tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post2284637932407307727..comments2024-03-24T23:51:25.945-07:00Comments on east side bride: football-obsessed boyfriend wants to skip my dad's birthday. Help.esbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00215882729011442570noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-31499051378783163622011-11-11T18:20:12.530-08:002011-11-11T18:20:12.530-08:00Whoa whoa whoa. Let's not go name calling yet....Whoa whoa whoa. Let's not go name calling yet.<br /><br />Do you live in the South? Football is a religion here. If it were me we would ditch my dad's bday for the Clemson vs. Carolina game. Or his mom's birthday. If you start ditching my birthday over the loss of the team you have another thing coming. I am not okay with that. (Although my now husband thoroughly fucked up my birthday when we were dating and he is actually amazing. Worse things could happen.)<br /><br />The deciding factor in the "husband material" debate is how excited you are about football. You love it, he loves it, it works. If you aren't excited about football and this is going to ruin your family functions, social calendar and potential wedding than yeah maybe you don't need to marry him. <br /><br />As far as your dad's bday goes... maybe you should have provided more notice, maybe he is being inconsiderate. There is a lot that can be read into the situation. I hope it goes well, and for your sake I hope his team wins!Ashley Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09930702268206088964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-54141885291185161692011-11-10T15:31:52.055-08:002011-11-10T15:31:52.055-08:00parham = heroparham = heroAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-1978445042764565992011-11-10T14:01:07.439-08:002011-11-10T14:01:07.439-08:00he is a turdhe is a turdp e r s i a n m o n ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07013378083337121420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-5835187430478445692011-11-10T13:17:58.170-08:002011-11-10T13:17:58.170-08:00Dump him. He sucks.Dump him. He sucks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-91128742470838105172011-11-10T07:44:55.474-08:002011-11-10T07:44:55.474-08:00@Anon 10:49 PM Can we be best friends? :) GO PACK!...@Anon 10:49 PM Can we be best friends? :) GO PACK!Toniahttp://www.ittybittyimpact.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-11109551014329268492011-11-10T07:01:28.230-08:002011-11-10T07:01:28.230-08:00gag, football. Your birthday thing is blowing my m...gag, football. Your birthday thing is blowing my mind. Honestly the obsession would be a dealbreaker for me. Find him a therapist.<br /><br /><br />And also, right on, Celia.H.H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16448982070532862844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-64208707124150893042011-11-10T07:01:09.800-08:002011-11-10T07:01:09.800-08:00RUN! RUN NOW!RUN! RUN NOW!Kareninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06216956152861247290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-3276674258248482352011-11-10T05:33:22.749-08:002011-11-10T05:33:22.749-08:00Will you also have to schedule the birth of your b...Will you also have to schedule the birth of your babies around his football games? ... or will he pout like a 2-year-old about that, too and blame you?<br /><br />This guy needs a life ... and you need to stop enabling such sophomoric behavior. Think 5, 10, 20 years down the road on this ... it may be okay now, but week in and week out forever?<br /><br />The performance of his team affects him so intensely that he can't take you to dinner?? Are you kidding me? What a big baby.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-16628966032220967682011-11-10T00:53:32.301-08:002011-11-10T00:53:32.301-08:00@missingabutton I've seen both Fever Pitch fil...@missingabutton I've seen both Fever Pitch films. Have to say I much preferred the remake with Jimmy Fallon (might be because it's the red sox....) !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-15768811581035161502011-11-09T22:49:01.771-08:002011-11-09T22:49:01.771-08:00Season Ticket Holders of GB Packers Tix - Hubby is...Season Ticket Holders of GB Packers Tix - Hubby is a huge fan - we gave up going to a game for our nephew's birthday.<br /><br />Family Events come before entertainment. Watching Football is entertainment. Anyone who blurs this line needs a serious "values" conversation.<br /><br />And honestly, I am a little taken aback that he didn't take you out for your birthday because he was upset about a loss... Come on now??? That doesn't sound like a guy anywhere close to being ready for marriage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-48254919371514742442011-11-09T22:46:15.502-08:002011-11-09T22:46:15.502-08:00Sorry no advice here, just can't stop drooling...Sorry no advice here, just can't stop drooling over that jacket/shrug/stole thingy in the picture. Totes gorge!Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01040185913128417005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-37615693521842001862011-11-09T21:54:42.506-08:002011-11-09T21:54:42.506-08:00Wasn't there a Colin Firth movie about this? O...Wasn't there a <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0119114/" rel="nofollow">Colin Firth</a> movie about this? Or was it <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0332047/" rel="nofollow">Jimmy Fallon</a>?<br /><br />(Or maybe I'm the only person who's seen both Fever Pitch movies.)missingabuttonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-83799328613944815412011-11-09T20:47:48.421-08:002011-11-09T20:47:48.421-08:00@Celia Word.@Celia Word.Kaitlyn Kochanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04786479100009809264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-7984401970349253552011-11-09T19:43:37.410-08:002011-11-09T19:43:37.410-08:00what i want to know is, who has SEX with this almo...what i want to know is, who has SEX with this almost-fiance of yours... you or his beloved football team? that, right there, should be his deciding factor.Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05922091596290930281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-52162405287131204572011-11-09T14:42:29.397-08:002011-11-09T14:42:29.397-08:00DUDE. Okay, I have no particular ill-will towards ...DUDE. Okay, I have no particular ill-will towards superfans of any flavour, but you need to have a conversation with your fancy gent. <br /><br />"My darling, I love that you love football, but it's starting to affect our relationship. I am going to go to my father's birthday party, and I expect you to come with me, smiling and full of good cheer. In the future, if there are no major life events like birthdays or celebrations on that day, you are fully blessed to go ahead and watch. But when game day and life days intersect, I expect you to attend to our life and leave the game behind for a few hours."Kaitlyn Kochanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04786479100009809264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-35496367924955364792011-11-09T14:24:59.217-08:002011-11-09T14:24:59.217-08:00My sister graduated the same weekend as my fiance&...My sister graduated the same weekend as my fiance's favorite city holiday. Many of our friends from across the country came into our city for this holiday, and we missed it to listen to graduation speeches and hang out with my parents in a podunk no fun college.