tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post3033350447945661137..comments2024-03-24T23:51:25.945-07:00Comments on east side bride: What do I wear to an Indian wedding?esbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-41357216762637029692014-04-01T15:38:17.462-07:002014-04-01T15:38:17.462-07:00The orange one over leggings is a much better bet ...The orange one over leggings is a much better bet by Indian modesty standards. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-77948876365542617022014-04-01T15:32:26.669-07:002014-04-01T15:32:26.669-07:00Another option if you want to go the non Indian ro...Another option if you want to go the non Indian route is a western dress over leggings. It will give you an Anarkali suit look, and works better than tights in case you need to take your shoes off. If you care what the older Indian family think, the neck line needs to be really high in front, but not in back and I've been told short sleeves are considered more formal than none. The rules and fashion do vary by family, and sub culture, so ask if you can. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-109639719878987002013-06-04T19:09:52.839-07:002013-06-04T19:09:52.839-07:00devi's closet (www.deviscloset.com) has beauti...devi's closet (www.deviscloset.com) has beautiful sarees with an amazing crew of stylists. I have used their services 4 times now and had the pieces sent directly to the wedding destination: puerto Rico, Texas, San Fran and Chicago! I have another wedding in Mexico as well and they are willing to ship internationally. Email them and they are super helpful. <br /><br />Kate Katehttp://www.deviscloset.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-89846932075669686752013-04-16T18:05:19.955-07:002013-04-16T18:05:19.955-07:00Hi All, thank for suggesting Borrow it Bindaas! We...Hi All, thank for suggesting Borrow it Bindaas! We at Borrow it Bindaas will personally help select and choose which colors to wear and not to wear and what styles will suit you! If you've ever wanted to wear a sari, this is your chance without overspending+we'll custom tailor to your size & send you draping instructions too! Please contact us at help@borrowitbindaas.com and we would be happy to help!ridhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14969465330986094957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-52234709449987279722013-04-02T14:10:41.320-07:002013-04-02T14:10:41.320-07:00As the non-indian bride of my upcoming multi-cultu...As the non-indian bride of my upcoming multi-cultural wedding, I would recommend asking the couple if you still have any doubt. I'm only wearing a sari for the hindu ceremony and planning on wearing western clothing for the christian ceremony and then rocking my gown for the rest of the reception. My guests will probably be wearing western clothing. Some guests and family members on the grooms side will be wearing indian clothing. Since there are multiple cultures at play, clothing will be a bit more fluid.<br />Since I'm having a second reception a few months later, I've been considering renting from Borrow it Bindaas or visiting Jackson Heights (in queens) for a lehenga choli if we don't get something from extended family in Kolkata. Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01034511484377871158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-2994213528074419872013-04-02T07:52:36.110-07:002013-04-02T07:52:36.110-07:00Hey! I can't find what you're talking abou...Hey! I can't find what you're talking about on their site but I'm guessing this means it's pre-pleated (and the pleats are sewn together) so you don't have to do any of the wrapping/draping yourself. If that's the case I think it could be a good option, although slightly risky if you're buying it online since it really should be tailored to your body. If you're near any kind of South Asian neighborhood and can go shopping there, plenty of places will actually do this for you if you ask when you're buying your sari, and they'll be able to customize it to your measurements.<br /><br />That said, I've never tried it and I think the lehenga or salwar route might be less risky. ALSO I tweeted this link out and heard from another Rent-the-Runway-like place that has really pretty stuff -- luxemi.com. Worth a browse!Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16886285288125682886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-28933295921369697642013-04-02T06:19:56.692-07:002013-04-02T06:19:56.692-07:00If they're incorporating both cultural traditi...If they're incorporating both cultural traditions then I think the bride is supposed to wear red. I was once told it's like wearing white to a Western wedding.christinarosettihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11099699053136429935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-64897091265102467012013-04-02T05:28:18.230-07:002013-04-02T05:28:18.230-07:00I'm the OP. Thanks, Anna, for your tips and t...I'm the OP. Thanks, Anna, for your tips and thanks everyone else for your input. I'm now feeling confident (and excited!) about shopping for a sari. I was looking at the Ustav Fashion website and they have something called a "faux sari." Would that be more manageable for a Western or is it just tacky? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-30056862294601489712013-04-02T02:24:13.501-07:002013-04-02T02:24:13.501-07:00Why stay away from red? I thought red was traditio...Why stay away from red? I thought red was traditionally symbolic of happiness in China. A recent chinese wedding that I filmed had all red flowers and decor.Jasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10534950163158742562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-8970215312093084782013-04-01T21:55:38.735-07:002013-04-01T21:55:38.735-07:00Definitely bright colours but if the bride's f...Definitely bright colours but if the bride's family is Chinese maybe stay away from red. Also, I would now like a reason to purchase a sari.christinarosettihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11099699053136429935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-29515769553875972712013-04-01T21:55:17.005-07:002013-04-01T21:55:17.005-07:00Go for a sari, like lots of people have already sa...Go for a sari, like lots of people have already said. You'll feel gorgeous. However, try to make sure you get your sari's blouse tailored perfectly well in advance. A beautiful sari with an ill fitting blouse is just wrong. (Like in Rachel getting married, ugh. Terrible terrible blouses.) <br /><br />I'd say go for a sari for one of the days and a salwar kameez for the other. With colourful bangles. <br /><br />(Indian from India here, hullo!)Punvatihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14741084542528379768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-62565867452936406292013-04-01T21:01:52.394-07:002013-04-01T21:01:52.394-07:00I (non-Indian) would also recommend wearing a sari...I (non-Indian) would also recommend wearing a sari. I wore a sari and a lehenga to an Indian wedding (which was a 3 day event) and the couple and their relatives were so appreciative of the effort. <br /><br />My friend, who wore a 'normal' dress, noted that she felt out of place (as all the guests but 2 people wore saris) and felt like she couldn't really get into the Bollywood dancing (which is super fun!).