of my favorite gifts was from a friend who traveled far away and was low on cash. He got us a shot glass from the hotel/casino we had our wedding at. We were collecting shot glasses at the time, so that was an extra special addition. Long story short, it was about the thought, and not the amount. You put a lot of thought and effort into his wedding gift and don't feel that he did for yours. Perfectly valid feelings, it isn't really about the gift. It's about you feeling sad that perhaps you care more about him than he cares about you. Which, sadly could be the reality. Stop ragging on her so hard, ladies. Read between the lines.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-90855115245083396922010-10-02T21:44:25.855-07:002010-10-02T21:44:25.855-07:00However, if you're already feeling this negati...However, if you're already feeling this negative about it, you might want to return the meat pounder when you do get it. You shouldn't keep things in your house (or your marriage, as it is a wedding gift) that give you negative associations when you see them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-85542989302497502042010-10-02T18:33:57.399-07:002010-10-02T18:33:57.399-07:00WOW, lady... you might want to check yourself.WOW, lady... you might want to check yourself.Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05922091596290930281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-57664519612214281452010-10-02T13:47:07.257-07:002010-10-02T13:47:07.257-07:00My thoughts are that Gift giving should not be abo...My thoughts are that Gift giving should not be about keeping score or giving back as much or more as what was given. A gift is just that a gift given freely because the person wants to give. We should not have expectations of what we are given or expect anything in return for the gifts we give. But we should be appreciative of anything that a person is willing to give us.Clairehttp://www.momentsofelegance.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-64362502550274646512010-10-02T11:12:41.727-07:002010-10-02T11:12:41.727-07:00It makes me sad to know that people size up their ...It makes me sad to know that people size up their wedding gifts like this.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04063946647677566193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-81469406270274990852010-10-01T21:41:54.114-07:002010-10-01T21:41:54.114-07:00Oh, & PS: DONT GO TO WEDDINGS THAT YOU DONT RE...Oh, & PS: DONT GO TO WEDDINGS THAT YOU DONT REALLY WANT TO GO TO BECAUSE IF YOU DONT WANT TO GO THEY ARE PROBABLY JUST BEING NICE! Save the both of you some money & get yourself a pedi instead. Shit.Melissanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-90335901768520074982010-10-01T21:38:00.548-07:002010-10-01T21:38:00.548-07:00Why invite an ex? And if you say "Because he ...Why invite an ex? And if you say "Because he invited me," then you deserve the $14 meat pounder. By the way, I use my meat pounder like 3x a week. They f*cking rock for chicken breast. Duh.Melissanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-22173661636318911382010-10-01T17:49:49.666-07:002010-10-01T17:49:49.666-07:00get over it. this is why you aren't marrying ...get over it. this is why you aren't marrying him, and really, that's the true wedding gift in and of itself: the man you married isn't him.<br /><br />congrats!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-13050061252765402232010-10-01T17:43:25.613-07:002010-10-01T17:43:25.613-07:00ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME ?! !>!>!!>>...ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME ?! !>!>!!>>?!?!?!?! <br /><br />this letter is making me so angry i can't even see straight. the whole point of a wedding is you get to spend a precious few moments with the people you cherish most. people that you MAY NEVER SEE AGAIN FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. <br /><br />i am reminded of a very special friend of mine and his perfectly perfect wife. when they invited me to their wedding, i was straight out of college, BROKE AS SHIT (working as a catholic school teacher... you do the math) and these dear people invited me to their far-away wedding. i said that i would attend... with my on-again-off-again boyfriend... but we flaked out. because we were lame and barely had two nickels to rub together. <br /><br />ANYWAY. we sent them a saw. yes. a saw. a circular saw. <br /><br />and then he and his new wife sent me the most beautiful thank you note i've ever read. they were more concerned about me ... the fact that i couldn't make the journey ... than they were about the ridiculous gift i sent.<br /><br />i saw the light. that was the only wedding gift i've ever purchased. EVER. it seemed perfect for my friend (he's into tools and working with his hands). every other wedding gift i've ever thought of buying has felt like complete SHOPPING-FOR-OTHERS BULLSHIT.<br /><br />if you're that hung up about what you're friend owes you, take him onto motherfucking judge judy and settle it up once and for all. <br /><br />or grow the hell up.17 beats.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13010462456433196213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-12755228343201986182010-10-01T17:02:08.420-07:002010-10-01T17:02:08.420-07:00Yes, it sucks. No, don't make a comment about ...Yes, it sucks. No, don't make a comment about it. Instead you get to bitch/ laugh about for, like, ever. It is a Thing of Note amongst my friends that my father's engagement gift to me and my partner was to give us his newer, but used, washing machine which at the time he no longer wanted, then shortly afterwards take our older, more basic washing machine (which we planned to gift to friends in light of the weird gift from my dad) because else he didn't have one... which was a fair step down from the "I'll buy you a dishwasher if you pay for the installation," gift he originally announced...lupinbunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06476109926329778266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-39703428240565427552010-10-01T16:01:28.332-07:002010-10-01T16:01:28.332-07:00I understand why you're upset and I do think y...I understand why you're upset and I do think you're justified in feeling annoyed by your ex's thoughtlessness. Look on the bright side, I presume you're feeling quite good you aren't together any more.<br /><br />But there's no rule that says you have to buy from the registry - if you're weren't comfortable spending $100 you should've choosen a different gift or given money. While it obviously looms large in your mind as you spent beyond your comfort zone, he quite possibly recalls neither your gift nor the value of it, and it's hardly his fault that you spent so much. Still less so that you failed to include the contract which stipulated that you expected a return gift of equal or greater value upon your nuptuals. No wait, why would you send that? That would be crass, rude, bad manners. And a passive-aggressive "joke" would be just as rude. Is embarrassing your ex going to make you feel better or like a prize twat?<br /><br />Give presents for the pleasure in giving them, not to sit there entitled, starry-eyed and hands open for your return gift.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-9150488983752205332010-10-01T15:30:42.140-07:002010-10-01T15:30:42.140-07:00I don't really like the way you all seem to th...I don't really like the way you all seem to think that gifts are mandatory. They are just that, gifts. All the complaining about how some people never gave you anything etc seems kinda screwed up. They don't owe you a wedding present.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com