<br /><br />There are always going to obligations, football or otherwise, and the mark of healthy communication is your ability to share what is important to you, and what you need from your partner. You need him to attend this bday dinner. I needed my fiance to attend my sis's graduation bc it validated him as a new part of my family, and just as integral as if she were his own sister. You need to be honest with him, acknowledge that this sucks, then ask him to attend. No checking scores (hello dvr), no making you overcompensate or feel bad because he's missing it. You in turn thank him and take into consideration that he is doing this FOR YOU. It's not about who's commitment is "better"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-20492063074298533032011-11-09T13:58:42.344-08:002011-11-09T13:58:42.344-08:00Yes, Lauren. Yes.Yes, Lauren. Yes.m.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17857990155134468958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-28670443155622946552011-11-09T12:05:15.125-08:002011-11-09T12:05:15.125-08:00in other news, football sucks.in other news, football sucks.laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03429404210444847213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-13177450712497788232011-11-09T11:57:29.376-08:002011-11-09T11:57:29.376-08:00OK, first off, the weeklong depression about a los...OK, first off, the weeklong depression about a loss is just silly. He shouldn't make you reschedule your birthday dinner.<br /><br />However, my husband and I are HUGE college football fans. We have season tickets and party with our friends at every game. We have both missed games in the recent past for weddings and grad school commitments. <br /><br />But the last homegame of the season is usually the rivalry game. It would be a big decision to go to a small dinner versus going to the rivalry game. Luckily, my FIL is also a huge fan of our team and would never dream of missing the game. So I understand why he's pouty. My hubby would be pouty too. I would also be pouty.Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03700010743456978432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-72933613581822703272011-11-09T11:05:30.399-08:002011-11-09T11:05:30.399-08:00This is why I'm so happy I married a nerd.
Te...This is why I'm so happy I married a nerd.<br /><br />Tell the dude it would be a slap in the face to you and your family to miss your dad's milestone birthday because it conflicts with the last home game of the season(???!!!). Period. Rob is right, there will be another last home game next year and for many years after. He can suck it up. And honestly, if he does pout about it or resent you for it I would definitely be wondering if this is the guy for me. <br /><br />Another thing to consider about the birthday thing: if the team had won instead, and you did go out to dinner would you be celebrating your birthday or the mother effing game?Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09392190512749045157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-9567158727560034832011-11-09T10:55:10.393-08:002011-11-09T10:55:10.393-08:00Interesting to note that he hasn't refused to ...Interesting to note that he hasn't refused to go or put up any kind of real fight yet we're all on here telling her to dump this guy STAT. At this point, all he's really done is pout and, seriously, who on here has never dated a guy who has pouted about a family obligation? That's not to say I am taking his side--just something to think about.<br /><br />Dearheart--assumimg that this guy has many good and endearing qualities and that, despite this seasonal jackassery, he loves you shows it, I think you really just need to be a bit more forthcoming in your opinions. It sounds like you're a bit too accomodating and, not to blame the victim, that you've set the precedent for allowing this behavior. I think you need to sit him down and lay down the law. Tell him that in the past, in your efforts to be a good sport, you've not been true to what you really want and that going forward you plan to be more honest about the things that are important to you. And then tell him that the party is on x date at x time and leave it at that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-5954679546957901822011-11-09T10:12:04.562-08:002011-11-09T10:12:04.562-08:00He sounds like a dick. My fiance is in 3 hockey po...He sounds like a dick. My fiance is in 3 hockey pools (plays on 2 teams), 2 football pools, 2 baseball pools and has seasons tickets to the local baseball team. We have never missed any kind of event for a game. Yes, on Sundays it is a struggle to convince him to get off the couch and step away from the beer, but he has been known to do laundry between quarters. :) (be jealous)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-308681659568131442011-11-09T09:52:58.166-08:002011-11-09T09:52:58.166-08:00Can't you DVR it? That's what I do.Can't you DVR it? That's what I do.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10966437493381948762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-46743273758468575182011-11-09T08:51:32.064-08:002011-11-09T08:51:32.064-08:00"we postponed my birthday dinner by a week be..."we postponed my birthday dinner by a week because he was so upset about a loss he didn’t feel like going out"<br /><br />DUDE. i dont even know what to say. guess you cant (eventually) get married in football season either!Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14167156568343112162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6468279200135971946.post-2218631853127483922011-11-09T08:47:38.506-08:002011-11-09T08:47:38.506-08:00What Rob said. And please ask him to not constantl...What Rob said. And please ask him to not constantly check scores on his phone under the table during the dinner. It's not the end of the world if he misses a game. Really. Even my husband understands that, and he's a college football fanatic as well (we're from Texas, so I know well the football obsession). And next year? Regardless of the game outcome? He's not making you put off celebrating your birthday. That is ridiculous. And insanely nice of you to deal with (whooo boy that would've been a big "you're going to have to just suck it up" conversation at our house).Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17468276901563947172noreply@blogger.com