<br /><br />I also recommend getting someone to drape it for you though, otherwise it will feel like it's falling apart every time you exhale/walk/eat. Oh, and pile on the earrings and bangles!Rosahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16590663569286912828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-25997675220676767082013-04-01T19:55:52.900-07:002013-04-01T19:55:52.900-07:00emmaclaire, i have yet to have occasion to pee in ...emmaclaire, i have yet to have occasion to pee in a sari, but when i do i will salute you. wedding tip of the month.laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03429404210444847213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-84768731265062772272013-04-01T18:56:27.049-07:002013-04-01T18:56:27.049-07:00oh and peeing in sari's is easy if you grab th...oh and peeing in sari's is easy if you grab the petticoat (very bottom layer) and tuck it under your chin. all the other layers will just get scooped up like in a basket. emmaclairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434707541126696719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-76807324389902083572013-04-01T18:54:21.259-07:002013-04-01T18:54:21.259-07:00oops, i tried to fix a typo in my prior comment an...oops, i tried to fix a typo in my prior comment and ended up deleting it. here goes again. So i (non-indian) just got married to my indian-american man, in india, and i can say with total certainty that there is no one standard for indian (or sort of indian) weddings. <br /><br />i agree with what anna has said. i would just add - the best way to find out the vibe of the particular wedding you're going to is to ask the people getting married. I know it feels annoying but they are in the best position to tell you what will be appropriate for their event. for instance, it was important to me that all my friends coming to my wedding wore sari's for the wedding ceremony, so i took them sari shopping in queens (it helps being near a south asian community hub) before we went to india so that they would have something to wear. they all ended up buying saris and salwar kameez in india too, but they found occasions to wear them all since our wedding was spread over 3 days of events. <br /><br />also, there is an amazing online consignment shop that you could check out: http://www.didiswardrobe.com ... the photos aren't high quality but these are really lovely pieces from all over india - a lot more interesting/intricate/affordable than what I've seen in indian shops in the US.emmaclairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434707541126696719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-11596117248558549082013-04-01T18:37:23.953-07:002013-04-01T18:37:23.953-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.emmaclairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434707541126696719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-80768852114655217892013-04-01T15:43:33.091-07:002013-04-01T15:43:33.091-07:00All of this is making me really want to go to an I...All of this is making me really want to go to an Indian wedding... (No help at all. Just saying.)newkatinkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14338261202173819304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-40464967666652215352013-04-01T12:51:48.819-07:002013-04-01T12:51:48.819-07:00I also wore a bright yellow salwar kameez borrowed...I also wore a bright yellow salwar kameez borrowed from a friend to a (different friend's) Indian wedding, and it worked out great. It wasn't nearly as dressy as the saris the Indian ladies (and some of the non-Indian guests) were wearing, but it was comfortable and fit in with the general festive colors. I'm going to another Indian wedding this June, though, and might consider investing in a sari, because... pretty!elementarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14212705404765823715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-14480402875574381422013-04-01T12:22:33.496-07:002013-04-01T12:22:33.496-07:00I bought a salwar kameez to wear to a good friend&...I bought a salwar kameez to wear to a good friend's wedding last year. I took an Indian friend along to the store to help me (there are different levels of formality and I was a bit overwhelmed by all the choices), but I imagine if you were to go that route the shop staff would be happy to help you (and you can get it tailored exactly to your shape). If you look at a site like Utsav (utsavfashion.com) you can get a sense of what Indian wedding guest fashion is like and go from there.ichibanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04073108043795827441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-44090099076123305712013-04-01T11:21:01.015-07:002013-04-01T11:21:01.015-07:00Ahh, I am the least DIY-ey person ever, but they t...Ahh, I am the least DIY-ey person ever, but they turned out so flipping cute. They were also a HIT at the wedding -- not one of them got left behind. I want to try the fridge magnet thing!Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16886285288125682886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-70999047664462647282013-04-01T11:20:28.074-07:002013-04-01T11:20:28.074-07:00I like any post where we tell BHLDN to suck it. I like any post where we tell BHLDN to suck it. theRachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01171138894275948184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-40324957288689695192013-04-01T11:16:32.682-07:002013-04-01T11:16:32.682-07:00DOING THISDOING THISRachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10595494907833218390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-2781094371235671852013-04-01T11:12:10.743-07:002013-04-01T11:12:10.743-07:00Yep. They make pretty fun fridge magnets, especial...Yep. They make pretty fun fridge magnets, especially if you cut them in half and have a head and legs magnet and a butt and tail magnet. Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08110660730075773861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-67535674685350486652013-04-01T10:13:05.444-07:002013-04-01T10:13:05.444-07:00I might make some just to have around the house.I might make some just to have around the house.esbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-28126502519295203722013-04-01T10:09:57.942-07:002013-04-01T10:09:57.942-07:00YES. oh my god, the golden animals are incredible...YES. oh my god, the golden animals are incredible. 17 beats.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13010462456433196213noreply@blogger.com